35yo guy husband works with brought 24yo woman to a wedding. Everyone gave him a hard time, why?

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

NP. A grown woman may make her choices on who to date once she turns 18.

HOWEVER, we are free to assess those choices just as we do everyone's social conduct.

If a 19 year old woman chooses to date a thrice-divorced 65 year old, we will assume that he's a creep and she has emotional/mental health issues.

And regarding the PP’s post about her daughter, how should I explain to my daughter that society views her as worthless after the age of 30?

Society? Not true in my experience (40s M), unless you're talking about the social media construct of beauty (and even then, I'd say that "society" probably treats women differently at 50, not 30).

Or by "society" do you mean a minority of superficial men who use their age, experience, and wealth/power to prey upon much younger women?

If that's what you mean, I'd say good riddance. Who wants their daughters to be in a relationship with someone so superficial and manipulative?

oh heaven forbid men ( regardless of socio economic status) make their dating choices. If dating an attractive 25 yr old at 35 is superficial to you then cool story man. I'm sure these folks are having sleepless nights over your opinion

Are you suggesting that it's NOT superficial?

That he's attracted to her b/c of her kindness, emotional maturity, intelligence, life experience?

I didn't think so.

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Who cares

I’m sure she felt awkward at the party. Or maybe she thought this was a major step- introduced to the friends at a wedding! Oooh la la!

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My friends and I would give him a hard time too, because that's what you do when your friend dates someone much younger.

But we wouldn't give HER a hard time. We'd be nice. She might be a cool person.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

NP. A grown woman may make her choices on who to date once she turns 18.

HOWEVER, we are free to assess those choices just as we do everyone's social conduct.

If a 19 year old woman chooses to date a thrice-divorced 65 year old, we will assume that he's a creep and she has emotional/mental health issues.

And regarding the PP’s post about her daughter, how should I explain to my daughter that society views her as worthless after the age of 30?

Society? Not true in my experience (40s M), unless you're talking about the social media construct of beauty (and even then, I'd say that "society" probably treats women differently at 50, not 30).

Or by "society" do you mean a minority of superficial men who use their age, experience, and wealth/power to prey upon much younger women?

If that's what you mean, I'd say good riddance. Who wants their daughters to be in a relationship with someone so superficial and manipulative?

oh heaven forbid men ( regardless of socio economic status) make their dating choices. If dating an attractive 25 yr old at 35 is superficial to you then cool story man. I'm sure these folks are having sleepless nights over your opinion

Are you suggesting that it's NOT superficial?

That he's attracted to her b/c of her kindness, emotional maturity, intelligence, life experience?

I didn't think so.

who are you to decide what is or isnt superficial? what makes you think she lacks the things you cited? your bitterness is entertaining.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

NP. A grown woman may make her choices on who to date once she turns 18.

HOWEVER, we are free to assess those choices just as we do everyone's social conduct.

If a 19 year old woman chooses to date a thrice-divorced 65 year old, we will assume that he's a creep and she has emotional/mental health issues.

And regarding the PP’s post about her daughter, how should I explain to my daughter that society views her as worthless after the age of 30?

Society? Not true in my experience (40s M), unless you're talking about the social media construct of beauty (and even then, I'd say that "society" probably treats women differently at 50, not 30).

Or by "society" do you mean a minority of superficial men who use their age, experience, and wealth/power to prey upon much younger women?

If that's what you mean, I'd say good riddance. Who wants their daughters to be in a relationship with someone so superficial and manipulative?

oh heaven forbid men ( regardless of socio economic status) make their dating choices. If dating an attractive 25 yr old at 35 is superficial to you then cool story man. I'm sure these folks are having sleepless nights over your opinion

Are you suggesting that it's NOT superficial?

That he's attracted to her b/c of her kindness, emotional maturity, intelligence, life experience?

I didn't think so.

who are you to decide what is or isnt superficial? what makes you think she lacks the things you cited? your bitterness is entertaining.

You do understand that superficial has a literal meaning, right? This isn't a judgment--it's a fact.

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This thread is making me regret marrying a woman older than me

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Anonymous wrote:9 years? NBD to me. My grandfather was 17 years older than my grandmother, which to me is too much, but hey. Adults are adults.

It's not as bad as Trump...isn't he like 30yrs older than Melania? ickkkkk

Men married to younger women live longer.

The President is 22 years older than his wife. Three past presidents had even bigger age differences with their wives, and JFK was 12 years older than his wife. Warren Harding and Richard Nixon were younger than their wives.

The president of France has a wife who is 26 years older than he is. Iccckkk, right?

Padma Lakshmi (who is very left-wing) routinely dates and has married men 25 or 30 or more years older than she is--is she gross?

Hugh Hefner (a rich liberal) had a wife who was 66 years younger than he was. Alec Baldwin (rich liberal) married a woman 36 years younger than he is. Is he a creep? Harrison Ford's wife (Calista Flockhart) is 22 years younger. Steve Martin's wife is 36 years younger, Michael Douglas's wife is 26 years younger, John Cleese's wife is 31 years younger, and Humphrey Bogart's wife was 25 years younger. All bad guys, right?

stop with your objective analysis, logic and facts. that has no place here. this is a forum uniquely catering to the unassailable views of angry women who simply bash men for simple reason that the men have a penis.

I suspect the bashing is most frequently from unhappy terminally single late 20s to 40-something spinsters, as well as divorcees. Both of which are competing for high-status men who can attract younger pre-wall women with less baggage and more fertility.

