35yo guy husband works with brought 24yo woman to a wedding. Everyone gave him a hard time, why?

[Anonymous]

Not excusing being rude to the woman but that's a big age gap, especially at their respective life stages. A little teasing is to be expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not excusing being rude to the woman but that's a big age gap, especially at their respective life stages. A little teasing is to be expected.

That’s not a big age gap IMO. But I know lots of couples with significant age differences. Besides, if someone asked her how old she is that was rude.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get how dating a med student is a “pragmatic” choice for a 35 yo man interested in having children.

If you’re going for the brood cow angle of dating a much younger woman, a med student doesn’t fit in the picture.

[Anonymous]

Well, that is a big age gap. And she is in school still and had likely never had a job. He is over a decade older than her and has probably been out of school and working at least a decade. I can’t imagine they have a lot in common right now.

Also, not very pragmatic like a PP said. As a med student, she had a couple more years of med school, plus a few more of residency and possibly a fellowship. She probably won’t be wanting to have kids for several more years. If he is looking to settle down and start a family, he would fare better with someone 26+ and done with school.

But who knows. I don’t think it is gossip worthy in the least and if they are happy, great. Just not what I would expect for a 35 year old professional.

[Anonymous]

Jealousy but also, it is a little gross. Although when I was 25 I dated a 35 year old. :0

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because women hate pretty women. Always have, always will

Women especially hate prettier, younger and a future doctor to boot. Jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because women hate pretty women. Always have, always will

Women especially hate prettier, younger and a future doctor to boot. Jealousy.

and look at all the projecting by many of the posters here....yet they may have far different stories and experiences in their own lives, much to the contradiction of what the say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because women hate pretty women. Always have, always will

Women especially hate prettier, younger and a future doctor to boot. Jealousy.

I am a woman and appreciate any and all attractive educated women. It’s called self-esteem. Nothing to be gained by hating on or tearing down anyone else, and I have no inclination to!

[Anonymous]

The women they work with were probably jealous that he was with someone other than them! They’d like to play “Doctor” with him but he’d prefer a smart med student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because women hate pretty women. Always have, always will

Women especially hate prettier, younger and a future doctor to boot. Jealousy.

and look at all the projecting by many of the posters here....yet they may have far different stories and experiences in their own lives, much to the contradiction of what the say.

Not projecting just an observation. DH and I have the same age difference and I am an MD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's a big age gap. Often men like that have issues. It's a little sleazy.

I have no idea if the dude has issues, but I don't find a 10 year age gap sleazy when they are both adults. It's not like she's a senior in college.

[Anonymous]

People jump to jealousy, like “oh, soooooo jealous that she’s young and smart and fab” and I’m not saying that that’s not a possibility, but sometimes people get a little tipsy and do some idle gossip at weddings because it’s more interesting than the usual small talk. Some people sh*ttalk out of boredom. They’d do it if she was 25 and ugly and unemployed too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, that is a big age gap. And she is in school still and had likely never had a job. He is over a decade older than her and has probably been out of school and working at least a decade. I can’t imagine they have a lot in common right now.

Also, not very pragmatic like a PP said. As a med student, she had a couple more years of med school, plus a few more of residency and possibly a fellowship. She probably won’t be wanting to have kids for several more years. If he is looking to settle down and start a family, he would fare better with someone 26+ and done with school.

But who knows. I don’t think it is gossip worthy in the least and if they are happy, great. Just not what I would expect for a 35 year old professional.

I think you are over thinking this. Maybe she was just a date and he was hoping for a little “honeymoon” later that evening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, that is a big age gap. And she is in school still and had likely never had a job. He is over a decade older than her and has probably been out of school and working at least a decade. I can’t imagine they have a lot in common right now.

Also, not very pragmatic like a PP said. As a med student, she had a couple more years of med school, plus a few more of residency and possibly a fellowship. She probably won’t be wanting to have kids for several more years. If he is looking to settle down and start a family, he would fare better with someone 26+ and done with school.

But who knows. I don’t think it is gossip worthy in the least and if they are happy, great. Just not what I would expect for a 35 year old professional.

I think you are over thinking this. Maybe she was just a date and he was hoping for a little “honeymoon” later that evening.

Very true

[Anonymous]

They were just joking around, I hope?

My husband is 18 years older than I am. My cousin married someone 12 years younger than him.

It happens.