30s female: How can I be hot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, sounds like you should have married one of those guys who was interested in you back in your 20s.

Nailed it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's true beauty fades and dumb is forever.

Men age like fine wine while women age like milk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Try to avoid being the average 30 year old woman:

- Other Commitments -- Meet my cat, here's my condo, can't grab dinner on Tuesday cause of my X class/event
- Not Flexible -- But I like my dinner/routine/flowers/sex this way not that way
- Ample $ Expectations -- You have a job so you can take me out for dinner every week, get me X for my birthday
- Sanctimonious -- You voted for who? you drive what? no sex until we are exclusive!
- Life's Not Fair -- Reached a point in her career where she can complain non-stop about every chauvinist and work injustice every day
- Ticking Clock -- Photos of relative's/friend's babies as cell phone screen saver, more baby photos around condo
- BMI -- Likely approaching 30. . (https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educational/lose_wt/BMI/bmicalc.htm)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 40s and feel hot. I was at the beach with my 21 year old Au pair who is gorgeous and you know what? As many people talked to me at the bar as talked to her - I'm confident, fun and I look good. Do I look 21? No. But I can still look and feel hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
So can a man in his 30s, 40s, 50s be hot? Sure, no problem if he stays in shape but unlikely because they deteriorate rapidly if they don't take care of themselves. I am the pp in her 50s and in great shape who gets hit on all the time. Most men my age look horrible. Most have let themselves go. So it's not just women who deteriorate rapidly after 30 because you have to work on your appearance when you are no longer young.

Our wallets get fatter as we age, thus our attractiveness increases.

You, on the other hand, rapidly lose market value as you age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 40s and feel hot. I was at the beach with my 21 year old Au pair who is gorgeous and you know what? As many people talked to me at the bar as talked to her - I'm confident, fun and I look good. Do I look 21? No. But I can still look and feel hot.

Not because you were hot. Because you were deemed getable

BINGO!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hotness has as much to do with persona and personality as it does with looks. Smart, confident, fun women with pretty good looks are hotter than a "babe" who is young and dumb. Years ago I was in a store on Long Island and there was this incredibly hot babe standing near me at the cashier. Then she opened her mouth and she was chewing gum and spoke with a heavy Long Island accent. She went from hot to cold in a nano second.

LON-GILAND!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Their main focus when paying attention to you is do you seem interested and easy. That's it mostly. Especially at a bar.

Add into this being reasonably attractive and yes, you have the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The guys who date twentysomethings once they are no longer in their twenties themselves have issues. They are either egomaniacs who like to be the ones in charge and need a much younger wife to boss around and control. They LIKE having her be dependent on him and they LIKE the fact that she will not offer an opinion or add much substance to his intellecttual growth. They do not talk about his career, their finances or even the children. HE works, earns the bacon, buys properties, and provides her the finances to raise the children. Her job is to look pretty, provide frequent sex, have his children and raise them.

Sounds like a model marriage to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to disappoint ladies but I am nearly 32 and nobody ever guesses my age as 'Older than 20 and that's at a push'. Most say 17-18. I am petite, 5'3 and have a very young face. It does happen although rare that women get mistaken as teens in their thirties.

You are dillusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
So can a man in his 30s, 40s, 50s be hot? Sure, no problem if he stays in shape but unlikely because they deteriorate rapidly if they don't take care of themselves. I am the pp in her 50s and in great shape who gets hit on all the time. Most men my age look horrible. Most have let themselves go. So it's not just women who deteriorate rapidly after 30 because you have to work on your appearance when you are no longer young.

Our wallets get fatter as we age, thus our attractiveness increases.

You, on the other hand, rapidly lose market value as you age.

But this is assuming that money and looks are the only qualities valued in people. This may be what YOU value but not necessarily everyone else.

[Anonymous]

OK- I've gotten sucked into this forum -- however appalling a lot of the responses. I'm a 40 yr old "hot" woman and will absolutely say I was an ugly duckling in my 20s compared to my sexy thirties. In my 20s, yes I had fun backpacking around the world and wearing shitty clothes and chopping my hair short pixie cut, and hooked up with a lot of dudes. I was 110 pounds and 5'7" and naturally skinny and ate like a horse.

But my 30s, I joined a gym, lifted weights, got up to a healthier 125 pounds, grew out my hair, highlighted it, and suddenly felt unstoppable - whoosh! -- no longer the DJ dudes I was hooking up with, but CEOs and their planes -- and I was too busy for them because I was in grad school and in private sector killing it - but feeling smoking hot.

It's all about a state of mind. I've quit the need to "feel" hot and in my 40s am into yoga/meditation/letting go of the competition and materialism of my 30s.........

I still feel like each year should get better than the last!

But LOL if you think you've peaked in your 20s, please re-adjust your world view - and focus on your emotional/intellectual growth/maybe polish yourself up inside and out.

Hugs to you!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
It's true beauty fades and dumb is forever.

Men age like fine wine while women age like milk.

This is great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
It's true beauty fades and dumb is forever.

Men age like fine wine while women age like milk.

This is great.

Lol. Some of the men here are delusional. We ALL age like milk. Nobody looks better as they get older.

Some old dude will come on here and say "I work out now so with all my musclez I'm WAY hotter than I was in my 20s". Yea, and if you worked out that intensely in your 20s, guarantee you'd have been hotter at 20. And 20-something guys are hotter than you. You may have more money and a better career, but physically you don't measure up.

Check out the voted hottest celebrities:

http://m.ranker.com/crowdranked-list/the-beautiful-people-the-hottest-celebrities-of-all-time
http://m.ranker.com/crowdranked-list/hottest-male-celebrities

For both male and female, almost all are in their 30s. There are a couple male exceptions that are early 50s, but they have both been famous for a long time and both were much better looking 20 years ago when they gained popularity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK- I've gotten sucked into this forum -- however appalling a lot of the responses. I'm a 40 yr old "hot" woman and will absolutely say I was an ugly duckling in my 20s compared to my sexy thirties. In my 20s, yes I had fun backpacking around the world and wearing shitty clothes and chopping my hair short pixie cut, and hooked up with a lot of dudes. I was 110 pounds and 5'7" and naturally skinny and ate like a horse.

But my 30s, I joined a gym, lifted weights, got up to a healthier 125 pounds, grew out my hair, highlighted it, and suddenly felt unstoppable - whoosh! -- no longer the DJ dudes I was hooking up with, but CEOs and their planes -- and I was too busy for them because I was in grad school and in private sector killing it - but feeling smoking hot.

It's all about a state of mind. I've quit the need to "feel" hot and in my 40s am into yoga/meditation/letting go of the competition and materialism of my 30s.........

I still feel like each year should get better than the last!

But LOL if you think you've peaked in your 20s, please re-adjust your world view - and focus on your emotional/intellectual growth/maybe polish yourself up inside and out.

Hugs to you!!!

And what is your relationship status?