Is this appropriate for the community pool?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

And you're the one dissing the men around here. Yet you feel so above it all? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

[Anonymous]

Gotta love the puritanical beliefs in this country. Omg, a butt cheek! Think of the children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gotta love the puritanical beliefs in this country. Omg, a butt cheek! Think of the children!

Butt cheeks are fine. Please show butt cheeks at liberty. Keep the beer/wine/baby gut under a shirt though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not ok for community pool. Ok for beach.

Show me in the rule book where it says you can’t wear this suit at the pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I would be saying snarky things about your lack of confidence and need to show off your ass to bored dads and teenage boys, but you do whatever you want to, OP.

Wow, you sound like a beyotch who has not self confidence and runs around in those "mommy" suits with the skirts on them. Why bother to comment on someone else's suit at all? The only time my friends and I comment on someone's suit is when we like it and tell them it looks nice.

I'm just telling it like it is. OP asked for my opinion and I told her. I'm not here calling people names, you are.

Ah, a Tell It As It Is asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

Another + 1. There is so much projection, insecurity and just plain betchassedness by bitter, shitty women, who are so pathetic they get a kick from eyeing up and judging other women. To hell with all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

Another + 1. There is so much projection, insecurity and just plain betchassedness by bitter, shitty women, who are so pathetic they get a kick from eyeing up and judging other women. To hell with all that.

I disagree with these comments. I see two sides of the same judgmental coin in this thread: shaming women for covering up and shaming women for not covering up. Each side is blind to their own judgment.

[Anonymous]

OP it sounds like we have similar body types. Nothing short of a diaper will be modest enough for the people who think your first photo is inappropriate.

Just keep the nips covered and enjoy your time at the pool.

[Anonymous]

I think it's cute, OP. I'm a 50-year-old overweight mom who could not pull this off, but I have no problem with anyone else that can. Good for you!

[Anonymous]

Cover up (or not) as you feel comfortable. People on this thread are vastly overestimating how much anybody notices or cares what you wear to the pool. Unless you are actually naked, nobody is looking at you. The other moms are too busy worrying about their own muffin tops and cellulite to worry about yours, and if the dads are looking, so what? Nobody is trying to seduce your average joe husbands at the community pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

Another + 1. There is so much projection, insecurity and just plain betchassedness by bitter, shitty women, who are so pathetic they get a kick from eyeing up and judging other women. To hell with all that.

I disagree with these comments. I see two sides of the same judgmental coin in this thread: shaming women for covering up and shaming women for not covering up. Each side is blind to their own judgment.

Welcome, Queen Solomon. Yeah, no. Noticing someone’s swimwear to the degree of some PP’s is focked up. “Judging judgment is soooo judgy!” is not the serene and intelligent perspective you think it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

Wait -- are you saying you didn't like other children because they wore tumbling shorts under their skirts? Really? I don't ever remember wearing a skirt to the playground as a kid -- girls just didn't really do that in the 70s, skirts were for church and grandma's sunday dinner...but I cannot imagine liking or disliking another child based on whether they wore shorts under their skirts. And you're complaining about women being judgmental?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

And you're the one dissing the men around here. Yet you feel so above it all? Gross.

As a woman it is my job to always diss men. I don’t take hits at other women though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not ok for community pool. Ok for beach.

This literally makes no sense. Kids and husbands and other women are at the beach too. Why is ok there if it’s offensive at a pool?