Why are women so mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think it's only women? The men here are just as mean. There are the ones who project their own relationship problems onto every post and blame women for everything. See Open Marriage Guy, Guy Who Calls Every Woman a Fat Cat Lady, and Dude Who Thinks Only Fertile Women Are People.

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I have known two guys on here and if you knew their public persona vs who they really are (ie: posting on here) it would make your jaw drop quick.

Psycho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Example?

Jesus Christ read a post or two from this forum.

Yeah but I want to know what you think is mean. I mean, some women just think thing disagreed with us mean.

Some people hurl insults call mom I want to say that’s mean that’s just some bad s**t crazy woman I’m just lonely and angry. Those post outside they’re lonely and angry.

Each one is different, so which one were you wondering about?

All of it you dimwit!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some women are deflectors. Any negative thing in their lives such as a mediocre husband, blah job, unfulfilled dreams, the woman will deflect from herself and tear down others to make them look smaller than her so that in her mind, she can appear bigger than those who supposedly have it better than she does.

And some women have just had too much to drink bringing out the nasty in her. I don't think I need to repeat the raunchy things tipsy women can tell.

X10000

The first part us spot on.

[Anonymous]

*is

[Anonymous]

The nastiest threads for this on hear tend to be the ones about:

1) SAHMs/WOHMs (or the threads that are originally about something else but devolve into a SAHMs are lazy and dumb/WOHMs are bad mothers debate, which happens a lot); or

2) Relationships threads where a woman is complaining about her husband not helping enough.

I also see random nasty posters in Diet & Exercise (ugh, those threads about "If you're a size 2, what is your height and weight?"), Beauty & Fashion (there are a lot of people there who think they're the new Joan Rivers or something, it is silly), and in any of the parenting forums. But the trigger point seems to be heterosexual women being competitive and mean about their marriages and their work/life balance. Nothing brings out the claws more.

I think it's because those are things a lot of women are dissatisfied with and feel insecure about and that tends to bring out nastiness.

I absolutely believe a lot of these posters are women (probably most) and they are saying what they actually think. I'm in my 40s and have known a lot of women. I've heard most of this stuff IRL in some way or another. Not slung as an insult to someones face, but a lot of women will make snide, dismissive, and judgmental comments about "types" of women, or about women they know but aren't close to. Again, it's insecurity and comes off that way, but often women share these insecurities and will gang up because it makes them feel more justified in their resentment/jealous/annoyance with the way some other woman is managing her marriage or kids or house or finances or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think it's only women? The men here are just as mean. There are the ones who project their own relationship problems onto every post and blame women for everything. See Open Marriage Guy, Guy Who Calls Every Woman a Fat Cat Lady, and Dude Who Thinks Only Fertile Women Are People.

+2

I have known two guys on here and if you knew their public persona vs who they really are (ie: posting on here) it would make your jaw drop quick.

Psycho.

Gaslighting can be good easy therapy when it’s anonymous.

[Anonymous]

Yawn. Fake news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think it's only women? The men here are just as mean. There are the ones who project their own relationship problems onto every post and blame women for everything. See Open Marriage Guy, Guy Who Calls Every Woman a Fat Cat Lady, and Dude Who Thinks Only Fertile Women Are People.

Oh it’s women. You think a few snarky comments from men compares to the paragraphs of judgement thrown out for some of the posts? Some people are genuinely asking for help and the responses are disproportionately harsh. Men don’t do that, women do.

[Anonymous]

We compete for wise, handsome men.

[Anonymous]

There is a female chromosome that is passed on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think it's only women? The men here are just as mean. There are the ones who project their own relationship problems onto every post and blame women for everything. See Open Marriage Guy, Guy Who Calls Every Woman a Fat Cat Lady, and Dude Who Thinks Only Fertile Women Are People.

+2

I have known two guys on here and if you knew their public persona vs who they really are (ie: posting on here) it would make your jaw drop quick.

Psycho.

Spill! Please! What's the discrepancy?

[Anonymous]

They can’t help it.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. They do it in real life. Back stabbing and screwing other women’s husbands. Not giving two sh@ts about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Example?

Jesus Christ read a post or two from this forum.

Yeah but I want to know what you think is mean. I mean, some women just think thing disagreed with us mean.

Some people hurl insults call mom I want to say that’s mean that’s just some bad s**t crazy woman I’m just lonely and angry. Those post outside they’re lonely and angry.

Each one is different, so which one were you wondering about?

All of it you dimwit!!

Great I hooked one.

This one. For example, I would say .. is frustrated that she has no friends and is lonely on a Friday night. Her H is watching football and ignoring her. She still hadn’t gotten rid of the baby weight and her kids are 15 and 13.

Next.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s because women don’t have as much power as men do, and a lot of the power they do have comes from the men in their lives, particularly the men that raise them and the men that they marry. You can say it ain’t so, and it may be changing, but right now, it’s still a fact.

And so this means that:

1) Women are generally more amiable, get along better with people, and place more value on friendships than men do. When you have less power, friendships are more important. (I suppose that I am mostly talking about white men here...men who are in minority groups place more value on relationships). IRL, engendering friendships might look like bringing food over when someone has a new baby or stopping to say hello. On a message board, it looks more like joining the pile up on a poster or strongly identifying with one group vs another (redshirting vs not or preschool vs daycare).

2) Women start competing with each other for the attention of men from a pretty young age. Maybe 12 or 13. If a woman (or girl) is desired by a powerful or popular man, then she becomes the most powerful person in her social group. (See every movie made about high school with a female protagonist.) I think this leads to some of the “backstabbing” kind of behavior and just general nastiness of girls beginning at about that age.