Spanking?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are we talking about other countries?

Because USA thinks they are the best and if another country does something better they get angry.

Ah, no, not at all. Because one very insistent poster wants us all to know that what we are doing is illegal in France (?) and got super crazy when asked if it is actually prosecuted.

There are, of course, many stupid things that are illegal in the US that are not enforced.

When some of you say "spanking," what exactly does that mean? It seems like everyone has different definitions of it.

OP has said that her H hit his child with the intention of inflicting pain. A swat may not hurt, but she specified that he hits him to hurt him not to get his attention.

We don't know what type of "misbehavior" rises to the need for physical pain.

op here. Actually, I gave some examples of the misbehavior.

DH will briefly explain to DS why he's going to get spanked, and he will turn him over his knee and spank him maybe four or five times on the butt. DS cries, DH tells him that we expect better behavior. Over and done with.

I can't find it. Can you post what your child is doing again.

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A couple times he would, totally unprovoked, push his little brother down because he thought watching him fall was hilarious. Another time he kept undoing his car seat straps."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it especially funny when people say, "I was spanked and look at me I'm fine".

Most the time I want to say... you have anxieties, a really bad temper and have you seen yourself on the sidelines of your kids game?

Sure you are okay?!?

Just because you have $$$ does not mean you are okay. They don't even see it.

+1 million

[Anonymous]

Please don't spank. It is archaic behavior and you / DH need to learn other methods of parenting. You may not see the effects of the spanking now, but you may well see them (and not be able to recognize them) later.

Personally, I grew afraid of my father, as he was the one who spanked. I didn't trust my mother, because she didn't protect me from the spanking. It was more emotionally damaging than physically damaging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't spank. It is archaic behavior and you / DH need to learn other methods of parenting. You may not see the effects of the spanking now, but you may well see them (and not be able to recognize them) later.

Personally, I grew afraid of my father, as he was the one who spanked. I didn't trust my mother, because she didn't protect me from the spanking. It was more emotionally damaging than physically damaging.

How often was this happening, and what sort of spanking?

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A couple times he would, totally unprovoked, push his little brother down because he thought watching him fall was hilarious. Another time he kept undoing his car seat straps."

I would do it for the car seat.

I wouldn't for the pushing.

One is literally a danger to his life. The other is just normal behavior that needs to be adjusted.

[Anonymous]

It IS funny to see someone fall down! He's not wrong. That's why prat falls are a thing. That's why this type of thing gets tons of views: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KWVnJfBGbs

Again, the fact that your husband has to hit more than once means that your child is NOT learning from the spankings. You are lazy. Find a different way to discipline.

[Anonymous]

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A couple times he would, totally unprovoked, push his little brother down because he thought watching him fall was hilarious. Another time he kept undoing his car seat straps."

I would do it for the car seat.

I wouldn't for the pushing.

One is literally a danger to his life. The other is just normal behavior that needs to be adjusted.

Pushing his brother down is dangerous to the brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It IS funny to see someone fall down! He's not wrong. That's why prat falls are a thing. That's why this type of thing gets tons of views: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KWVnJfBGbs

Again, the fact that your husband has to hit more than once means that your child is NOT learning from the spankings. You are lazy. Find a different way to discipline.

Are you suggesting that each kid will never need more than one timeout?

[Anonymous]

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A couple times he would, totally unprovoked, push his little brother down because he thought watching him fall was hilarious. Another time he kept undoing his car seat straps."

I would do it for the car seat.

I wouldn't for the pushing.

One is literally a danger to his life. The other is just normal behavior that needs to be adjusted.

When you say you would spank for the car seat, have you spanked before? For what?

[Anonymous]

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A couple times he would, totally unprovoked, push his little brother down because he thought watching him fall was hilarious. Another time he kept undoing his car seat straps."

I would do it for the car seat.

I wouldn't for the pushing.

One is literally a danger to his life. The other is just normal behavior that needs to be adjusted.

I think you have a poor understanding of risk. One car ride unrestrained is a lot safer statistically than a guaranteed fall and hitting your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It IS funny to see someone fall down! He's not wrong. That's why prat falls are a thing. That's why this type of thing gets tons of views: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KWVnJfBGbs

Again, the fact that your husband has to hit more than once means that your child is NOT learning from the spankings. You are lazy. Find a different way to discipline.

So you only gave your child a time out once, and they never did that behavior again? You must have a miracle child. Any discipline method will need to be repeated for it to be effective.

And I'm not a spammer, but your logic is poor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It IS funny to see someone fall down! He's not wrong. That's why prat falls are a thing. That's why this type of thing gets tons of views: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KWVnJfBGbs

Again, the fact that your husband has to hit more than once means that your child is NOT learning from the spankings. You are lazy. Find a different way to discipline.

So you only gave your child a time out once, and they never did that behavior again? You must have a miracle child. Any discipline method will need to be repeated for it to be effective.

And I'm not a spammer, but your logic is poor.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It IS funny to see someone fall down! He's not wrong. That's why prat falls are a thing. That's why this type of thing gets tons of views: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KWVnJfBGbs

Again, the fact that your husband has to hit more than once means that your child is NOT learning from the spankings. You are lazy. Find a different way to discipline.

Are you suggesting that each kid will never need more than one timeout?

I didn't say Timeout is my method of discipline.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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A couple times he would, totally unprovoked, push his little brother down because he thought watching him fall was hilarious. Another time he kept undoing his car seat straps."

I would do it for the car seat.

I wouldn't for the pushing.

One is literally a danger to his life. The other is just normal behavior that needs to be adjusted.

I think you have a poor understanding of risk. One car ride unrestrained is a lot safer statistically than a guaranteed fall and hitting your head.

The little brother is under the age of 4 since the boy in question is 4. Why do you think he's hitting his head? My niece is 2 and falls all the time and has never been severely injured. Hell, half the time she doesn't even cry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It IS funny to see someone fall down! He's not wrong. That's why prat falls are a thing. That's why this type of thing gets tons of views: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KWVnJfBGbs

Again, the fact that your husband has to hit more than once means that your child is NOT learning from the spankings. You are lazy. Find a different way to discipline.

Are you suggesting that each kid will never need more than one timeout?

I didn't say Timeout is my method of discipline.

Please tell us your fool-proof method that your child has only experienced ONCE, and it cured all misbehavior for life. I'd love to hear this.