Anyone have an affair and actually end up with that person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My aunt’s first husband left her for his AP when my aunt was 5 months pregnant. He never laid eyes on my cousin but has been married to the mistress for almost 50 years now and they have 5 kids together.

Wow! And people say they don’t cheat on their kids!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

Why do I suspect this was written by one of our bitter, cheated-upon ex-wives who feels compelled to rehash her talking points on every thread that mentions cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

No, I ended it when I realized he would not be leaving his wife. I do think he loved me but he loved his family more. He kept in touch and continued to tell me he loved me for many years after I ended the sex.

[Anonymous]

I have been with mine for 8 years. I have since divorced and he is in the process now. I don't want to count my chickens before they hatch but I'm hopeful things will work out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

Why do I suspect this was written by one of our bitter, cheated-upon ex-wives who feels compelled to rehash her talking points on every thread that mentions cheating?

I have a penis. So, no. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

Why do I suspect this was written by one of our bitter, cheated-upon ex-wives who feels compelled to rehash her talking points on every thread that mentions cheating?

I feel like it’s written by a friend of the OW who told her over and over and over it was not love, he was a con man and then had to pick up the pieces when he callously moved on.

You know it’s not only “bitter wives” that are sick of this sh!t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

No, I ended it when I realized he would not be leaving his wife. I do think he loved me but he loved his family more. He kept in touch and continued to tell me he loved me for many years after I ended the sex.

Why did you end the sex? Were you married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

Why do I suspect this was written by one of our bitter, cheated-upon ex-wives who feels compelled to rehash her talking points on every thread that mentions cheating?

I feel like it’s written by a friend of the OW who told her over and over and over it was not love, he was a con man and then had to pick up the pieces when he callously moved on.

You know it’s not only “bitter wives” that are sick of this sh!t.

I hear ya! They will not listen to reason!!!

[Anonymous]

My DH left his ex-wife for me. I was already separated. They had talked about divorce but hadn’t separated yet. We have been married for 22years. She still hates me. If I could do it over again, I would wait until both divorces were final. The marriages were over, but the drama and pain we caused by getting together before the divorces were final was not worth it. We could have waited six months. But we didn’t.

[Anonymous]

my sil married him 25 years later divorce and boy was it ugly. Day one he had someone else, he can not be alone apparently. Married 3 times

My mothers cousin married 5 times. Married all her AP's.

[Anonymous]

I know two couples who where actively having affairs but then suddenly their spouses died so fairly quickly got married, conveniently to AP. Both sets are now in their 70s - married for decades and seem happy.

Now a contemporary/DH childhood friend married right out of college. Married for maybe 5 years, no children. He was having multiple affairs but ended up marrying his “office wife.”
This couple has been married for 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

No, I ended it when I realized he would not be leaving his wife. I do think he loved me but he loved his family more. He kept in touch and continued to tell me he loved me for many years after I ended the sex.

Why did you end the sex? Were you married?

No, he was. I didn’t want to be an other woman indefinitely. I wanted to be a wife. Once I realized he would not leave I forced myself to. I am not really free; am just without him. Now that I know he has been telling me he loves me for years on end I don’t really envy his wife, who knew about the affair, that he refused to end.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Subject says everything. I know we read about all the drama but has anyone had an affair and really fall in love? And end up happy?

I really fell in love, he claimed to be in love. He did not leave so no, it did not end up happy although I think his wife forgave him so probably they’re happy now.

He was not in love. He said that to get the sex. Men say anything for that.

Did he end it? I said iLy only because she said it and it would have been very awkward not to say it back. Plus, if I didn’t it would have likely have ended the sex. I ended it when the novelty wore off and the guilt got too much. But, yeah, it was never real love.

No, I ended it when I realized he would not be leaving his wife. I do think he loved me but he loved his family more. He kept in touch and continued to tell me he loved me for many years after I ended the sex.

Why did you end the sex? Were you married?

No, he was. I didn’t want to be an other woman indefinitely. I wanted to be a wife. Once I realized he would not leave I forced myself to. I am not really free; am just without him. Now that I know he has been telling me he loves me for years on end I don’t really envy his wife, who knew about the affair, that he refused to end.

I’m don’t envy her either. It was really shitty of you and her spouse.

[Anonymous]

No. We were both married, but I would have married him in a second if given the chance. He dumped me .

[Anonymous]

My grandfather! Married the woman he cheated on my grandmother with. They were married 30+ years until his death.