I had a 5 year affair with a gorgeous woman who’s 17 years younger (and I’m not rich) - AMA

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Why not get a divorce? Does your marriage vows mean nothing? You are a first class asshole and I hope your wife finds out and divorces you

Not OP but _why_ should he get a divorce? His DW is not providing sex, and what do marriage vows say about that.

He might as well keep this up as long as possible. If divorce happens, might as well delay it. What benefit is there to him of doing it sooner rather than later?

Exactly. His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce).

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I'm attractive and had an affair with a man 17 years older than me when I was 29 and he was 56. We had worked together for years so I just saw him as a peer, not an older man. Same story, both in sexless relationships and craved some excitement. Mine only lasted about 6 months though and took place at work after everyone would leave for the day.

How did yours start? How did you meet?

That’s 27 year difference not 17...

Lol. I also got 27 while other were already answering.
I dated somebody who was 52 when I was 34. No, it wasn't for sex or money. He had no money (blue collar job) and I had plenty of sex. We just hit it off and I wasn't interested in men my age or younger. After awhile I figured the dude was bipolar. Had never been around anyone like him. It's like 2 people in one and he could switch between them in minutes. No wonder he was single. The one person was nice, but the other acted like a little kid.

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Op you sound like a loser honestly. You’re not hot $hit esp posting an “AMA.” Whenever my friends and I see an older man with a younger chick, we think creep. Older men and younger women typically only look not creepy if you’re George Clooney and Amal.

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I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Or he’s a critical d@ck at home that caused them to walk themselves off over time. It’s often the behavior of the cheater in his home that dries the sex up.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Yes, we know. Most sexless wives have lost attraction for their husband. Some (but not many) of those women are also cheating.
So what? That does not change anything from the denied husband's perspective. He's not getting sex at home, therefore he must get that elsewhere.

Nothing you said in any way refutes my statement: " His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce)."
His affair is necessary to keep him from divorcing. Sexless wife who does not file obviously wants to remain married.

What was your point PP?

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Anonymous wrote:Op you sound like a loser honestly. You’re not hot $hit esp posting an “AMA.” Whenever my friends and I see an older man with a younger chick, we think creep. Older men and younger women typically only look not creepy if you’re George Clooney and Amal.

+1 I bet OP has a mustache 🤮

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Yes, we know. Most sexless wives have lost attraction for their husband. Some (but not many) of those women are also cheating.
So what? That does not change anything from the denied husband's perspective. He's not getting sex at home, therefore he must get that elsewhere.

Nothing you said in any way refutes my statement: " His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce)."
His affair is necessary to keep him from divorcing. Sexless wife who does not file obviously wants to remain married.

What was your point PP?

NP. I think her point was that by stopping being a dick the wife might get interested in his dick again and thus there won't be any reason for anyone to cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you guys honestly think this OP is real??? It's probably a fantasy. What grown ass old man goes to an online anonymous forum and says this? I mean, really, NOTHING better to do?

Typical DCUM always calling troll because it's unfathomable a younger woman may find an older man attractive.

Mid 30s F here, a 50 year old is *disgusting* to me, so I'm with troll/fantasy.

Also - where are this girl's friends?! I'm married (and faithful!) but truly if I or any of my friends were sleeping with some creepy old married man as the side piece, my friends would smack me back down to earth so fast. I feel very sad for this woman that she is either so ashamed that she hasn't told anyone, or that her friends haven't talked some sense into her. How depressing to waste all that time with someone you can't take to social gatherings, who doesn't know your world/family/friends, who literally has to pay cash to have mediocre old man sex in a sleazy hotel. No future in that, and honestly gross, gross, gross.

She doesn’t have many friends (and due to culture, is very family-centric). I’m not a troll. To each their own. I haven’t sat her down and analyzed why she does it.

This part doesn't make any sense. If she is very family centric, she will want to get married and have kids. That's what people from family centric cultures do.

Sounds like her culture is very conservative. She is probably doing this because she feels otherwise oppressed by her culture. It's a way for her to let out steam.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Yes, we know. Most sexless wives have lost attraction for their husband. Some (but not many) of those women are also cheating.
So what? That does not change anything from the denied husband's perspective. He's not getting sex at home, therefore he must get that elsewhere.

Nothing you said in any way refutes my statement: " His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce)."
His affair is necessary to keep him from divorcing. Sexless wife who does not file obviously wants to remain married.

What was your point PP?

The point is that the "sexless" wife usually doesn't actually want to be married. She's waiting for a more practical or beneficial time to divorce. And yet these cheaters act like they're doing their wives a favor by sticking around.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh at these cheaters who think they're saving a marriage that their sexless wives want to stay in.
I know a lot of women who don't have sex with their husbands. Most of them aren't sexless; they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore and/or they resent them because they make less money and do less than half of the housework and child care. They're waiting until the kids are older to divorce, stockpiling money, and often having affairs as well. (They're just more discreet about them because they don't need the ego boost of telling everyone). Some are clueless, have no self-esteem and think that everything is fine, but they are few and far between.

Yes, we know. Most sexless wives have lost attraction for their husband. Some (but not many) of those women are also cheating.
So what? That does not change anything from the denied husband's perspective. He's not getting sex at home, therefore he must get that elsewhere.

Nothing you said in any way refutes my statement: " His affair is saving the marriage that his sexless wife wants to stay in (otherwise SHE would divorce)."
His affair is necessary to keep him from divorcing. Sexless wife who does not file obviously wants to remain married.

What was your point PP?

NP. I think her point was that by stopping being a dick the wife might get interested in his dick again and thus there won't be any reason for anyone to cheat.

Unfortunately, he can't stop , he's a narcissist like those who agree with him.

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You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

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Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

From his posts, you can’t figure that out ?

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Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

A gorgeous bowling bowl midget .

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Anonymous wrote:Women don’t believe these stories because we were all young and hot once and not wasting our time at hotels with old married dudes. At a minimum an old married dude would have to be taking me somewhere nice.

Women with good emotional health can’t relate. Unfortunately there are some damaged people out there who make easy targets for people like OP to take advantage of. It’s truly sad.

Op Here: She initiated and pursued me. I really showed no interest in her initially because I didn’t think she was attainable and she is very culturally different.

You sound racist.

How am I racist? I’m having consensual sex with a woman who was born elsewhere. She pursued me. She can stop this at any time (and may have already). She has no interest in marriage.

Why not get a divorce? Does your marriage vows mean nothing? You are a first class asshole and I hope your wife finds out and divorces you

I love everything else about her. Just need safe sex every once in a while...