DS Freaking Out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Sometimes it doesn’t feel good when other people have things you wish you could have.”

Actually, "it always sucks when you learn your friend has been lying to you for over a year about something you thought you were sharing in common."

[Anonymous]

I highly doubt it will get him any extra admittances. Just a waste of $$$ that’s embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Sometimes it doesn’t feel good when other people have things you wish you could have.”

So true. Welcome to it's not what you know but who you know matters more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe your son is a senior and doesn't have necessary critical thinking skills enough to see the perspective that some people will have more advantages than he does just like he'll have more advantages than some other people. I'm sure your son will get in somewhere. His attitude is what will determine whether or not he thrives and is successful there.

Worse, mom doesn't seem to have that perspective.

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I can’t believe you go to an outrageously expensive private school and are still posting this. You have done the same thing: purchased your privilege.

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Anonymous wrote:DS found out his best friend used an extremely expensive, exclusive college counselor. The kids both go to the same Big 3 but my kid used the counselors at school only. DS has gotten better grades and a better SAT score but they applied to a lot of the same schools. His friend told him his dad and the outside counselor have all these high up connections.

The mom emailed and apologized about her kid bragging to mine. He wasn’t supposed to say anything to anyone. This leads me to believe that what he said was probably true.

This is the world and sooner or later my kid is going to find out that money and connections help. But do they help so soon after the varsity blues scandal?

You better believe it. The reality is the other kid has a better shot than yours of getting into some of these schools. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Sometimes it doesn’t feel good when other people have things you wish you could have.”

Actually, "it always sucks when you learn your friend has been lying to you for over a year about something you thought you were sharing in common."

The OP didn’t mention anything about the friend lying.

[Anonymous]

I went to a "Big 3" - this is beyond pathetic on your part. I don't blame your son because you raised him to be this way. Get it together lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS found out his best friend used an extremely expensive, exclusive college counselor. The kids both go to the same Big 3 but my kid used the counselors at school only. DS has gotten better grades and a better SAT score but they applied to a lot of the same schools. His friend told him his dad and the outside counselor have all these high up connections.

The mom emailed and apologized about her kid bragging to mine. He wasn’t supposed to say anything to anyone. This leads me to believe that what he said was probably true.

This is the world and sooner or later my kid is going to find out that money and connections help. But do they help so soon after the varsity blues scandal?

Honestly, if you're DS is at a Big 3, he should know that people are using outside counselors and have major connections. Now your DS, in addition to the advantages of going to a Big 3, has access to people with connections. My DC is at a top NE boarding school and while there is a sense that certain students have big advantages, they also understand that this is the way the world works.

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I feel more proud of my kid who went to a plain old public school and was admitted to a top tier school on her own.
More chance for her to be successful in college and life.

[Anonymous]

Is some poor kid "freaking out" right now because he discovered that the rich kids in his class had SAT prep and could afford to take the test multiple times?

Your post seems very melodramatic. You kid will get into some schools and not get into others. Some rejections will be for reasons that he cannot figure out (like the mix of students they wanted in the incoming class or legacy advantage). Yes, this hits close to home, but the playing field is not dramatically different than it was a month ago.

I think he (and you) are just anxious at this point. It will be okay.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Explain to your son what college counseling looks like for his friends attending public schools.

Right? My son went to public school and his guidance counselor tried to tell him to apply only to Rutgers "although you probably won't get in." My son told her, "I hate New Jersey." She just shrugged and ushered him out of her office. That was the extent of his college counseling.

LOL, another public school parent. DC got no advice, submitted a list of schools needing transcripts. And that’s it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Sometimes it doesn’t feel good when other people have things you wish you could have.”

Actually, "it always sucks when you learn your friend has been lying to you for over a year about something you thought you were sharing in common."

The OP didn’t mention anything about the friend lying.

Come on. They applied to the same schools, they clearly talk about applying, and he never mentioned this. OP's kid just found out his friend has had a thumb on the scale all along. Lying by omission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel more proud of my kid who went to a plain old public school and was admitted to a top tier school on her own.
More chance for her to be successful in college and life.

You don't sound any better when you act this way either.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS found out his best friend used an extremely expensive, exclusive college counselor. The kids both go to the same Big 3 but my kid used the counselors at school only. DS has gotten better grades and a better SAT score but they applied to a lot of the same schools. His friend told him his dad and the outside counselor have all these high up connections.

The mom emailed and apologized about her kid bragging to mine. He wasn’t supposed to say anything to anyone. This leads me to believe that what he said was probably true.

This is the world and sooner or later my kid is going to find out that money and connections help. But do they help so soon after the varsity blues scandal?

Your kid goes to a big 3, money and connections will work in his favor more than again him.

+1. It’s a bit farcical for someone who sends their kid to a big 3 to complain about the benefits of connections and access.