I'm a female sex addict in recovery...ask me anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious OP what do you look like? Are you hot, do you or did you dress provocatively, nice body, pretty ...? Average looking? Above average looking? Sexy librarian type? Or ordinary, a bit overweight, not ugly but not a head turner? Would people be surprised if they found out about your sex addiction?
I knew someone like this, we worked together. I was the one that looked like a "sex bomb" and she exuded ZERO sexuality. She was not bad looking but NOT particularly attractive, dressed plain, no makeup etc. but she was the one with the sex addict type behavior - I always thought at the time she sent a secret sex signal that only her target could pick up on.

I think I'm attractive. 5'5, 110 lbs, long hair, nice smile, nice skin. Nice figure. I don't dress provocatively.

[Anonymous]

Yes you do sound very attractive. I hope you work things out with your husband and with yourself. I can relate to you OP. Fingers crossed you make it to the other side of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes you do sound very attractive. I hope you work things out with your husband and with yourself. I can relate to you OP. Fingers crossed you make it to the other side of this.

Thank you for your kind post.

[Anonymous]

Today the OP who has Stage 4 cancer posted after a long absence. Thankfully, she is doing better after a bad infection, surgery and the difficult life decisions she is making are humbling. My heart goes out to her.

Reading this thread and the OP's self-serving drivel makes me angry. I can find nothing redeemable about you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today the OP who has Stage 4 cancer posted after a long absence. Thankfully, she is doing better after a bad infection, surgery and the difficult life decisions she is making are humbling. My heart goes out to her.

Reading this thread and the OP's self-serving drivel makes me angry. I can find nothing redeemable about you, OP.

OP is sorry for her actions. She is working the steps and taking responsibility for the hurt that she caused.

Yes it's horrible that people get cancer. No one deserves that. But OP is a human being too and is therefore redeemable.

Let us not forget that if you call yourself Christian that Jesus himself chose to seek out the sinners and outcasts. Mary Magdalene is thought to have been a prostutitute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today the OP who has Stage 4 cancer posted after a long absence. Thankfully, she is doing better after a bad infection, surgery and the difficult life decisions she is making are humbling. My heart goes out to her.

Reading this thread and the OP's self-serving drivel makes me angry. I can find nothing redeemable about you, OP.

I can't find this thread but want to read the update too! Could I trouble you to link it for me? Thank you, I think of her often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today the OP who has Stage 4 cancer posted after a long absence. Thankfully, she is doing better after a bad infection, surgery and the difficult life decisions she is making are humbling. My heart goes out to her.

Reading this thread and the OP's self-serving drivel makes me angry. I can find nothing redeemable about you, OP.

I can't find this thread but want to read the update too! Could I trouble you to link it for me? Thank you, I think of her often.

Go back to main page of Off Topic and It is no. 7
Sorry but cannot do links on my phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today the OP who has Stage 4 cancer posted after a long absence. Thankfully, she is doing better after a bad infection, surgery and the difficult life decisions she is making are humbling. My heart goes out to her.

Reading this thread and the OP's self-serving drivel makes me angry. I can find nothing redeemable about you, OP.

I can't find this thread but want to read the update too! Could I trouble you to link it for me? Thank you, I think of her often.

Go back to main page of Off Topic and It is no. 7
Sorry but cannot do links on my phone.

Thank you very much!

[Anonymous]

Op were you sexually abused in the past?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op were you sexually abused in the past?

she already said yes. Why are so many so mean to her here? She's not blaming anyone. She's trying to get better. Doesn't sound like she particularly enjoyed it. Sounds like she was filling emptiness, which deserves empathy, not bitterness. She's got a major struggle ahead with her marriage. She's trying to do right by her husband. Are you this mean to all addicts?

Wishing you strength OP.

[Anonymous]

To the poster who said she could be OPs twin,

Do not fess up to your DH. You will only destroy him. It make me you feel better by confessing, but don't. Get help alone. Do not destroy your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the poster who said she could be OPs twin,

Do not fess up to your DH. You will only destroy him. It make me you feel better by confessing, but don't. Get help alone. Do not destroy your family.

Right because being liar and a cheat is such a better option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the poster who said she could be OPs twin,

Do not fess up to your DH. You will only destroy him. It make me you feel better by confessing, but don't. Get help alone. Do not destroy your family.

Agreed. What he doesn't know isn't hurting him. He's happy. If PP gets help to stop the cheating, then she's acting exactly how her husband already thinks she is and the behavior that would hurt him if he knew of it would be stopped. Don't ruin someone's illusion of happiness, just work to make the illusion true.

I would rather not know, if my marriage and family life was otherwise happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the poster who said she could be OPs twin,

Do not fess up to your DH. You will only destroy him. It make me you feel better by confessing, but don't. Get help alone. Do not destroy your family.

Agreed. What he doesn't know isn't hurting him. He's happy. If PP gets help to stop the cheating, then she's acting exactly how her husband already thinks she is and the behavior that would hurt him if he knew of it would be stopped. Don't ruin someone's illusion of happiness, just work to make the illusion true.

I would rather not know, if my marriage and family life was otherwise happy.

That's you, though. Others of us would rather know the worst truths instead of living a lie, even if the lie was "happier." Some people crave to live an authentic life. Hopefully she knows her husband well enough to know which he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the poster who said she could be OPs twin,

Do not fess up to your DH. You will only destroy him. It make me you feel better by confessing, but don't. Get help alone. Do not destroy your family.

Agreed. What he doesn't know isn't hurting him. He's happy. If PP gets help to stop the cheating, then she's acting exactly how her husband already thinks she is and the behavior that would hurt him if he knew of it would be stopped. Don't ruin someone's illusion of happiness, just work to make the illusion true.

I would rather not know, if my marriage and family life was otherwise happy.

Holy crap! Pp people like you continuously ignore many unhealthy things in your relationship just to maintain the happy marriage image. What a miserable way to live. It's so sad. You may accept and settle for a mediocrity but some of us, normal people, prefer and expect an honest marriage/lifestyle. Giving someone advice to be dishonest in their marriage is awful and not helpful. Misery loves company. Not being honest with your husband is selfish and you don't respect him.