Friend wants me to be a character witness in her custody case

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I think my friend is a great mom and is there for her child more than her soon to be ex ever has. However, her divorce has had too much drama and I feel like she keeps turning to me for support. I already missed a few days of work due to testifying against her STBX in a domestic violence case. Not to be rude, but I do have my own things going on and I just don’t want to physically be involved in this anymore.

Ok, then you are not really a friend to her. Hearings are extremely short and on video calls now. there is no drama there for you to testify and you can ask if a written testimony would suffice instead of appearance. Beside, court appearance is a legal UL ground in many companies thats paid for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I think my friend is a great mom and is there for her child more than her soon to be ex ever has. However, her divorce has had too much drama and I feel like she keeps turning to me for support. I already missed a few days of work due to testifying against her STBX in a domestic violence case. Not to be rude, but I do have my own things going on and I just don’t want to physically be involved in this anymore.

You’re a bad person

Yes - with friends like that you don't really need enemies.

[Anonymous]

OP doesn’t care that this person’s children are at risk of being in custody of an abuser. She just doesn’t want to be involved in the drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t care that this person’s children are at risk of being in custody of an abuser. She just doesn’t want to be involved in the drama.

Even worse, she just doesn’t want to miss a day of work. Can you imagine a little child being beaten and you could have prevented it by taking a day off work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I think my friend is a great mom and is there for her child more than her soon to be ex ever has. However, her divorce has had too much drama and I feel like she keeps turning to me for support. I already missed a few days of work due to testifying against her STBX in a domestic violence case. Not to be rude, but I do have my own things going on and I just don’t want to physically be involved in this anymore.

Wow, most people have many things going on, in your friend’s case she has A LOT like going through a divorce from a husband who physically abused her. This is more than just “drama”

It sounds like your mind is made up and you just want people to validate you! Geez the irony,

[Anonymous]

Sure, if you want the friendship to end. And if you’d be happy with the child going to the abusive ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would seriously question character of such a friend who refuses to confirm I am a good parent at custody hearing. All my friends offered it when I was divorcing!

+ 1000

I had a long list of friends and others who were ready to be character witnesses for me and who wrote affidavits for me.

[Anonymous]

Wow I think we have a rare DCUM consensus!

[Anonymous]

I sincerely hope you are a troll OP.

[Anonymous]

so do a deposition as to her qualities as a great parent. Done.

[Anonymous]

Wow what a selfish, self absorbed asshole you are, OP.

This is her life and her her child’s life, not “drama” as you put it. You can’t even muster an ounce of compassion to say what you know to be true. With friends like you, who needs enemies.

[Anonymous]

As long as she knows you’re going to answer truthfully, I would absolutely do this for a friend.

I would forget about occasional weed too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I think my friend is a great mom and is there for her child more than her soon to be ex ever has. However, her divorce has had too much drama and I feel like she keeps turning to me for support. I already missed a few days of work due to testifying against her STBX in a domestic violence case. Not to be rude, but I do have my own things going on and I just don’t want to physically be involved in this anymore.

This is so flippant and so dismissive of your friend's terrible situation. I hope you never have to go through something like this because it is a living nightmare. And if you do, I hope you don't have a "friend" like you do this to you. Awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I think my friend is a great mom and is there for her child more than her soon to be ex ever has. However, her divorce has had too much drama and I feel like she keeps turning to me for support. I already missed a few days of work due to testifying against her STBX in a domestic violence case. Not to be rude, but I do have my own things going on and I just don’t want to physically be involved in this anymore.

What in the world. This is an acute crisis, not an ongoing thing. Just do it and help your friend. Especially since it’s because of their child.

[Anonymous]

Years ago I had a friend ask me to speak against her husband in the custody case. She didn't ask me to speak for her as a character witness, but against him. She told me he was abusive to her and showed me bruises on her arm that she said he caused. I believed her, but I told her I could not testify that he was abusive because I had not personally observed it. Our friendship was never the same after that. Did I make the wrong decision?