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Anonymous wrote:Not worthless, but less likely to be fertile/pretty

I'm married to an older woman but recognize the statistical reality

A man being married to an older woman will always be "less socially acceptable" than vice versa.

Of course, it's biology. Women only have so many years of fertility and looks begin to fade pretty dramatically post fertility peak. High status men are in demand well into their 40s and 50s.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me regret marrying a woman older than me

I married a woman a year older and it had and has its challenges. She was ready for kids far earlier than me (although it has the benefit of my kids being independent earlier). Her sex drive also tanked a lot earlier than mine - seems to me the older man younger woman dynamic has a better chance of mitigating the natural male-female sex gap.

Love my DW but a younger version of her would make things easier.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

Many of my New England SLAC college classmates married shortly after graduation. A mid-20s medical student is more than old enough to make her own dating decisions. Stop with your retrograde characterization of grown women as easily swindled dainty simpletons. It's disgusting.

This is the same demographic that divorces in their early 30s is it not?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me regret marrying a woman older than me

I married a woman a year older and it had and has its challenges. She was ready for kids far earlier than me (although it has the benefit of my kids being independent earlier). Her sex drive also tanked a lot earlier than mine - seems to me the older man younger woman dynamic has a better chance of mitigating the natural male-female sex gap.

Love my DW but a younger version of her would make things easier.

Yeah. I married a great person but I wish everything could have happened in a universe where she was younger than me instead of older

It bugs me that I get less of her youthful years

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Anonymous wrote:Cool. He can pay off her $200k ugrad loans and $400k med school loans and maybe she can make over $30k a year in 6-8 years time. Good deal. He can also be 45 yo when she is finally ready to have kids and not be working 80 hours a week.

This is exhibit A of the jealousy that others are talking about. There is nothing remotely odd about the age difference of 35-24, and the haters are insecure women and jealous men. I assume there are far more of the former than the latter.

Actually it’s a great point about the student loans and when the woman will be able to start a family.

Not everyone who gets MD or PhD has student loans. Or do you ASS U ME because a person is young, educated and beautiful he or she MUST have student loans?

No one who gets a PhD has grad student loans dumbass. I bet you were snorting and high fiving yourself for that stupid ASSUME joke though weren’t you?

YUP- I also snort & high five as I read dumbass comments from jealous old bags

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me regret marrying a woman older than me

I married a woman a year older and it had and has its challenges. She was ready for kids far earlier than me (although it has the benefit of my kids being independent earlier). Her sex drive also tanked a lot earlier than mine - seems to me the older man younger woman dynamic has a better chance of mitigating the natural male-female sex gap.

Love my DW but a younger version of her would make things easier.

Yeah. I married a great person but I wish everything could have happened in a universe where she was younger than me instead of older

It bugs me that I get less of her youthful years

Interesting. I'm female and have always been with older men, and it was also a struggle. I usually had way more energy and they couldn't really keep up with me. It was manageable when dating, but in marriage I really feel like I'm being held back. Would love to be with a 24 year old like the guy in the OP!

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Anonymous wrote:9 years? NBD to me. My grandfather was 17 years older than my grandmother, which to me is too much, but hey. Adults are adults.

It's not as bad as Trump...isn't he like 30yrs older than Melania? ickkkkk

Men married to younger women live longer.

The President is 22 years older than his wife. Three past presidents had even bigger age differences with their wives, and JFK was 12 years older than his wife. Warren Harding and Richard Nixon were younger than their wives.

The president of France has a wife who is 26 years older than he is. Iccckkk, right?

Padma Lakshmi (who is very left-wing) routinely dates and has married men 25 or 30 or more years older than she is--is she gross?

Hugh Hefner (a rich liberal) had a wife who was 66 years younger than he was. Alec Baldwin (rich liberal) married a woman 36 years younger than he is. Is he a creep? Harrison Ford's wife (Calista Flockhart) is 22 years younger. Steve Martin's wife is 36 years younger, Michael Douglas's wife is 26 years younger, John Cleese's wife is 31 years younger, and Humphrey Bogart's wife was 25 years younger. All bad guys, right?

stop with your objective analysis, logic and facts. that has no place here. this is a forum uniquely catering to the unassailable views of angry women who simply bash men for simple reason that the men have a penis.

I suspect the bashing is most frequently from unhappy terminally single late 20s to 40-something spinsters, as well as divorcees. Both of which are competing for high-status men who can attract younger pre-wall women with less baggage and more fertility.

What is “pre-wall?”

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Anonymous wrote:Cool. He can pay off her $200k ugrad loans and $400k med school loans and maybe she can make over $30k a year in 6-8 years time. Good deal. He can also be 45 yo when she is finally ready to have kids and not be working 80 hours a week.

This is exhibit A of the jealousy that others are talking about. There is nothing remotely odd about the age difference of 35-24, and the haters are insecure women and jealous men. I assume there are far more of the former than the latter.

Actually it’s a great point about the student loans and when the woman will be able to start a family.

Not everyone who gets MD or PhD has student loans. Or do you ASS U ME because a person is young, educated and beautiful he or she MUST have student loans?

No one who gets a PhD has grad student loans dumbass. I bet you were snorting and high fiving yourself for that stupid ASSUME joke though weren’t you?

YUP- I also snort & high five as I read dumbass comments from jealous old bags

You high five yourself? Good lord, that's sad.