35yo guy husband works with brought 24yo woman to a wedding. Everyone gave him a hard time, why?

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OP, I'm interested in how her age came up. I'm sure he didn't introduce her as "my girlfriend Mary, who is 24!" How did people know her age?

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Anonymous wrote:That's a big age gap. Often men like that have issues. It's a little sleazy.

But it fits in, barely, to the how-young-can-a-man-go formula of His Age/2 + 7.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

Many of my New England SLAC college classmates married shortly after graduation. A mid-20s medical student is more than old enough to make her own dating decisions. Stop with your retrograde characterization of grown women as easily swindled dainty simpletons. It's disgusting.

This is the same demographic that divorces in their early 30s is it not?

Maybe that’s just your wish so you can rationalize why you didn’t marry young? None of those couples have divorced. They’re happy as hell with 2-4 kids, which they created naturally I might add.

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I finally cracked this title,,, 35 yo guy, husband works with, brought 24 yo woman to a wedding. Commas make a huge difference

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Anonymous wrote:My friends and I would give him a hard time too, because that's what you do when your friend dates someone much younger.

But we wouldn't give HER a hard time. We'd be nice. She might be a cool person.

Appropriate! I'm with someone ten years older (met at 28/38) and 8 years later I don't think anyone thinks about it at all. I honestly don't think it is about the number of years, but where you are in your life station. In my own relationship, I had lived in 14 countries, left home at 16, moved up the career ladder, and was earning 6 figures at that point. I think it's the early 20s that make people sort of nervous. That tends to be a very transitory time for a lot of people and can set them up for failure and success longterm so there is some concern they have only just embarked on their own path. If you are a woman and this doesn't work well, it can be disastrous, so some of us women are weary about much older men swooping in to take care of it all, ie. "you don't need to finish med school!etc." for the very young. It has nothing to do with jealousy, and is sometimes based on personal experience and what we see around us. DCUM in some ways skews liberal, but the relationship forum man...I live in DC and I sometimes don't recognize these "truths" spouted here, particularly around relationships between men and women. (ie. women hate sex, they get fat, divorced men in their 50s are almost universally studs, "high drive" concept, "nags me contantly," etc.)

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

Many of my New England SLAC college classmates married shortly after graduation. A mid-20s medical student is more than old enough to make her own dating decisions. Stop with your retrograde characterization of grown women as easily swindled dainty simpletons. It's disgusting.

This is the same demographic that divorces in their early 30s is it not?

Maybe that’s just your wish so you can rationalize why you didn’t marry young? None of those couples have divorced. They’re happy as hell with 2-4 kids, which they created naturally I might add.

Marrying and “naturally” popping out kids young isn’t everyone’s ultimate life goal anymore, nor is it a grand accomplishment.

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I'm sorry your mom felt that way about you, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

Many of my New England SLAC college classmates married shortly after graduation. A mid-20s medical student is more than old enough to make her own dating decisions. Stop with your retrograde characterization of grown women as easily swindled dainty simpletons. It's disgusting.

This is the same demographic that divorces in their early 30s is it not?

Maybe that’s just your wish so you can rationalize why you didn’t marry young? None of those couples have divorced. They’re happy as hell with 2-4 kids, which they created naturally I might add. [/quote


Got it. It’s your friends group. That explains your intensity.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

Many of my New England SLAC college classmates married shortly after graduation. A mid-20s medical student is more than old enough to make her own dating decisions. Stop with your retrograde characterization of grown women as easily swindled dainty simpletons. It's disgusting.

This is the same demographic that divorces in their early 30s is it not?

Maybe that’s just your wish so you can rationalize why you didn’t marry young? None of those couples have divorced. They’re happy as hell with 2-4 kids, which they created naturally I might add.

The woman I know who has struggled the most with fertility started trying to have kids at 22. Took months to get pregnant and had multiple stillbirths. Meanwhile I waited until my 30s and I get knocked up if my DH even looks at me the wrong (right?) way.

Agree that women in their 20s are adults who can make their own decisions, but the bit about conceiving naturally really has nothing to do with the topic.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

Many of my New England SLAC college classmates married shortly after graduation. A mid-20s medical student is more than old enough to make her own dating decisions. Stop with your retrograde characterization of grown women as easily swindled dainty simpletons. It's disgusting.

