If you’ve considered suicide, what keeps you from doing it?

[Anonymous]

I have kids and a husband, and I can't imagine the trauma it would cause them. I love them too much to ever put them through that.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks

My religion. The worry that my children would be more suicide prone afterwards. Thought of leaving my youngest two orphaned (as DH has a life-threatening illness).

[Anonymous]

My mom committed suicide.
It absolutely shattered our family and none of us really recovered. Her act has colored almost every aspect and major decision of my life. I also live in fear that someone else in my family will do the same thing.
If you have family--parents, siblings, children, good friends--please know that you will devastate them if you take your life. If you love them, seek help for your depression.

[Anonymous]

10000% my kids. Next, the fear that I'll be somehow punished by God/in afterlife/reincarnated into even more unhappiness which I realize is silly but the permanency without certainty I could in fact just be done with feeling is too risky for me.

Without my kids Is prob volunteer in situations where I could find death over a noble cause.

I've never ever been scared of death. I find life to be a kind of hell. The philosophers teach that life actually is about compassion and suffering. Death is actually the way to peace. This mortal life is so full of pain. The thing is I don't know suicide will grant the gift of peace - ultimately that's what holds me back. I used to believe that the most enlightened and most deserving of us - the truly good and beautiful get to die sooner than later.

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Anonymous wrote:Because permanent solutions to temporary problems are illogical

That’s not always true. For example, a convicted sex offender or other really terrible crimes. That’s not going to go away. Id prob do an Epstein, too

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Anonymous wrote:I don't approach this from a Christian nor from New Age ethics.

Thirty years ago I dishonored the ancestors. There's only one sanction for that.

I have two options. Either achieve something in my own field akin to the Manhattan Project or winning a Pulitzer. Or doing what honor requires according to Bushido.

Which frowns on if not prohibits modern expedients such as ballistics or pharmaceuticals. No triple gainer from a highrise into your parked SUV.
Taking the euthanasic way out would only leverage my disgrace and afix it to my family forever. Compound the shame.

Am still working on achieving something notable. The token isn't fame. It's mastery...excellence. Nothing I've done in life amounts to a bucket of cold spit compared to what many of you have done.

I have no spouse, no children. It's debatable who would note my passing. Maybe nobody, and in no event would there be a hue and cry.

The other option requires adhering to a centuries-old protocol. Using a large blade among other things. I"m not a minnow wriggling on someone else's hook...I"m exactly where I deserve to be given what I have done or failed to do.

I'm too much of a coward to do what honor requires.

Unless my would-be rescuer understood and lived my values there's nothing they could say that would speak to the center of the issue.

Is the ancient code of honor I try to live by more important than your approval? Yes.

This is really thought provoking. Has it occurred that even a post like this has measure that you may not be able to account for? How can uou measure all of the excellence you provide to the universe in ways that you may not even realize?

I respect your values even though I disagree. I may also disagree on whether your contributions to this world are most analogous to a bucket of spit. I hope you are able to identify the gratification of mastery in many areas of your life, so you can live each day of life in full confidence and peace.

[Anonymous]

Many things can keep people from committing suicide. Family, pets, religion, feeling a responsibilty over someone else.

If you believe in the afterlife at all though is enough reason not to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:movement. Honestly.
I’ve had suicidal thoughts for most of my life. My first suicide attempt was at age 8. When I start to enter the spiral I get up and move. It sounds simple but it works. I don’t care if it’s 2pm or 2am. I’ll do a few sun salutations or circuits. The release of emphorphins in my brain almost always gets me out of the immediate spiral. I still feel sad- but not dangerously so.
Keep talking. Keep showing up.
Peace to you.

Were you molested? What or why drives an 8 year old in such fashion? This is disturbing.

[Anonymous]

OP you are a worthy person. Lots of resources listed. Call a hotline. Call a friend. Accept help. If you are contemplating suicide it means you are in a dark place, it does not mean that life is dark or that there’s no reason to live.

[Anonymous]

For now my son. I actually wish I had someone I could entrust him to so that i could just cease to exist. Like others, I feel like he’d be best off without me. But I will contact my doctor about adjusting my meds.

[Anonymous]

The fact that my dad shot and killed himself when I was eleven. The gunshot woke me up. I'll hear that in my memory as long as I live. I am almost 49 now. It marks your soul.

[Anonymous]

If I had life insurance, I would.

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Anonymous wrote:Because permanent solutions to temporary problems are illogical

I hate that that phrase is always getting trotted out. My temporary problems are not temporary. I've had them for 40-ish years. They're not going anywhere. [/quote

Maybe with some help, the problems can be viewed from a different situation. Blessings and I wish you peace.

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Anonymous wrote:My dogs, honestly. I love them so much and I know no one would treat them the way I do. My family, second. I have seen the effects of suicide on family and it is devestating. If I went through with it I would do everything I could to make it look like an accident to try to make it easier on my family.

I know, I love my family so much, but my dog is the one who sits with me every night on my lap, especially when my daughter is gone at her Dad's and I m alone in a big house. Pure love. Apply that same idea to the people that love you so much. I don't have a lot of friends. But the friends, family and.my pets do love me.

Hang in there. Losa love and peace to you!

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Anonymous wrote:What stopped me from obsessing about suicide (which I did from 9-22 years old) was that I told myself that I will definitely do it when I'm older. I know that sounds weird. I promised myself I would do it at a later time and, each time I thought about it, I reminded myself it was settled and I am(was) going to do it when I'm older. Eventually, I stopped thinking about suicide or even considering it as an option. I am 48 years old now and I am content to live my life and to see it through to the end.

I get it. It's a way to maintain some sense of control over your life, which many times is huge reason for depression. No one likes to feel out of control. This is a way to buy time and hopefully in the interim you find some peace and a new perspective.