Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this thread is 9 pages long. It says a lot about DCUMers. Basically, I judge you all for being such jerks.

I thought it was fun. And what I have learned is that 75% of you seem like fun, sane, normal and responsible parents. The other 25% of you...I don't think we'd be friends.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

You've never had a toddler who refused to hold your hand? Pulls away and runs off? Or flails to the ground in public if you attempt to restrain them? Lucky you. You should appreciate your easy peasy kids.

No, I parented my kids. You are bigger than a two year old. You pick them up and carry them. Falls to the ground and "flails?" Pick them up, put them in the car and go home. Unless you are just too lazy and self absorbed that your desire to go out is more important to you and you'd rather treat your child like a dog.

You had compliant kids. Some kids run, go limp, wiggle and are just flat out impossible to hold hands with or even carry over the shoulder. I'm very petite, it's impossible to carry my children this way. (I've never used a harness/leash thing because I haven't had to, but when my kid has a meltdown, there is NO taking him anywhere unless I am literally DRAGGING him).

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Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.

I'm breastfeeding an almost 4 y/o, and I've never judged anyone for feeding their kids - breast milk, formula, or both.
Outside blatant neglect or child abuse, I judge laziness or not going the extra mile For example, I heard things like I hate blueberries so I never buy blueberries, even if my kids like them.

That is for your needs, not the child's at this point.

Interesting! I breastfed my child twice a day until he was about 25 months old (so shortly after 2) when he quit on his own. What is the specific sexual abuse?

Agree with the first pp. extending breastfeeding is gross and weird and done solely to meet the emotional needs of the mom. If your child can eat food and also ask for your boob in a full sentence you’ve let it go on too long.

I judge people who let their young toddler watch videos on a cell phone or tablet 24/7.

My toddler never gets screen time at home. I do let her have my phone if I am meeting a friend for coffee or a meal.

I probably get judged for over scheduling my children. They are in sports, scouts, art, music, chess and Science Olympiad.

I judge people who let their kids watch tv and play video games all day.

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I judge every one of you high and mighty people who think helping other moms/families out is being used or being a doormat.

Be a part of a community! Help make others lives easier if you can, rather than being a selfish bitch.

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I gotta say I am not a fan of leases. I do look at the parents and wonder.

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shoot leashes

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Anonymous wrote:I judge every one of you high and mighty people who think helping other moms/families out is being used or being a doormat.

Be a part of a community! Help make others lives easier if you can, rather than being a selfish bitch.

Do you not understand the difference between helping people and being a doormat? Plenty of people spend a lot of time, money, and effort helping their friends and families out with various things and there's no issue. The ones who have a problem are those who are taken advantage of but refuse to do anything about it. Your post is very telling about your character, but it's also really sad that you can't see the difference between helping people and being used. Oh, you're probably a user and you get mad at people who don't help you and call them names. Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge every one of you high and mighty people who think helping other moms/families out is being used or being a doormat.

Be a part of a community! Help make others lives easier if you can, rather than being a selfish bitch.

Do you not understand the difference between helping people and being a doormat? Plenty of people spend a lot of time, money, and effort helping their friends and families out with various things and there's no issue. The ones who have a problem are those who are taken advantage of but refuse to do anything about it. Your post is very telling about your character, but it's also really sad that you can't see the difference between helping people and being used. Oh, you're probably a user and you get mad at people who don't help you and call them names. Got it.

I agree with the original PP. I help folks out when I can, not run gasping to DCUM because Larla's mom asked me to pick her up from ballet practice on Thursday every so often. I don't need help very often because I am lucky in my situation, either. However, I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at the overwrought drama from some of these posters. Help or don't help, but they sound ridiculous with their drama about it all.

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I have bathed my baby less than once a month over the past year.

I judge people who let their children play with dogs without extremely close supervision, or honestly at all.

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Anonymous wrote:When teaching my toddler animal noises, I taught her the chicken sound and motion from Arrested Development. She does it every time now. Judge away, it's hilarious.

I judge people who put bow headbands on baby girls. Gender is a social construct and no baby wants crap on their head.

I judge parents who try REALLY hard to impose their humor on their kids, and then CONSTANTLY demand that people watch how funny their child is, and not a damn soul thinks they're funny. Arrested Development was never that big, and has very few people who would get this reference. So you're just further isolating your kid. It's ok, yours probs won't ever move out of the basement anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:When teaching my toddler animal noises, I taught her the chicken sound and motion from Arrested Development. She does it every time now. Judge away, it's hilarious.

I judge people who put bow headbands on baby girls. Gender is a social construct and no baby wants crap on their head.