This is the same demographic that divorces in their early 30s is it not?

Maybe that’s just your wish so you can rationalize why you didn’t marry young? None of those couples have divorced. They’re happy as hell with 2-4 kids, which they created naturally I might add. [/quote


Got it. It’s your friends group. That explains your intensity.

I’m guessing that PP is ironically trying to rationalize being tied down at 23.

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Anonymous wrote:9 years? NBD to me. My grandfather was 17 years older than my grandmother, which to me is too much, but hey. Adults are adults.

It's not as bad as Trump...isn't he like 30yrs older than Melania? ickkkkk

Men married to younger women live longer.

The President is 22 years older than his wife. Three past presidents had even bigger age differences with their wives, and JFK was 12 years older than his wife. Warren Harding and Richard Nixon were younger than their wives.

The president of France has a wife who is 26 years older than he is. Iccckkk, right?

Padma Lakshmi (who is very left-wing) routinely dates and has married men 25 or 30 or more years older than she is--is she gross?

Hugh Hefner (a rich liberal) had a wife who was 66 years younger than he was. Alec Baldwin (rich liberal) married a woman 36 years younger than he is. Is he a creep? Harrison Ford's wife (Calista Flockhart) is 22 years younger. Steve Martin's wife is 36 years younger, Michael Douglas's wife is 26 years younger, John Cleese's wife is 31 years younger, and Humphrey Bogart's wife was 25 years younger. All bad guys, right?

stop with your objective analysis, logic and facts. that has no place here. this is a forum uniquely catering to the unassailable views of angry women who simply bash men for simple reason that the men have a penis.

I suspect the bashing is most frequently from unhappy terminally single late 20s to 40-something spinsters, as well as divorcees. Both of which are competing for high-status men who can attract younger pre-wall women with less baggage and more fertility.

What is “pre-wall?”

The "wall" refers to the apparently precipitous drop in fertility and attractiveness of women sometime in their early thirties.

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The "wall" refers to the apparently precipitous drop in fertility and attractiveness of women sometime in their early thirties.

Appearance, physical beauty. Forget that fertility crap.

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Anonymous wrote:9 years? NBD to me. My grandfather was 17 years older than my grandmother, which to me is too much, but hey. Adults are adults.

It's not as bad as Trump...isn't he like 30yrs older than Melania? ickkkkk

Men married to younger women live longer.

The President is 22 years older than his wife. Three past presidents had even bigger age differences with their wives, and JFK was 12 years older than his wife. Warren Harding and Richard Nixon were younger than their wives.

The president of France has a wife who is 26 years older than he is. Iccckkk, right?

Padma Lakshmi (who is very left-wing) routinely dates and has married men 25 or 30 or more years older than she is--is she gross?

Hugh Hefner (a rich liberal) had a wife who was 66 years younger than he was. Alec Baldwin (rich liberal) married a woman 36 years younger than he is. Is he a creep? Harrison Ford's wife (Calista Flockhart) is 22 years younger. Steve Martin's wife is 36 years younger, Michael Douglas's wife is 26 years younger, John Cleese's wife is 31 years younger, and Humphrey Bogart's wife was 25 years younger. All bad guys, right?

stop with your objective analysis, logic and facts. that has no place here. this is a forum uniquely catering to the unassailable views of angry women who simply bash men for simple reason that the men have a penis.

I suspect the bashing is most frequently from unhappy terminally single late 20s to 40-something spinsters, as well as divorcees. Both of which are competing for high-status men who can attract younger pre-wall women with less baggage and more fertility.

What is “pre-wall?”

The "wall" refers to the apparently precipitous drop in fertility and attractiveness of women sometime in their early thirties.

Whoever uses or abides by this notion is f-ed up.

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The "wall" refers to the apparently precipitous drop in fertility and attractiveness of women sometime in their early thirties.

Appearance, physical beauty. Forget that fertility crap.

Peak fertility closely aligns with outward beauty. It’s freaking biology.

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Hitting the wall refers to rapidly aging in a short period