Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

No one is rewriting history. You never gave that information. Trust me, what you have given says a hell of a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

If your daughter was crying over something like this than you have done a poor job of raising a confident, resilient, empowered young women. Instead of focusing so much on this boy, you should be helping her to grow a backbone.

+1 says a great deal about you OP. I think most people in this thread have you pegged just right. Its not your daughters fault that this would make her "very upset", its yours.

Also you say she reacted immediately and appropriately - what did she do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

If your daughter was crying over something like this than you have done a poor job of raising a confident, resilient, empowered young women. Instead of focusing so much on this boy, you should be helping her to grow a backbone.

I'll be sure to tell her that her feelings aren't valid. That's what great parents do, right?

No, instead you should make her feel further victimized by calling it rape or sexual assault and threatening to call the police

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this boy of a different culture

One that allows this type of behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

If your daughter was crying over something like this than you have done a poor job of raising a confident, resilient, empowered young women. Instead of focusing so much on this boy, you should be helping her to grow a backbone.

I'll be sure to tell her that her feelings aren't valid. That's what great parents do, right?

Did the PP suggest you do that? Nope.

Not handling this dose of the truth very well are you? What exactly did you expect with this thread? You are making a mountain over a molehill and thinking of calling the police to get this boys address.

Are you for real?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

No one is rewriting history. You never gave that information. Trust me, what you have given says a hell of a lot about you.

Please see the thread title and prior posts.

[Anonymous]

Good parents do tell their children when their response is in appropriate to the situation. Crying in this situation is indeed an inappropriate response. You do need to teach your daughter how to be strong in the face of adversity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

No one is rewriting history. You never gave that information. Trust me, what you have given says a hell of a lot about you.

Please see the thread title and prior posts.

Where did you say the middle school was horribly overcrowded with 1000 students in two grades before this post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

Especially in todays society. And we wonder why we have so many issues and why we cry rape over a smack on the butt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

No one is rewriting history. You never gave that information. Trust me, what you have given says a hell of a lot about you.

Please see the thread title and prior posts.

Still confused by your posts. In one you said the principal wouldn't give you his address. In another it sounds like you haven't contact the principal...

[Anonymous]

Wow! I can't believe all the attacks on op ( I am a new poster) My daughter just finished middle school and she goes to a school with 1.000 kids as well. She does not know everyone in her school. Perhaps if your daughter has a yearbook then she can identify him. Once you have a name most schools have a directory and you can get his information.

My daughter had an experience and we knew the parents and were friends. Their daughter would repeatedly hit her in the face and even after getting the parents to agree that she would stop; the girl did not. So, we did file a report on bullying with the school counselor. I believe her parents were notified and it was put in her record. However, the good news is the hitting stopped and while they didn't become friends they did come to a cordial relationship.

Just be forewarned that the conversation won't go well. The slapper's parents turned around and got mad at me because I told them she would get in trouble if she kept hitting people...especially when she became an adult!

[Anonymous]

I asked my 13 year old what she would do if some boy smacked her on the butt. She said I would turn around and tell him to grow up and quit acting like a jerk. I asked if she would feel like crying. She rolled her eyes and said, come on mom, I am not 6 years old. I asked if she would want me to call the principal or the boy's parents. She said you have got to be kidding. I am 13. You don't need to fight my battles for me and besides, this is some immature, jerk that needs to be embarrassed by a girl standing up for herself not having her mommy get envolved in something and make it a bigger deal than it is. Out if the mouth of babes...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked my 13 year old what she would do if some boy smacked her on the butt. She said I would turn around and tell him to grow up and quit acting like a jerk. I asked if she would feel like crying. She rolled her eyes and said, come on mom, I am not 6 years old. I asked if she would want me to call the principal or the boy's parents. She said you have got to be kidding. I am 13. You don't need to fight my battles for me and besides, this is some immature, jerk that needs to be embarrassed by a girl standing up for herself not having her mommy get envolved in something and make it a bigger deal than it is. Out if the mouth of babes...

+1

I asked my 12 year old son about this. He was embarrassed by the boys behavior, said he would have "knocked him out" (then he looked at me like he knew he said the wrong thing). I asked him if he thought the police should be called and said "no way, what does that solve? it would just snowball" He seems to think peer pressure would win out in this situation and parents and police would blow this out of proportion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! The best thing you can do is tell her the next time someone does that or TRIES to do that to turn around and slap the piss out of him.
And the next time she sees the kid tell him that she's going to report him to the police.
But don't really call the cops.
Do you know all the crap that goes on between middle schoolers? Teach her to stand up for herself in the moment.
Hell, my 4 yr old did that in pre-school, little boy never bothered her again. The teachers even watched her wack the crap out of that kid.

Nope. Hitting someone preemptively could be deemed assault and prosecuted in a court of law.

Especially in todays society. And we wonder why we have so many issues and why we cry rape over a smack on the butt.

If someone hits me I have a right to defend myself -- hitting someone on the ass is well, HITTING THEM. And if someone comes at me trying to hit me,swings at me I can also defend myself to prevent them from actually touching me.