Curious... it it important to you to be in the popular mom clique?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ Also their children usually have some sort of behavioral issues due to the extreme stress of divorce that they’ve been put through. So I don’t like talking about my children with them because it might make them feel bad.

I think it’s clear that the single moms you refuse to hang out with are much better off.

[Anonymous]

I think single moms at my kids’ school are *extra* popular. Maybe some wish fulfillment thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inspired by this!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/888270.page

Yeah, we know. It’s like rubbernecking a wreck on the highway, op.

There’s one mom chronically being left out of neighborhood events—even a car parade in her neighborhood. People are so petty that they won’t extend a silly invite to a car parade.

LOL. I think I’m that mom and I have zero desire to be included. It all looks so exhausting to me.

Ha! I think that I have been the left out mom. I did want to be included, and it took me a long time (years) to realize that we were back in middle school, and people were purposefully not including me. I just took all of the excuses at face value and kept reaching out, hosting play dates (where I would watch all of the kids and the parents would leave...sometimes together), and trying to let people know that our family wanted to be part of the group.
Once I realized that it wasn’t anything I was doing, and they just didn’t want me in their group, I stopped trying and found different friends.

It was kind of like that episode of “Sex in the City” where someone tells Miranda “He’s just not that into you.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No because I’m not 12.

+1

I don't need to be in the mean-gossip-one up crowd, OP. Nothing good comes of that nonsense, at any age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those people aren’t usually actually popular, more like self important.

+1

I am reluctant to associate with people who think the are "popular" (a la local high school, from which they never moved) - but who, in reality (!!), have a distorted view of themselves.

When people they consider their "friends" bad mouth them, you know there is a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a few moms like this, all about trying to be exclusive for some lame group no one cares about joining. It's quite sad.

+1

No one in their right mind cares to be friends with socially, emotionally, and intellectually stunted mean girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inspired by this!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/888270.page

Yeah, we know. It’s like rubbernecking a wreck on the highway, op.

There’s one mom chronically being left out of neighborhood events—even a car parade in her neighborhood. People are so petty that they won’t extend a silly invite to a car parade.

But then their instastory would just not be as exciting if everyone got an invite!

+1

Yes! This! So sad.

[Anonymous]

I’m in APS, and I don’t think this exists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. It's even more important to me that I live in a neighborhood that doesn't have such a thing.[/quote]

x100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s definitely a UMC suburban thing. All the parents in the group are obsessed with their kids being popular and athletes. When they are younger, they constantly talk about the prestigious schools their kids will play sports for. They spend a lot of money on travel leagues and private coaches. Most of the kids never actually do play a sport for college anyways so it was a lot of money and effort and talk for basically nothing. The parents spend money for their kids to stand out whether it is on designer clothes or a fancy car. They are more interesting in their kids being admired and getting invited to parties than being good human being and learning. And for what? No clue.

+1 Nailed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inspired by this!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/888270.page

Yeah, we know. It’s like rubbernecking a wreck on the highway, op.

There’s one mom chronically being left out of neighborhood events—even a car parade in her neighborhood. People are so petty that they won’t extend a silly invite to a car parade.

LOL. I think I’m that mom and I have zero desire to be included. It all looks so exhausting to me.

I don’t think this poor woman has social aspirations to be in the in-crowd, but the constant snubbing and even during a pandemic no less. She was probably at her breaking point.

IDK. Some people are enjoying the peace and quiet that the pandemic brings. Bonus: No show offs trying to deflect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in APS, and I don’t think this exists.

Definitely exists with the locals in closer in FCPS.

[Anonymous]

The popular clique at our school ahas basically ignored social distancing. They let their kids hang out together. The parents can’t handle them so say screw it. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the “popular” moms try to succeed at this because at some level they failed at real life. Not like got pregnant at 16, never had a job failed, but somewhere along the way, they settled. Professionally, personally—at some point, they Settled or gave up or got pushed out or just flat-out failed.So now their kid’s school is something they can “succeed” at. People with real things to do don’t have time for that. I’m happy to be doing my own thing. I’m nice enough to them; they’re nice enough to me. Some are insecure but mostly harmless. Others are insecure but downright nasty. Either way, I have no interest in competing for a fake prize that some moms just made up so they have something to compete for.

+1 Women who strive towards this don't have enough going on in their own lives. If you did, you would have no time to be nasty to others.

+1

I hope that I hang out with you, OP. I've seen some of the self described "popular" moms try to go after the nice moms, and the nice moms barely notice, which is the best part. The "popular" moms sometimes fixate on whomever they think makes them look bad - really doesn't take much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t even know who those people are.

+ 1

Must not be me!

Or....it could actually be you. You might not be self aware enough to know it.