DS Freaking Out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am OP and there may be some truth to DS feeling like he had the slight edge with higher grades and SAT and he felt like that had slipped away. We talked about that some and he said the friend asked him about his grades and test scores and he shared, so he “had all the information on the table.”

I pointed out how the friend didn’t have to tell him, especially because the parents asked him not to and maybe the friend wanted to tell him all along.

He seems calmer now.

As for applying to the same schools, many of the kids from their school did. The difference in their lists were in safety schools.

He’s processing it all and have been talking to his friend on discord, he said.

Truth is the other mom probably didn’t want you to know because they want everyone to think junior got in on his own without connections. There’s all this talk about “hooks” and “affirmative action.” Kids with wealthy, connected parents have always benefitted from that and their parents have tried to pretend it wasn’t a factor. That is why you get adults who are entitled or think they are smarter or more accomplished than they are. It’s like the toddler who thinks he actually beat you in a race because he doesn’t understand you rigged it for him to win. He thinks he’s won because he’s fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems like a troll because anyone who has been in private school for any length of time knows there are kids there who will get ahead because their parents have money and /or connections.

Honest question. Are there any kids in the Big 3 (or Big 10 or whathaveyou) whose parents don't have money and/or connections.

OP, your son needs perspective. He is certainly old enough to know that unless his parents are Jeff Freaking Bezos, there will always be someone out there with better resources than his parents do. Or that different people use their money and privilege differently. He's not some poor kid who is bound for a community college due to lack of resources.

If this were my kid, I would be wondering how I failed as a parent, that mine grew up with no awareness of his own privilege.

Yes. There are.

+1000. So sick of everyone’s assumptions about private school families. You don’t know us, our background, or what we do to send our DC to private. So just stop already!