Ladies did you have a salary requirement for a future husband?

[Anonymous]

Did you only date men above a certain income?
If so what was it? How old were you?
How old was your now husband?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

[Anonymous]

No. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

I mean I don’t even understand how you figure that out? Do you make him fill out a questionnaire before you go on a date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

Hilarious. You tried to say ‘no’ but really said ‘yes’ — obviously you were not happy with his current salary when you were dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

Hilarious. You tried to say ‘no’ but really said ‘yes’ — obviously you were not happy with his current salary when you were dating.

Haha was just thinking the same thing. Would you be as in love with him if he was still making 35k?

[Anonymous]

No. If he’s steadily employed and financially responsible, that’s enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

Hilarious. You tried to say ‘no’ but really said ‘yes’ — obviously you were not happy with his current salary when you were dating.

I saw his potential AS A PERSON. Jeez.

HE wasn't happy with his salary at the time, given that he was on the brink of bankruptcy. This was in the middle of the recession. He wanted more for himself and I admired that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

Hilarious. You tried to say ‘no’ but really said ‘yes’ — obviously you were not happy with his current salary when you were dating.

Haha was just thinking the same thing. Would you be as in love with him if he was still making 35k?

Of course, but considering he was barely making ends meet at that salary and was miserable, I'm happy he's making more now.

Why are you all so purposefully obtuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

You’re agreeing with PP. You saw his potential to make a lot of money and fell in love with him.

Pot meet kettle

[Anonymous]

No, otherwise I would have married someone a lot richer. Lol.

[Anonymous]

I do! I can’t believe all these no’s. In my mind, it’s just good financial planning. I go for men who at least have a real potential to make 150k-200k by 35 or so, if they aren’t already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

You’re agreeing with PP. You saw his potential to make a lot of money and fell in love with him.

Pot meet kettle

When did I say that? You're reading into it and making assumptions. I saw his potential AS A PERSON. I care that he's making more because, at the time, he was on the brink of declaring bankruptcy and had gained 60 pounds from depression.

When I said "potential," I meant I saw in him the ability to craft a happier life for himself. One where he wasn't depressed, in poverty, and unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

No, but I started dating my spouse in college. If I was dating now in my 30s I would definitely have a baseline self-sufficiency and financial responsibility requirement. I wouldn’t get serious with a man that spends every dollar he gets, no matter what his actual income number is.