Why do demanding women seem to have the most loving, faithful husbands?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, some posters are getting really triggered over the thought of a demanding or confident woman. I wonder why that is.

It's interesting you use the word triggered. I find this post repugnant because it's yet another version of blame the woman for everything.

It's not "blame the woman for everything". It's "give credit to women". But I guess if you are in the doormat group you may take it as an attack since you are not in the group getting credit.

Except it's not giving credit for something. It's saying if a woman wasn't XYX she wouldn't get cheated on. I am far from a doormat which is how I can see OP's BS and call at your BS.

It is giving credit. The title is "why do demanding women get such great guys". That's giving credit.

You've chosen to interpret that as "why do undemanding women not get great guys" which is your projection based on your own life experience and probable rejection. Get some therapy.

But you and every other woman here who perceives herself as demanding has said very nasty and condescending things about women whose husband's cheat. That's not credit. That's making women responsible for men's actions.

No, that's making women responsible for the choices they make and benefits, good and bad. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. If you cant count on a man in some ways, why would you be able to count on him in other ways? Dont blame me for your bad choices. The truth hurts, I guess

NO. You and others have flat out said husbands cheat because the women are easy going. That is blaming the women. As another poster said. I hope you don't have to learn the hard way.

NO THEY HAVE NOT. They have said women that are doormats in one area will be doormats in another. Get over it and stop projecting. I get it's probably a hard truth to hear. But oh well.

[Anonymous]

Easy-going does NOT automatically equate to doormat. Let’s set that straight.

I’m an easy going person, but if you cross me LOOK the f@ck out.

People know that about me. I am not a b@tch or a nag, a laid back happy person. But, I don’t suffer fools and the threat of crazy is below the surface.

If anyone took advantage of me they would not get a 2nd chance.

But, I don’t believe you need to live a life of creating fear and discontent in your spouse and think that is going to keep him on the straight and narrow and be a happy partnership. That’s pretty one-sided. Those guys eventually get the balls up to leave for a nice person and away from the shrew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy-going does NOT automatically equate to doormat. Let’s set that straight.

I’m an easy going person, but if you cross me LOOK the f@ck out.

People know that about me. I am not a b@tch or a nag, a laid back happy person. But, I don’t suffer fools and the threat of crazy is below the surface.

If anyone took advantage of me they would not get a 2nd chance.

But, I don’t believe you need to live a life of creating fear and discontent in your spouse and think that is going to keep him on the straight and narrow and be a happy partnership. That’s pretty one-sided. Those guys eventually get the balls up to leave for a nice person and away from the shrew.

And women are different from you. You sound like unrestrained, bat s#!t crazy if I'm being honest. Like someone who pretends to be fine with everything, meanwhile resentment simmers under the surface. This thread is about women who are straight shooters and how nicely it works out for them. GET OVER IT and stop making it about yourself, you loon.

[Anonymous]

^who the hell are you talking to? Making it about myself? It’s the first time I posted.

You are insane. Policing the threads all day long. Get a life

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Anonymous wrote:^who the hell are you talking to? Making it about myself? It’s the first time I posted.

You are insane. Policing the threads all day long. Get a life

So you sound like a shrew. I guess your husband will be leaving soon then?

[Anonymous]

My wife isn’t demanding but she has high expectations for herself and her family. She sets a high bar and that’s been good for all of us and I’m happy to be a loving and faithful husband as she is a very loving and faithful wife.

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Anonymous wrote:^who the hell are you talking to? Making it about myself? It’s the first time I posted.

You are insane. Policing the threads all day long. Get a life

+1.

[Anonymous]

I think some people need to examine why they feel superior for having a husband who has not ( to their knowledge) cheated on them.

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Anonymous wrote:I think some people need to examine why they feel superior for having a husband who has not ( to their knowledge) cheated on them.

You are mixed up. The question was posed and people answered. As to the cheating, women know. No woman who related to the "demanding" label was celebrating not being cheated on. They celebrate the rewards of sticking to their standards and valuing themselves. You should ask for tips.

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Anonymous wrote:I think some people need to examine why they feel superior for having a husband who has not ( to their knowledge) cheated on them.

You are mixed up. The question was posed and people answered. As to the cheating, women know. No woman who related to the "demanding" label was celebrating not being cheated on. They celebrate the rewards of sticking to their standards and valuing themselves. You should ask for tips.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn’t demanding but she has high expectations for herself and her family. She sets a high bar and that’s been good for all of us and I’m happy to be a loving and faithful husband as she is a very loving and faithful wife.

Well put.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed this. Also, women with trust funds have husbands who are so in love. I'm sure those same women just think that they are #blessed. Money makes the world go round.

Most people I have met as an adult think this about my spouse and me.

The truth is that a woman in a mutually respectful relationship learns that she will be respected and speaks up more.

What you are calling fun is likely insecure.

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Anonymous wrote:I know one who’s an absolute b1tch and her husband is really easy going, nice and funny. She belittling, rude and down right nasty human as well as her kids. No idea how/why he stays.

So he's not responsible for his kids or how they turned out? You seem very quick to attribute very positive attributes to this guy and let him off the hook.

The kids have their mother’s personality. She’s been a bitch since I’ve known her back in college. What do you want me to say other than he lets his kids be assholes like their mother. He, by himself, is not an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Because these women call them out on their sh*t

and men respect that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think some people need to examine why they feel superior for having a husband who has not ( to their knowledge) cheated on them.

You are mixed up. The question was posed and people answered. As to the cheating, women know. No woman who related to the "demanding" label was celebrating not being cheated on. They celebrate the rewards of sticking to their standards and valuing themselves. You should ask for tips.

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Tips on what? I know how to be a kind person who has respect for herself and requires others to be respectful of her. I date men who are the same. However I don't think this makes me better than other women,nor do I think it makes me invincible to having my partner cheating on me.


OP's post, and subsequent posts were about mocking women who have terrible relationships and blaming them for being "easy going.".