Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

Especially in todays society. And we wonder why we have so many issues and why we cry rape over a smack on the butt.

If someone hits me I have a right to defend myself -- hitting someone on the ass is well, HITTING THEM. And if someone comes at me trying to hit me,swings at me I can also defend myself to prevent them from actually touching me.

I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just saying in todays society you cannot do that. As evidenced in the OP's hysteria over her daughter's incident.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

Especially in todays society. And we wonder why we have so many issues and why we cry rape over a smack on the butt.

If someone hits me I have a right to defend myself -- hitting someone on the ass is well, HITTING THEM. And if someone comes at me trying to hit me,swings at me I can also defend myself to prevent them from actually touching me.

The test is reasonabless and proportionality. By definition, a try is an unsuccessful attempt. Hitting someone following a try is very problematic and risky, as opposed to running away, if possible, and alerting the relevant authorities.

[Anonymous]

The bored former attorneys have come put to play...

[Anonymous]

I don't have a daughter but my son said that the girl should ask this boy what he is doing and tell the boy to stop it and if he doesn't stop it the girl should tell the guidance office at school.

As a parent, I probably wouldn't want a girl to approach my son like that either - slapping him on the butt, haha! So I can see where Op is feeling protective towards her daughter. But at the same time, I think it's a bad idea to make a huge deal out of what is likely a spontaneous moment of middle school stupidity. Perspective is important,.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my 13 year old what she would do if some boy smacked her on the butt. She said I would turn around and tell him to grow up and quit acting like a jerk. I asked if she would feel like crying. She rolled her eyes and said, come on mom, I am not 6 years old. I asked if she would want me to call the principal or the boy's parents. She said you have got to be kidding. I am 13. You don't need to fight my battles for me and besides, this is some immature, jerk that needs to be embarrassed by a girl standing up for herself not having her mommy get envolved in something and make it a bigger deal than it is. Out if the mouth of babes...

+1

I asked my 12 year old son about this. He was embarrassed by the boys behavior, said he would have "knocked him out" (then he looked at me like he knew he said the wrong thing). I asked him if he thought the police should be called and said "no way, what does that solve? it would just snowball" He seems to think peer pressure would win out in this situation and parents and police would blow this out of proportion.

The kids responses are so much more mature than the adults. Go figure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have a daughter but my son said that the girl should ask this boy what he is doing and tell the boy to stop it and if he doesn't stop it the girl should tell the guidance office at school.

As a parent, I probably wouldn't want a girl to approach my son like that either - slapping him on the butt, haha! So I can see where Op is feeling protective towards her daughter. But at the same time, I think it's a bad idea to make a huge deal out of what is likely a spontaneous moment of middle school stupidity. Perspective is important,.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

Especially in todays society. And we wonder why we have so many issues and why we cry rape over a smack on the butt.

If someone hits me I have a right to defend myself -- hitting someone on the ass is well, HITTING THEM. And if someone comes at me trying to hit me,swings at me I can also defend myself to prevent them from actually touching me.

Right. It's not rape. It's battery. It's illegal and it's immoral. Why people are trying to defend this boy, I have no clue.

[Anonymous]

If the girl had hit the boy or yelled at him and shamed him infront of his friends in retaliation for smacking her on the butt, that would have been enough punishment for him as his friends would have made fun of him to no end.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

So if a man slaps your butt today at work, how are you going to stand up for yourself? Are you not going to report him? Is that what OP should teach her daughter, that boys will be boys and it's ridiculous to make a big deal out of unwanted touching?

If a man slaps your butt at work, you report him to HR. If a 12 yr old boy slaps your butt, you hit him, yell at him, and let your parents/teacher know.

However a 12 yr old is not someone that the police need to be called in. They're all young and need to learn how to interact with the opposite genders. Its a learning opportunity for everyone.

I think there was a consensus that the police DO NOT need to be called, the question is whether the OP should inform the school and the boy's parents.

The principal absolutely needs to be contacted. The boy need to learn respect and that there are consequences to touching a girl that does not want to be touched.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

Especially in todays society. And we wonder why we have so many issues and why we cry rape over a smack on the butt.

If someone hits me I have a right to defend myself -- hitting someone on the ass is well, HITTING THEM. And if someone comes at me trying to hit me,swings at me I can also defend myself to prevent them from actually touching me.

Right. It's not rape. It's battery. It's illegal and it's immoral. Why people are trying to defend this boy, I have no clue.

Because they are KIDS. Overreaction is ridiculous. Its a learning opportunity for everyone. Like you've never done anything stupid or silly when you were a child. In fact, you've never hit anyone at all. You were a good little angel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

Especially in todays society. And we wonder why we have so many issues and why we cry rape over a smack on the butt.

If someone hits me I have a right to defend myself -- hitting someone on the ass is well, HITTING THEM. And if someone comes at me trying to hit me,swings at me I can also defend myself to prevent them from actually touching me.

Right. It's not rape. It's battery. It's illegal and it's immoral. Why people are trying to defend this boy, I have no clue.

A 12 year old slapping a girl on the butt is battery.

Really? I mean semantic schmantics and technicalities and all, but really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked my 13 year old what she would do if some boy smacked her on the butt. She said I would turn around and tell him to grow up and quit acting like a jerk. I asked if she would feel like crying. She rolled her eyes and said, come on mom, I am not 6 years old. I asked if she would want me to call the principal or the boy's parents. She said you have got to be kidding. I am 13. You don't need to fight my battles for me and besides, this is some immature, jerk that needs to be embarrassed by a girl standing up for herself not having her mommy get envolved in something and make it a bigger deal than it is. Out if the mouth of babes...

+1

I asked my 12 year old son about this. He was embarrassed by the boys behavior, said he would have "knocked him out" (then he looked at me like he knew he said the wrong thing). I asked him if he thought the police should be called and said "no way, what does that solve? it would just snowball" He seems to think peer pressure would win out in this situation and parents and police would blow this out of proportion.

The kids responses are so much more mature than the adults. Go figure.

That is the sad truth.

[Anonymous]

the children's responses are indeed more reasonable than the hysteric adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the girl had hit the boy or yelled at him and shamed him infront of his friends in retaliation for smacking her on the butt, that would have been enough punishment for him as his friends would have made fun of him to no end.

Exactly. As people have been saying here, empower your daughter, don't make her a victim.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The police??

Hitting people is assault.

I do not think this behavior is appropriate, but boys are dumb and were more than likely flirting with her. You should help your daughter with language to empower her and if it continues to involve the parents/ school cause it is harassment- not assault

No, technically it's assault. It's just a kind of assault that our culture tells girls they have to tolerate.