I judge parents who try REALLY hard to impose their humor on their kids, and then CONSTANTLY demand that people watch how funny their child is, and not a damn soul thinks they're funny. Arrested Development was never that big, and has very few people who would get this reference. So you're just further isolating your kid. It's ok, yours probs won't ever move out of the basement anyway.

Huh. This is something I don't think I have ever encountered.

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People judge me for having the overweight kid with ADHD-combined, who I didn't put on medication. Most people don't know that he has mild cerebral palsy (causing him to be stiff, uncoordinated, and lacking full depth perception), but don't understand why he isn't more active. His eating is part genetics and part his relationship with food. They probably judge me for being overly involved with his schoolwork and life in general.

People judge me for forcing my kids to do workbooks over the summer and to do chores.

I am judging the mom who is breastfeeding any kid over 1.5yrs old or so. They don't need it. There are other ways to comfort them that don't keep them a baby. Also, the mom breastfeeding the 4 yr old...your kid will likely be in school in another year. What then? Breastfeed as an after school snack? Or will your kid be the red-shirted kid because they need the "gift" of another year?

I judge others for leashing their kids, not being aware of what their kids are doing (shows, games, homework), and not disciplining their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge me for having the overweight kid with ADHD-combined, who I didn't put on medication. Most people don't know that he has mild cerebral palsy (causing him to be stiff, uncoordinated, and lacking full depth perception), but don't understand why he isn't more active. His eating is part genetics and part his relationship with food. They probably judge me for being overly involved with his schoolwork and life in general.

People judge me for forcing my kids to do workbooks over the summer and to do chores.

I am judging the mom who is breastfeeding any kid over 1.5yrs old or so. They don't need it. There are other ways to comfort them that don't keep them a baby. Also, the mom breastfeeding the 4 yr old...your kid will likely be in school in another year. What then? Breastfeed as an after school snack? Or will your kid be the red-shirted kid because they need the "gift" of another year?

I judge others for leashing their kids, not being aware of what their kids are doing (shows, games, homework), and not disciplining their kids.

You have an overweight kid who has ADHD, with an unhealthy relationship with food and you are judging people for breastfeeding that is proven to prevent obesity and is better for their brain development? Oh the irony!!

Breastmilk is better for brain development and breastfeeding creates a sense of security for the children. Smart and high achieving kids do not get red-shirted. I think you may have MSBP.

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Anonymous wrote:When teaching my toddler animal noises, I taught her the chicken sound and motion from Arrested Development. She does it every time now. Judge away, it's hilarious.

I judge people who put bow headbands on baby girls. Gender is a social construct and no baby wants crap on their head.

I judge parents who try REALLY hard to impose their humor on their kids, and then CONSTANTLY demand that people watch how funny their child is, and not a damn soul thinks they're funny. Arrested Development was never that big, and has very few people who would get this reference. So you're just further isolating your kid. It's ok, yours probs won't ever move out of the basement anyway.

Um, I knew exactly what the PP was referring to. I think you have some weird chips on your shoulder you might want to explore. You are REALLY bent out of shape about this and criticizing a person you know almost nothing about in a really random and specific way.

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Anonymous wrote:When teaching my toddler animal noises, I taught her the chicken sound and motion from Arrested Development. She does it every time now. Judge away, it's hilarious.

I judge people who put bow headbands on baby girls. Gender is a social construct and no baby wants crap on their head.

I judge parents who try REALLY hard to impose their humor on their kids, and then CONSTANTLY demand that people watch how funny their child is, and not a damn soul thinks they're funny. Arrested Development was never that big, and has very few people who would get this reference. So you're just further isolating your kid. It's ok, yours probs won't ever move out of the basement anyway.

Um, I knew exactly what the PP was referring to. I think you have some weird chips on your shoulder you might want to explore. You are REALLY bent out of shape about this and criticizing a person you know almost nothing about in a really random and specific way.

Probably they put bows on their baby girls and took it personally/ retaliated. I put bows on my girl occasionally and got a little sensitive over this post too lol. I just think they're cute! Life is short and having a baby is hard and it makes me a little bit happier. Also, I don't like when "gender neutral" means "not feminine". Sometimes I put my baby in a navy sports onesie and she looks like a "boy", sometimes I put a damn bow on her head and she looks like a "girl" amd neither one is better or worse. When she grows up she can tell me exactly who she wants to be and what she wants to wear.

I guess that's the one I get judged for lol.

I judge parents who shove snacks at their kids 24/7. We always have snacks when my kid asks for one but I never offer them. I have one friend who shows up everywhere amd immediately opens up her "snack bag" (yes it's a separate entire bag) and starts handing them out, unprovoked. Drives me insane to the point of sometimes turning down plans because I don't want to deal with my older daughter eating a dozen snacks in 2 hours.