Ladies did you have a salary requirement for a future husband?

[Anonymous]

If you're picking a spouse based on a finite metric, such as how many acorns he can collect, then that marriage won't last very long because there'll always be some smarter and quicker squirrel. If we're picking a spouse based on his work, I'd rather base it on how much passion he has in his work and whether he has vision of where he'll end up, rather than just thinking about how many acorns he can collect. Anecdotally speaking, a great high school teacher who can inspire hundreds of future leaders will never ever come close to the salary of money hungry lobbyist for a company like Marlboro.

[Anonymous]

Nope. But now that we’re 40, I sometimes wish one of us had the foresight to choose a better paying career (one of us is in the non-profit sector and the other is a professor). We’re happy, and solvent though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

Hilarious. You tried to say ‘no’ but really said ‘yes’ — obviously you were not happy with his current salary when you were dating.

I saw his potential AS A PERSON. Jeez.

HE wasn't happy with his salary at the time, given that he was on the brink of bankruptcy. This was in the middle of the recession. He wanted more for himself and I admired that.

You’re being intentionally obtuse. This is the equivalent of a surgeon’s wife saying - “ oh we got married when he was a resident making 50K - I don’t care about money at all” wink, wink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're picking a spouse based on a finite metric, such as how many acorns he can collect, then that marriage won't last very long because there'll always be some smarter and quicker squirrel. If we're picking a spouse based on his work, I'd rather base it on how much passion he has in his work and whether he has vision of where he'll end up, rather than just thinking about how many acorns he can collect. Anecdotally speaking, a great high school teacher who can inspire hundreds of future leaders will never ever come close to the salary of money hungry lobbyist for a company like Marlboro.

True. But if you pick a spouse who won’t collect acorns at all, that marriage will not last because it’s really stressful to have to take on all the responsibility in what should be a partnership.

Tell me again how “acorns” don’t matter when it’s winter and you have nothing to offer your children.

[Anonymous]

Newsflash: you can pick a guy who makes major acorns who is also a good guy.

I make 200k+ and have met plenty of wonderful men in various types of finance who make well, well more than me.

[Anonymous]

I guess to put it in reverse, too, why would I marry a guy who doesn’t help me financially?

I can date him and have fun with him and enjoy his company, but at the end of the day, I can have a family and freedom without him as a financially independent woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you only date men above a certain income?

No, of course not.
My now husband was making 80K when we met and drove 18 yo car.
My requirements were - college educated, hard working social climber (who did not walk over people's heads, not a backstabber).
That were ''technical'' requirements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands. I saw his potential and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.

Hilarious. You tried to say ‘no’ but really said ‘yes’ — obviously you were not happy with his current salary when you were dating.

I saw his potential AS A PERSON. Jeez.

HE wasn't happy with his salary at the time, given that he was on the brink of bankruptcy. This was in the middle of the recession. He wanted more for himself and I admired that.

You’re being intentionally obtuse. This is the equivalent of a surgeon’s wife saying - “ oh we got married when he was a resident making 50K - I don’t care about money at all” wink, wink.

That's completely different. As a resident, you'd know he was definitely heading for more money. My husband was barely in the same field he's in now. There was little to no indication he would ever make more than he made at the time. Moreover, he was depressed and on the brink of bankruptcy.

[Anonymous]

No, instead I focused on my own education, career & earning potential. I can take care of myself financially.

I married for a physical and emotional partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Jesus.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're picking a spouse based on a finite metric, such as how many acorns he can collect, then that marriage won't last very long because there'll always be some smarter and quicker squirrel. If we're picking a spouse based on his work, I'd rather base it on how much passion he has in his work and whether he has vision of where he'll end up, rather than just thinking about how many acorns he can collect. Anecdotally speaking, a great high school teacher who can inspire hundreds of future leaders will never ever come close to the salary of money hungry lobbyist for a company like Marlboro.

True. But if you pick a spouse who won’t collect acorns at all, that marriage will not last because it’s really stressful to have to take on all the responsibility in what should be a partnership.

Tell me again how “acorns” don’t matter when it’s winter and you have nothing to offer your children.

There's a difference between a squirrel who won't collect at all versus a squirrel who doesn't collect as much as the next. Hence, the basis that so long as the person has a passion and true ownership of the work he does, acorns would follow. I'm not telling people that finding an unmotivated person is OK.

[Anonymous]

Yes, absolutely I did. All the people on this thread saying "no" are either not telling the truth or made bad choices. I always considered whether or not my date or bf was going to make enough money so I could live a good life. Its dumb not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, absolutely I did. All the people on this thread saying "no" are either not telling the truth or made bad choices. I always considered whether or not my date or bf was going to make enough money so I could live a good life. Its dumb not to.

Whatever. I guarantee my marriage is better than yours. No lies, no bad choices.

[Anonymous]

I think women 35+ definitely do consider this when dating.

[Anonymous]

Dafuq? I hope you are a troll because no one should think like this.