Ladies did you have a salary requirement for a future husband?

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Anonymous wrote:I mean I don’t even understand how you figure that out? Do you make him fill out a questionnaire before you go on a date?

I've had several dates here in the DC area with mid-40's women who basically are asking questionnaire type questions. This is prevalent in this area with divorced women. Shallow serial daters

But older men wanting to date only "hot" young women is not shallow, right? LOL

Did he make that statement?

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People saying money doesn’t matter are lying. I doubt you would date an assistant manager at Red Lobster.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. At least as much as me.

That would be too hard for me, It would eliminate 99% of the dating pool.

well hello there, lovely lady....

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Yes, of course I do. No where near my salary, because that would eliminate most of my dating pool. But if a guy my age isn’t pulling near to $150k, he’s been doing a lot of things wrong over the years, and it’s likely a big red flag that somethings wrong with him.

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I was again single at 36. Went on Tinder. Met a guy who was also 36, lived in a share-house, and was “thinking of going back to school.” I lived alone in a condo I owned and had an established career as a lawyer. The guy and I also didn’t click, but I thought about what I wanted.

I love women who think they're big shit because they own a condo.

Well in DC a lot of us bought condos that were half a million or more and that speaks to our own success. Are you a man?

A half-million dollar mortgage makes you a big shot?

When you buy it on your own in your 20s with no family or spouse to help? Yeah it’s a big deal. considering how many two earner households can’t even afford to buy in the area? What’s wrong with you?

By the time I was 30 I had a PhD, a wife, two cars, and a house, just like everyone else I graduated with from college. Wife didn't work, either. Not impressed by your condo.

NP here. What’s your point or are you just being a douche?

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People do this?

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Anonymous wrote:People saying money doesn’t matter are lying. I doubt you would date an assistant manager at Red Lobster.

Or a Metro Bus driver (even though they get paid more than assistant managers at Red Lobster).

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I do. No where near my salary, because that would eliminate most of my dating pool. But if a guy my age isn’t pulling near to $150k, he’s been doing a lot of things wrong over the years, and it’s likely a big red flag that somethings wrong with him.

The percentage of people who gross $150K+ is around 10% for this area. If you’re eliminating 9 out of 10 prospects based solely on income, and your dating plan isn’t working, you might want to look at that.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but if I ever get remarried, I will require a prenuptial agreement. I wouldn't want to marry a gold digger. So he can come with what he comes with and I come and leave with what I came with. Also, not a chance in hell would I ever pay a penny of spousal support.

Prenups do not eliminate the possibility of spousal support.

Depending on the state you are in they most certainly can. Child support can't and shouldn't be avoided, but a prenup absolutely can eliminate alimony.

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Anonymous wrote:People saying money doesn’t matter are lying. I doubt you would date an assistant manager at Red Lobster.

I did! Because he was funny and good looking. However, he wanted babies and I was finished with all that.

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Anonymous wrote:No income requirement, particularly as we met midway through college. And based on our majors, it was clear that in our future my salary would always be significantly less than his (I actively pointed this out to him early on, it's a notoriously low paying career), so who was I to judge? I will concede, as have a couple of PPs, that overall employability and reliability was important to me. If DH had flaked out senior year, it would have been a different story. But if he had decided he wanted to be an elementary school teacher instead of an engineer, it would still have been fine.

Right. My parents met in college and married when they were 22. My mom always said, "I didn't know exactly what your dad would do throughout his career, but I saw from the beginning that he is creative, works hard, and can hustle, so I had confidence in him." She told me to look for character traits more than the specific area of employment, especially when I was dating in my 20s. If you're dating in your 30s or 40s, specific employment is probably more important, since there's just less time to figure things out.

This was me. I met my DH in college. He grew up without much and had been working since middle school (odd jobs, then part time retail, car wash, mechanic, office job). His character was solid. He was resourceful and ambitious but not proud. Now he is 42 and a C-level exec for a mid-size company. Had I met him later in life, I probably would have expected he have a stable job but I doubt I'd have a specific salary in mind. That just seems weird to me.

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Pretty much yep. Married in grad school. It’s worked out so far. DH makes 7 figures and we have 4 kids. I guess I picked right.

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50 bajillion dollars per year and an eight inch nightly bonus.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I do. No where near my salary, because that would eliminate most of my dating pool. But if a guy my age isn’t pulling near to $150k, he’s been doing a lot of things wrong over the years, and it’s likely a big red flag that somethings wrong with him.

So a guy your age who’s a teacher or a firefighter is doing a lot of things wrong. Got it! Stay classy there. #Priorities

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Anonymous wrote:Yes absolutely. It would be stupid to not consider how much a partner makes and how much debt they have. And if that is enough for you to live the kind of life you want (both for you and future kids).

For me, the minimum income needed to be high enough to support me being a SAHM because raising my own children is extremely important to me. Also being able to afford a house in a great public school district or private schools and reliable vehicles.

Picking a hard working, high earning spouse who can provide for his family and provide every opportunity for your children together to thrive and be successful is smart partnering- not gold digging. Of course there are other aspects too to consider and look for in a mate besides this-but to pretend like money shouldn't at all be considered is naive.

And how has that worked out for you so far?

Fabulous. We've been married a long time and have great children .

+1. Some women on this board just can’t accept that many men are happy with this scenario.

Of course they are. And if you’re happy whoring yourself out, then awesome. Win-win.