Curious... it it important to you to be in the popular mom clique?

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Anonymous wrote:If you work, I don't know how you have time or space to really be a part of mom anything. I work. I don't know any mothers at school except two or three ladies whose children my son is friends with. I am friends with most moms in my daughter's preschool class but there's only 8 of us. Most of my mom friends are from my son's preschool days and none of these kids attend the same schools.

I don't volunteer at school. I don't know of any neighborhood mom groups. Wouldn't care if they existed. How do you have time to keep up with all that?

Because I like to make time for my friends, including those friends who have children who are friends with my children. I work full-time, as does my husband, but we both make time for friends. In case you're curious, the fact that you don't doesn't make you better than me. (Nor does the fact that I do make me better than you, of course, but you seem to have a real air of superiority around your life that is so busy you can't make time for friends.)

DP here. Not sure what you are asking. Just because people don't hang out with the group that considers themselves popular, doesn't mean that they do not have friends. Some people actively avoid the shallow, catty, vapid group, and have friends from all over their lives - different places they have lived, different degrees they have acquired, different careers they have had over the years, etc. These are not children, though one group acts like it. Some people have choices, thankfully.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will say that in preschool most moms are friendly and inclusive. Once they hit regular school age something changes and it becomes VERY cliquey.

In general SAHMs of toddlers and preschoolers are pretty chill, while SAHMs of school-aged kids are annoying. It’s like they need to justify their lack of working by taking over their children’s social lives.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not important to me, but sometimes I do feel jealous of women who have these close mom tribes. I do know a lot of moms from our school and I do have friends among them, but I'm a single mom and the "cool" moms are all married, so I think that's a factor. The single mom thing can be foreign/ threatening to groups of married moms, I think.

I don't know why you think that. We have a single mom in our "mom tribe" as you called it. Why do you think someone would feel threatened? Because you're going to steal their husband? That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

Sorry, but married moms not wanting to hang out with single moms is definitely a thing.

We had a single mon friend/neighbor who wanted DH to help with her honey-do list. It was obnoxious, as he has his hands full with our needs. We pulled back hard.

I rest my case. PP would it have been so terrible to help your friend out?

Depends. Is it a real friend, or a user? DP here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a biglaw attorney. I feel very frozen out of the SAHM/mommy track clique at my kids’ private. I don’t even think about it 95% of the time (I’m a younger mom and most of my friends are still childless so I have a busy social life) but I do feel the sting at school events.

Don’t worry, you are doing fine. They are envious of you.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No because I’m not 12.

This. The beauty of aging is not giving as much of a f.