Will this wreck my relationship?

[Anonymous]

OP, give us an update!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god!! Do not move in with this guy without being engaged! That is NOT a good idea. You need to be able to break up with him easily if he doesn’t propose. How old are you both?

Early 30s

Nope. I wouldn’t waste much more time with this guy. I would start dating other people if he doesn’t propose soon. Do not move in without a ring.

and a wedding date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, ^^^^ is right. I’m so sorry OP.

Great advice on here for OP today. I wish the same lot of you could help me fix my broken life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god!! Do not move in with this guy without being engaged! That is NOT a good idea. You need to be able to break up with him easily if he doesn’t propose. How old are you both?

Early 30s

Nope. I wouldn’t waste much more time with this guy. I would start dating other people if he doesn’t propose soon. Do not move in without a ring.

and a wedding date.

And he puts down all the deposits.

[Anonymous]

I would. It let my sister or best friend marry a ManChild like this. Cluelessness is it attractive, nor is doing everything to move life forward.

Kick him to the curb Op! You WILL rue the day you decided to stay with this one. Rue. The. Day. And it will be here on wash DC DcUM to remind you of your awful decision.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t let...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god!! Do not move in with this guy without being engaged! That is NOT a good idea. You need to be able to break up with him easily if he doesn’t propose. How old are you both?

This response is from the 50’s. Really? Do you need the guy to propose? Do you need to be married? Crazy stuff.

[Anonymous]

OP, where are you?

[Anonymous]

Does he have a history of commitment issues. Sounds like he can't pull the trigger. Maybe he is not sure he is as into you as you are into him?? The dynamic right now sounds pretty bad (on both sides)

[Anonymous]

OP:

I sat him down before dinner and had some notes typed up on my phone. I was shaking and told him how nervous I was. I got through reading my notes with some tears. He told me I was very braved and hugged me. I thought that was a good sign.

We had dinner, and he didn't bring up another word about it. After dinner, I circled back to what I was saying, and he flipped his lid. He ended up calling me a b*tch and told me "f*ck you" around 4 times. He said, "Why can't you just be happy with where we are!? Why do you need a marriage to fulfill you?! Are you THAT empty?!" He said he didn't want a wife and kids getting in the way of him hosting game nights with his friends once a week.

So, we're not together anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP:

I sat him down before dinner and had some notes typed up on my phone. I was shaking and told him how nervous I was. I got through reading my notes with some tears. He told me I was very braved and hugged me. I thought that was a good sign.

We had dinner, and he didn't bring up another word about it. After dinner, I circled back to what I was saying, and he flipped his lid. He ended up calling me a b*tch and told me "f*ck you" around 4 times. He said, "Why can't you just be happy with where we are!? Why do you need a marriage to fulfill you?! Are you THAT empty?!" He said he didn't want a wife and kids getting in the way of him hosting game nights with his friends once a week.

So, we're not together anymore.

brave* Sorry!

[Anonymous]

OP- I am so sorry about what happened but so grateful you found out now, rather than years down the road. You also got a look into what your life would have been, married and with kids. You dodged a massive bullet. Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- I am so sorry about what happened but so grateful you found out now, rather than years down the road. You also got a look into what your life would have been, married and with kids. You dodged a massive bullet. Hugs to you.

OP: Thank you. I'm pretty gutted right now, and it's hard to feel like there's anything positive about this, but I know I'll feel it eventually. I just feel so horribly worthless.

[Anonymous]

Walk away.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm terribly sorry but please, please hear what he is saying. He has shown you who he is. You deserve better than what he has given you over these two years and what he gave you last night. The person you love should never leave you feeling worthless.