Found a condom in my husband's car

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. The additional condoms and lube tell you all you need to know in terms of knowing he's had sex with at least one other person if not people.

Honestly, and maybe it's just because this happens to me, the lube plus car condoms suggests same-sex anonymous hookup to me. There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked. If your DH's time is mostly accounted for and you can't imagine him being able to have a full time affair, that would be my guess.

For me, it was somewhat a comfort to know that the sex was anonymous and not at all emotional or personal, but I still couldn't live with the breach in trust and eventually split up.

SurvivingInfidelity.com can be a huge help to you now. I'm so sorry, OP.

DH here: sadly, this sounds like the most plausible scenario to me, too. I'd gather more evidence before confronting, however, since it is not entirely definitive and if he stonewalls and goes dark because he knows you know, you will drive yourself crazy wondering.

There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked.

NO THAT IS NOT CORRECT. I'm straight and no mans gonna suck my dick. You bi people need to get out of you head that everyone can be bi
If he's humping other men , he is gay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he's using them to masturbate because he doesn't like the mess. That would also explain the lube. Kind of weird, but a possibility.

+1 that was my thot

That's what I've done many times. A tight ccondom wrapped tightly around all of my shaft feels a hell a lot better than hand only

I also bought condoms with lube and his them from my SO in hopes someday I could talk her into anal

Shame on you pearl clutching bitches putting all those scenarios in her head.
Just ask him or leave it alone. Period

[Anonymous]

Have you checked his emails and text messages?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is getting good!

This is a very cruel comment to make to a person in pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is getting good!

This is a very cruel comment to make to a person in pain.

Sorry, I didn't mean it that way. I do think this is much drama for no reason. If OP is in pain, then it is of her own doing. Unless she is one of those people who thrive on anguish, she should stop making mountains out of molehills.

[Anonymous]

A person with nothing to hide doesn't need to give 3 different CYA excuses. Only one, the truth, would be necessary. Liars always go into more detail than they need to. He's full of it.

[Anonymous]

We haven't explored the "totaled his SUV" clue!

I feel this is where a mystery book would find the answer. Do you mean, in the truest sense, he no longer has this car and possibly has a new one now? Is is pre-used, the condom could be from a former owner? Is it brand new, and perhaps the condom was a car dealership perk? Did he actually just do a lot of damage to the car, and the mechanic may have left it in there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A person with nothing to hide doesn't need to give 3 different CYA excuses. Only one, the truth, would be necessary. Liars always go into more detail than they need to. He's full of it.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A person with nothing to hide doesn't need to give 3 different CYA excuses. Only one, the truth, would be necessary. Liars always go into more detail than they need to. He's full of it.

This.

+2 - His response makes me more suspicious than the condoms themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A person with nothing to hide doesn't need to give 3 different CYA excuses. Only one, the truth, would be necessary. Liars always go into more detail than they need to. He's full of it.

This.

+2 - His response makes me more suspicious than the condoms themselves.

I am deeply suspicious that he claims it's one of theirs he took to buy more but then says "maybe it was a car person's." No. It's yours and you have a reason or it's not yours but IT ISNT BOTH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. The additional condoms and lube tell you all you need to know in terms of knowing he's had sex with at least one other person if not people.

Honestly, and maybe it's just because this happens to me, the lube plus car condoms suggests same-sex anonymous hookup to me. There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked. If your DH's time is mostly accounted for and you can't imagine him being able to have a full time affair, that would be my guess.

For me, it was somewhat a comfort to know that the sex was anonymous and not at all emotional or personal, but I still couldn't live with the breach in trust and eventually split up.

SurvivingInfidelity.com can be a huge help to you now. I'm so sorry, OP.

DH here: sadly, this sounds like the most plausible scenario to me, too. I'd gather more evidence before confronting, however, since it is not entirely definitive and if he stonewalls and goes dark because he knows you know, you will drive yourself crazy wondering.

There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked.

NO THAT IS NOT CORRECT. I'm straight and no mans gonna suck my dick. You bi people need to get out of you head that everyone can be bi
If he's humping other men , he is gay

I don't know what the PP meant by "oubliy straight guys" but I assumed that meant men who claim to be straight who will have sex with men with no strings attached. Not men who are actually straight who are having sex with men.

As for the belief that everyone can be bi, everyone can be. If you're not, that's fine, but a bi man who is sexually interested in men AND women is not "gay." you need to get out of your head that people are either straight or gay with nothing in between. It's just not true.

[Anonymous]

I"m sorry OP, but his excuses sound fishy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is getting good!

This is a very cruel comment to make to a person in pain.

Sorry, I didn't mean it that way. I do think this is much drama for no reason. If OP is in pain, then it is of her own doing. Unless she is one of those people who thrive on anguish, she should stop making mountains out of molehills.

I don't follow you. If I were in OP's shoes, I would be distressed, and it would not be of my own doing.

Could you elaborate on what OP has done here?

[Anonymous]

When I left my car for a month to be worked on, all I got was cigar smell in it. If I found condoms, somebody would be packed and headed out of the house. No explanation would suffice.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused. You conveniently never mentioned you two use condoms - of the same variety.