I had a 5 year affair with a gorgeous woman who’s 17 years younger (and I’m not rich) - AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you sound like a loser honestly. You’re not hot $hit esp posting an “AMA.” Whenever my friends and I see an older man with a younger chick, we think creep. Older men and younger women typically only look not creepy if you’re George Clooney and Amal.

Who said I was hot sh&@? I just posted out of boredom. Call it what you want. I had fun. She had fun.

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Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

A gorgeous bowling bowl midget .

I bet you're fairly fat yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Or he’s a critical d@ck at home that caused them to walk themselves off over time. It’s often the behavior of the cheater in his home that dries the sex up.

We don’t have any of those issues mentioned above. A normal relationship and home life aside from this. Most men cheat (for varying reasons). There’s probably a 50/50 chance that your husband is cheating on you. Unless you’re both fat and ugly and there are no options available. Then he’s probably hitting a escort or prostitute.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op you sound like a loser honestly. You’re not hot $hit esp posting an “AMA.” Whenever my friends and I see an older man with a younger chick, we think creep. Older men and younger women typically only look not creepy if you’re George Clooney and Amal.

+1 I bet OP has a mustache 🤮

She likes facial hair but I prefer none....

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Anonymous wrote:Do you guys honestly think this OP is real??? It's probably a fantasy. What grown ass old man goes to an online anonymous forum and says this? I mean, really, NOTHING better to do?

Typical DCUM always calling troll because it's unfathomable a younger woman may find an older man attractive.

Mid 30s F here, a 50 year old is *disgusting* to me, so I'm with troll/fantasy.

Also - where are this girl's friends?! I'm married (and faithful!) but truly if I or any of my friends were sleeping with some creepy old married man as the side piece, my friends would smack me back down to earth so fast. I feel very sad for this woman that she is either so ashamed that she hasn't told anyone, or that her friends haven't talked some sense into her. How depressing to waste all that time with someone you can't take to social gatherings, who doesn't know your world/family/friends, who literally has to pay cash to have mediocre old man sex in a sleazy hotel. No future in that, and honestly gross, gross, gross.

She doesn’t have many friends (and due to culture, is very family-centric). I’m not a troll. To each their own. I haven’t sat her down and analyzed why she does it.

This part doesn't make any sense. If she is very family centric, she will want to get married and have kids. That's what people from family centric cultures do.

Sounds like her culture is very conservative. She is probably doing this because she feels otherwise oppressed by her culture. It's a way for her to let out steam.

You just said it doesn’t make sense in your first paragraph and then made sense of it in your second...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Yes, we know. Most sexless wives have lost attraction for their husband. Some (but not many) of those women are also cheating.
So what? That does not change anything from the denied husband's perspective. He's not getting sex at home, therefore he must get that elsewhere.

Nothing you said in any way refutes my statement: " His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce)."
His affair is necessary to keep him from divorcing. Sexless wife who does not file obviously wants to remain married.

What was your point PP?

We’ve been married for 30 years. I know my wife very well. She’s very content with our relationship/marriage and I don’t think she would even leave me if she found out about my affair.

The point is that the "sexless" wife usually doesn't actually want to be married. She's waiting for a more practical or beneficial time to divorce. And yet these cheaters act like they're doing their wives a favor by sticking around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

A gorgeous bowling bowl midget .

I'm no fan of this woman but you seem awfully hung up on her height. 5'0'' is a few inches shorter than average. It's really not worthy of mention, let alone vitriol. You know that She can also have curves without being fat, especially if she's young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

Around the time COVID started (and we hadn’t seen each other in several weeks) she said that maybe she just wants to be friends going forward. I’m not sure what sparked this change, but you never know with her. She does have a boyfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

A gorgeous bowling bowl midget .

I'm no fan of this woman but you seem awfully hung up on her height. 5'0'' is a few inches shorter than average. It's really not worthy of mention, let alone vitriol. You know that She can also have curves without being fat, especially if she's young.

A spinner!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Yes, we know. Most sexless wives have lost attraction for their husband. Some (but not many) of those women are also cheating.
So what? That does not change anything from the denied husband's perspective. He's not getting sex at home, therefore he must get that elsewhere.

Nothing you said in any way refutes my statement: " His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce)."
His affair is necessary to keep him from divorcing. Sexless wife who does not file obviously wants to remain married.

What was your point PP?

We’ve been married for 30 years. I know my wife very well. She’s very content with our relationship/marriage and I don’t think she would even leave me if she found out about my affair.

The point is that the "sexless" wife usually doesn't actually want to be married. She's waiting for a more practical or beneficial time to divorce. And yet these cheaters act like they're doing their wives a favor by sticking around.

You think you know her so well but don't think she has any idea that you're having an affair? You clearly think she's an idiot.

She likely knows that you're cheating and is relieved that you're not bothering her for sex and/or already hates you so much that she doesn't care. If she's not plotting to divorce you when the timing is more beneficial for her and the kids, it's not because she's so devoted to you, it's because she doesn't care about you and it makes more financial/social sense to stay married.

I know you say that your marriage is great apart from the sex, but you very clearly have no respect for your wife if you think she's this much of a doormat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Yes, we know. Most sexless wives have lost attraction for their husband. Some (but not many) of those women are also cheating.
So what? That does not change anything from the denied husband's perspective. He's not getting sex at home, therefore he must get that elsewhere.

Nothing you said in any way refutes my statement: " His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce)."
His affair is necessary to keep him from divorcing. Sexless wife who does not file obviously wants to remain married.

What was your point PP?

We’ve been married for 30 years. I know my wife very well. She’s very content with our relationship/marriage and I don’t think she would even leave me if she found out about my affair.

The point is that the "sexless" wife usually doesn't actually want to be married. She's waiting for a more practical or beneficial time to divorce. And yet these cheaters act like they're doing their wives a favor by sticking around.

You think you know her so well but don't think she has any idea that you're having an affair? You clearly think she's an idiot.

She likely knows that you're cheating and is relieved that you're not bothering her for sex and/or already hates you so much that she doesn't care. If she's not plotting to divorce you when the timing is more beneficial for her and the kids, it's not because she's so devoted to you, it's because she doesn't care about you and it makes more financial/social sense to stay married.

I know you say that your marriage is great apart from the sex, but you very clearly have no respect for your wife if you think she's this much of a doormat.

The kids are grown and if she was going to divorce me she would have done so by now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

Around the time COVID started (and we hadn’t seen each other in several weeks) she said that maybe she just wants to be friends going forward. I’m not sure what sparked this change, but you never know with her. She does have a boyfriend.

Umm... perhaps realizing it’s a total dead-end to waste time with a married-with-kids, burner phone, cheap wine, cash-only hotel, track-covering, middle-aged, washed-up, not-rich loser with zero integrity?

The post about paying with hotels.com gift cards is hilarious though. What a life you have OP with your exotic ex-affair partner, OP!! An “international man of intrigue” on an International House of Pancakes budget. Lol!!!

[Anonymous]

^^ And he can’t even add to 27!

[Anonymous]

Omg OP is the cheater guy for the men who cheat thread. The guy who works 12 hours a day and wonders why his wife isn’t interested in him. The Uber driver!!

[Anonymous]

What would you think if you found out she's been cheating on you this whole time?

Does it not bother you that she doesn't want to have sex with you? If she has absolutely no libido, you should care about her well-being. If she's just turned off by you, you should be embarrassed.

I know you feel like you have it all, but this situation is really pathetic. Your wife doesn't want you. This other woman apparently doesn't want you either. You're staying with your wife because you love her. She's staying with you because she's emotionally damaged or because you're convenient.

I don't think you have anything to boast about.