DH called our nanny hot

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband sucks. I’d still hire a new nanny.

They all suck, except the nanny. I think the “friend” sucks most, stirring up drama, acting like it was an innocent slip. She sucker punched OP and kicked her while she was down, hitting at OP’s obvious insecurity about not being as attractive as the nanny and by planting seeds of doubt about OP’s husband. It’s sad that she’d want to use an innocent woman and risk affecting OP’s children (at a minimum by changing nannies, worst case leading to marriage problems/unhappy household/eventual divorce) to make herself feel like a big person.

I’d distance myself from this friend and warm DH that everything he tells his friend, friend tells wife, and wife tells OP. Unless “friend’s” plan worked and now OP wants to hear what else DH has to say, filtered through a few other people, to try to trap him and prove he thinks obvious thoughts. But I don’t like drama, so I don’t hang around gossipy people who create problems. I already have anxiety, and it’s too easy to get sucked into negate thought patters. I’m much happier without it, and I truly think most people would be if they cut the crap too.

Real truth right here

Yes, obviously it’s the friend’s WIFE’S fault! Idiots.

FTR I don’t talk about finding anyone attractive except my husband. Not because I don’t find other people attractive, of course I do, but I am not going to be so disrespectful to my spouse as to point it out! And I expect the same courtesy. Not every thought you have should pass your lips. Seriously, WTH is wrong with most of you?

[Anonymous]

Lighten up and let it go or hire a hot contractor for your next home project. 😜

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

My HR director at my biglaw firm will lot hire attractive young women to work as legal assistants or paralegals for male partners. For this exact reason that OP says. Their wives complain

Well, your HR director at your big law firm is an idiot and you all better hope no one finds out about her scheme, which given how much of a blabbermouth you are doesn't seem likely. Hopefully, no one reads your post and puts 2 and 2 together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be the wife is stirring up shit and never actually said that.... bring it tho in honest discussion to your DH.

And now we're blaming the friend ---

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband sucks. I’d still hire a new nanny.

They all suck, except the nanny. I think the “friend” sucks most, stirring up drama, acting like it was an innocent slip. She sucker punched OP and kicked her while she was down, hitting at OP’s obvious insecurity about not being as attractive as the nanny and by planting seeds of doubt about OP’s husband. It’s sad that she’d want to use an innocent woman and risk affecting OP’s children (at a minimum by changing nannies, worst case leading to marriage problems/unhappy household/eventual divorce) to make herself feel like a big person.

I’d distance myself from this friend and warm DH that everything he tells his friend, friend tells wife, and wife tells OP. Unless “friend’s” plan worked and now OP wants to hear what else DH has to say, filtered through a few other people, to try to trap him and prove he thinks obvious thoughts. But I don’t like drama, so I don’t hang around gossipy people who create problems. I already have anxiety, and it’s too easy to get sucked into negate thought patters. I’m much happier without it, and I truly think most people would be if they cut the crap too.

+1

NAILED IT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

My HR director at my biglaw firm will lot hire attractive young women to work as legal assistants or paralegals for male partners. For this exact reason that OP says. Their wives complain

One of my business partners had an attractive assistant. His wife insisted we fire her

Another blabbermouth. And you post this like it's cute and something you should be proud of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

Patriarchy has always required the support and assistance of women to succeed. We have people blaming the wife, the friend, the nanny, too many are reluctant to hold the husband accountable. We've got people bragging about how the fire or don't hire attractive women at their jobs. The real kicker is I bet most of these posters consider themselves feminist and were out protesting in pink hats against Trump and freaking out about their rights when RGB died. Fwminism and confronting misogyny happens in real-time, in the smaller moments of our lives, folks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

Patriarchy has always required the support and assistance of women to succeed. We have people blaming the wife, the friend, the nanny, too many are reluctant to hold the husband accountable. We've got people bragging about how the fire or don't hire attractive women at their jobs. The real kicker is I bet most of these posters consider themselves feminist and were out protesting in pink hats against Trump and freaking out about their rights when RGB died. Fwminism and confronting misogyny happens in real-time, in the smaller moments of our lives, folks

Agree with all of this, except there is nothing the man did that was wrong. He merely commented that his nanny was hot to a friend. Not to the nanny. He didn't create a hostile work environment. This whole scenario is just women tearing each other down for their looks

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be careful. The recent story of Christopher Plummer’s death reminds me men go for younger women. Captain von Trapp ditches the Baroness who is wealthy, stylish and sophisticated for Maria who is just kind of annoying.

