Ladies did you have a salary requirement for a future husband?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes absolutely. It would be stupid to not consider how much a partner makes and how much debt they have. And if that is enough for you to live the kind of life you want (both for you and future kids).

For me, the minimum income needed to be high enough to support me being a SAHM because raising my own children is extremely important to me. Also being able to afford a house in a great public school district or private schools and reliable vehicles.

Picking a hard working, high earning spouse who can provide for his family and provide every opportunity for your children together to thrive and be successful is smart partnering- not gold digging. Of course there are other aspects too to consider and look for in a mate besides this-but to pretend like money shouldn't at all be considered is naive.

And how has that worked out for you so far?

Fabulous. We've been married a long time and have great children .

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Not an actual salary bracket, but steady income, yes.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. At least as much as me.

That's what I tell young men--never marry anyone who doesn't make at least as much as you do, and never let her stay at home. All you'll be doing is buying yourself an expensive couch warmer and an expensive divorce.

When it became clear early in my marriage that my double-PhD wife had no intention of working (even when we had no children) I should have dumped her.

I have both male and female relatives who have gotten burned by do-nothing spouses in divorces so I would certainly tell my children the same (have a boy and a girl). I’ve always earned about the same money as my husband and either of us could pay all the bills if the other got fired. We never fight about money. We sleep well at night.

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Sorta.

My mother was a young ish widow so I think it’s important for either spouse to be able to support the family. But I don’t expect DH to do what I can’t do myself.

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Salary requirement? No.

Job? Yes. He should have a job. He should be gainfully employed with a drive toward something and a vision in life.

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Anonymous wrote:No. If he’s steadily employed and financially responsible, that’s enough.

Agreed. Wanted to marry a grownup who could hold down a job and pay his bills (as I do myself) but I didn't have any kind of salary requirement.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean I don’t even understand how you figure that out? Do you make him fill out a questionnaire before you go on a date?

I've had several dates here in the DC area with mid-40's women who basically are asking questionnaire type questions. This is prevalent in this area with divorced women. Shallow serial daters

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No, but if I ever get remarried, I will require a prenuptial agreement. I wouldn't want to marry a gold digger. So he can come with what he comes with and I come and leave with what I came with. Also, not a chance in hell would I ever pay a penny of spousal support.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. At least as much as me.

That would be too hard for me, It would eliminate 99% of the dating pool.

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I was again single at 36. Went on Tinder. Met a guy who was also 36, lived in a share-house, and was “thinking of going back to school.” I lived alone in a condo I owned and had an established career as a lawyer. The guy and I also didn’t click, but I thought about what I wanted.

I love women who think they're big shit because they own a condo.

Well in DC a lot of us bought condos that were half a million or more and that speaks to our own success. Are you a man?

A half-million dollar mortgage makes you a big shot?

When you buy it on your own in your 20s with no family or spouse to help? Yeah it’s a big deal. considering how many two earner households can’t even afford to buy in the area? What’s wrong with you?

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Anonymous wrote:Did you only date men above a certain income?
If so what was it? How old were you?
How old was your now husband?

The IRS should start a matching agency for lunatics like OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes absolutely. It would be stupid to not consider how much a partner makes and how much debt they have. And if that is enough for you to live the kind of life you want (both for you and future kids).

For me, the minimum income needed to be high enough to support me being a SAHM because raising my own children is extremely important to me. Also being able to afford a house in a great public school district or private schools and reliable vehicles.

Picking a hard working, high earning spouse who can provide for his family and provide every opportunity for your children together to thrive and be successful is smart partnering- not gold digging. Of course there are other aspects too to consider and look for in a mate besides this-but to pretend like money shouldn't at all be considered is naive.

And how has that worked out for you so far?

Fabulous. We've been married a long time and have great children .

+1. Some women on this board just can’t accept that many men are happy with this scenario.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but if I ever get remarried, I will require a prenuptial agreement. I wouldn't want to marry a gold digger. So he can come with what he comes with and I come and leave with what I came with. Also, not a chance in hell would I ever pay a penny of spousal support.

Prenups do not eliminate the possibility of spousal support.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean I don’t even understand how you figure that out? Do you make him fill out a questionnaire before you go on a date?

I've had several dates here in the DC area with mid-40's women who basically are asking questionnaire type questions. This is prevalent in this area with divorced women. Shallow serial daters

But older men wanting to date only "hot" young women is not shallow, right? LOL

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I was again single at 36. Went on Tinder. Met a guy who was also 36, lived in a share-house, and was “thinking of going back to school.” I lived alone in a condo I owned and had an established career as a lawyer. The guy and I also didn’t click, but I thought about what I wanted.

I love women who think they're big shit because they own a condo.

Well in DC a lot of us bought condos that were half a million or more and that speaks to our own success. Are you a man?

A half-million dollar mortgage makes you a big shot?

When you buy it on your own in your 20s with no family or spouse to help? Yeah it’s a big deal. considering how many two earner households can’t even afford to buy in the area? What’s wrong with you?

By the time I was 30 I had a PhD, a wife, two cars, and a house, just like everyone else I graduated with from college. Wife didn't work, either. Not impressed by your condo.