DD’s team mates think DH is creepy

[Anonymous]

DD is on a school varsity team. It’s our first year so we come to all the games and some practices. There are a bunch of HS girls and a couple from middle school.

DD said her teammate was asking her about who is that creepy guy walking around staring at us and making eye contact. Another girl DD was playing with commented on DH with a phone that she thought he was taking a video of them.

To be 100% fair I was concerned a few months ago when we were talked about school at dinner and DH made comments like “this girl is always on her phone at car line” and “this girl looks like your friend, she has the same physique and hair length” basically revealing that he was paying very close attention to the eight graders in car line. I made a sarcastic comment that I’m surprised by his attention to these details since he can’t find rice in our pantry.

Then I found out he had been coming early to car line and sitting there waiting. I told him that people will notice that he comes early and stares at people and here we are.

He’s not a pedophile but is socially awkward. I don’t know what to think, but he does act differently that other dads at games. Other dads are on their phones and are barely paying attention to their own kids. What do you all think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is on a school varsity team. It’s our first year so we come to all the games and some practices. There are a bunch of HS girls and a couple from middle school.

DD said her teammate was asking her about who is that creepy guy walking around staring at us and making eye contact. Another girl DD was playing with commented on DH with a phone that she thought he was taking a video of them.

To be 100% fair I was concerned a few months ago when we were talked about school at dinner and DH made comments like “this girl is always on her phone at car line” and “this girl looks like your friend, she has the same physique and hair length” basically revealing that he was paying very close attention to the eight graders in car line. I made a sarcastic comment that I’m surprised by his attention to these details since he can’t find rice in our pantry.

Then I found out he had been coming early to car line and sitting there waiting. I told him that people will notice that he comes early and stares at people and here we are.

He’s not a pedophile but is socially awkward. I don’t know what to think, but he does act differently that other dads at games. Other dads are on their phones and are barely paying attention to their own kids. What do you all think?

Wow, what a bar to clear!

You don't have to be a pedophile to be a creepy perving on high schoolers. Your DH is a creep and needs to stop staring at, commenting on the bodies of, and filming high school girls.

[Anonymous]

He wasn’t filming them. That I know 100%. He was on a Zoom call.

It doesn’t help that girls think anyone who looks at them is a pedo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is on a school varsity team. It’s our first year so we come to all the games and some practices. There are a bunch of HS girls and a couple from middle school.

DD said her teammate was asking her about who is that creepy guy walking around staring at us and making eye contact. Another girl DD was playing with commented on DH with a phone that she thought he was taking a video of them.

To be 100% fair I was concerned a few months ago when we were talked about school at dinner and DH made comments like “this girl is always on her phone at car line” and “this girl looks like your friend, she has the same physique and hair length” basically revealing that he was paying very close attention to the eight graders in car line. I made a sarcastic comment that I’m surprised by his attention to these details since he can’t find rice in our pantry.

Then I found out he had been coming early to car line and sitting there waiting. I told him that people will notice that he comes early and stares at people and here we are.

He’s not a pedophile but is socially awkward. I don’t know what to think, but he does act differently that other dads at games. Other dads are on their phones and are barely paying attention to their own kids. What do you all think?

What are other parents doing, OP? I think as a family new to the team, I'd be looking to see what the norm is and try to follow that. If your DH's behavior is standing out enough that other girls are commenting to your daughter, he needs to step back from practices at the very least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He wasn’t filming them. That I know 100%. He was on a Zoom call.

It doesn’t help that girls think anyone who looks at them is a pedo.

Multiple girls have commented on his behavior. He's randomly been bringing up details about their behavior and their physiques in conversation for *months*. You can keep trying to throw out a "pedo" red herring, but you're just embarrassed that you brought his creepy and weird behavior for validation and people aren't telling you "sounds perfectly normal!"

[Anonymous]

Nothing he is doing or saying is wrong or raises a red flag. Let him be.

[Anonymous]

If this is true, for the sake of your DDs high school and team experience, I wouldn’t let him drop/pick up or attend practices any more.

[Anonymous]

Did you, or your DD, tell him what the other girls said. Time for some direct language. "You look like a creep. Stop it. One comment from on of those girls can ruin your life, your daughter's, and our family. Do not go to pick up line early. Do not go to practices. Stop it "

Also parents don't need to go to sport practices.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I told him about the comments. He was like “don’t they know who I’m. I was bringing water and food at the last tournament.” Then he said maybe it’s better if the sports is a girl thing meaning that DD and I should attend sporting events.

I told him to stop coming early to car line months ago.

[Anonymous]

Is it typical for parents to watch the high school practices? I’m glad he decided not to continue going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it typical for parents to watch the high school practices? I’m glad he decided not to continue going.

Well, not the entire practice, maybe the last 20-30 minutes at most. But we do come to all the games and travel to tournaments.

[Anonymous]

Why are any parents attending practices? That's super strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are any parents attending practices? That's super strange.

Because DD has never been in a varsity team before. She’s 12.

Many parents come to watch group lessons and private lessons. For fun.

[Anonymous]

Creepy dad is real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are any parents attending practices? That's super strange.

Because DD has never been in a varsity team before. She’s 12.

Many parents come to watch group lessons and private lessons. For fun.

What? Your DD is 12 and on a varsity team? I'm not understanding. So your DH is staring at girls older than your child?
I can't tell whether your DH is actually acting creepy or the girls are overly sensitive because it's a man looking at the practice. Would they react the same if it was you (a female) watching or if thy were boys?

The dads at DS's team practice stare at all the boys but no one seems to think it's weird.