This is so weird I almost reported it. The baroness hated the children.

Yeah, but most Dads in the Captain's position would throw the kids right into the lake if the woman is hot enough. That's the point.

You may remember that the Captain was preparing to throw them into the lake as it was, even without a young, hot thing in the picture. Maria forced him to pay attention and care for them, after sewing them play clothes and teaching them how to perform. You can't make this stuff up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

Patriarchy has always required the support and assistance of women to succeed. We have people blaming the wife, the friend, the nanny, too many are reluctant to hold the husband accountable. We've got people bragging about how the fire or don't hire attractive women at their jobs. The real kicker is I bet most of these posters consider themselves feminist and were out protesting in pink hats against Trump and freaking out about their rights when RGB died. Fwminism and confronting misogyny happens in real-time, in the smaller moments of our lives, folks

Agree with all of this, except there is nothing the man did that was wrong. He merely commented that his nanny was hot to a friend. Not to the nanny. He didn't create a hostile work environment. This whole scenario is just women tearing each other down for their looks

He should have kept it to himself or just his wife because now it's been spread around the community creating a very awkward situation for the nanny. Self-control is a hallmark of adulthood, as adults, we know we don't have to verbalize every thought that crosses our mind. Raise your standards for men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

Patriarchy has always required the support and assistance of women to succeed. We have people blaming the wife, the friend, the nanny, too many are reluctant to hold the husband accountable. We've got people bragging about how the fire or don't hire attractive women at their jobs. The real kicker is I bet most of these posters consider themselves feminist and were out protesting in pink hats against Trump and freaking out about their rights when RGB died. Fwminism and confronting misogyny happens in real-time, in the smaller moments of our lives, folks

Agree with all of this, except there is nothing the man did that was wrong. He merely commented that his nanny was hot to a friend. Not to the nanny. He didn't create a hostile work environment. This whole scenario is just women tearing each other down for their looks

So true. Women are women’s worst enemies.

[Anonymous]

OP - update?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

Patriarchy has always required the support and assistance of women to succeed. We have people blaming the wife, the friend, the nanny, too many are reluctant to hold the husband accountable. We've got people bragging about how the fire or don't hire attractive women at their jobs. The real kicker is I bet most of these posters consider themselves feminist and were out protesting in pink hats against Trump and freaking out about their rights when RGB died. Fwminism and confronting misogyny happens in real-time, in the smaller moments of our lives, folks

Agree with all of this, except there is nothing the man did that was wrong. He merely commented that his nanny was hot to a friend. Not to the nanny. He didn't create a hostile work environment. This whole scenario is just women tearing each other down for their looks

So true. Women are women’s worst enemies.

+1

As long as you know this, you good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be careful. The recent story of Christopher Plummer’s death reminds me men go for younger women. Captain von Trapp ditches the Baroness who is wealthy, stylish and sophisticated for Maria who is just kind of annoying.

This is so weird I almost reported it. The baroness hated the children.

But the children wanted Maria to marry their dad early on, she couldn’t win

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be careful. The recent story of Christopher Plummer’s death reminds me men go for younger women. Captain von Trapp ditches the Baroness who is wealthy, stylish and sophisticated for Maria who is just kind of annoying.

This is so weird I almost reported it. The baroness hated the children.

But the children wanted Maria to marry their dad early on, she couldn’t win

Are you ladies arguing about movie now?