Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

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Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You are a fantastically entitled twat. "I don't care if I am breaking rules or social norms! The only thing that matters is that I get to do what I want when I want!" You and your kid are nightmares. I hope someone yells at you every single time. If they make your kid cry, maybe you'll stop being such an entitled bitch.

There are no rules at the pools we go to nor are there family changing rooms. I would not change in public so to me, if someone is uncomfortable, they need to go I to a stall. You are making up your own rules. If I saw a five year old alone, I would consider it neglect. Most five year olds need hel and those who do not thing so feel that way as they dump their responsibility on someone else.

You're selfish, the world revolves around you and you are always right.

It's not selfish to change your child in the locker room. It is neglect if you send them alone. You are selfish as you are making this all about you. You have the option to change in a dressing room for privacy and yet, you deliberately change in public for all to see and then complain.

Towel or not, you do not change a five year old in public.

I asked my husband and he says girls are in the locker room all the time. He was shocked it was even an issue.

If you want privacy you have plenty of options ...use them. And, most the limit at best is six, so you are in the wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What horrible things did your parents teach you as children that you think it matters more if a 6yo boy sees you briefly naked than if another woman does? He's a child.

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Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You are a fantastically entitled twat. "I don't care if I am breaking rules or social norms! The only thing that matters is that I get to do what I want when I want!" You and your kid are nightmares. I hope someone yells at you every single time. If they make your kid cry, maybe you'll stop being such an entitled bitch.

There are no rules at the pools we go to nor are there family changing rooms. I would not change in public so to me, if someone is uncomfortable, they need to go I to a stall. You are making up your own rules. If I saw a five year old alone, I would consider it neglect. Most five year olds need hel and those who do not thing so feel that way as they dump their responsibility on someone else.

You're selfish, the world revolves around you and you are always right.

It's not selfish to change your child in the locker room. It is neglect if you send them alone. You are selfish as you are making this all about you. You have the option to change in a dressing room for privacy and yet, you deliberately change in public for all to see and then complain.

Towel or not, you do not change a five year old in public.

I asked my husband and he says girls are in the locker room all the time. He was shocked it was even an issue.

If you want privacy you have plenty of options ...use them. And, most the limit at best is six, so you are in the wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If this is a rule, I don't know what we're talking about. You can buy a house with a pool and institute your own rules. As long as you're on public property, you should adhere to the standars set for you. End of discussion.

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Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You are a fantastically entitled twat. "I don't care if I am breaking rules or social norms! The only thing that matters is that I get to do what I want when I want!" You and your kid are nightmares. I hope someone yells at you every single time. If they make your kid cry, maybe you'll stop being such an entitled bitch.

There are no rules at the pools we go to nor are there family changing rooms. I would not change in public so to me, if someone is uncomfortable, they need to go I to a stall. You are making up your own rules. If I saw a five year old alone, I would consider it neglect. Most five year olds need hel and those who do not thing so feel that way as they dump their responsibility on someone else.

You're selfish, the world revolves around you and you are always right.

It's not selfish to change your child in the locker room. It is neglect if you send them alone. You are selfish as you are making this all about you. You have the option to change in a dressing room for privacy and yet, you deliberately change in public for all to see and then complain.

Towel or not, you do not change a five year old in public.

I asked my husband and he says girls are in the locker room all the time. He was shocked it was even an issue.

If you want privacy you have plenty of options ...use them. And, most the limit at best is six, so you are in the wrong.

I'm asking you again: if you think it is not safe to send your kid into the men's locker room alone and he is above the stated age to bring in the women's locker room, are you brining him into the women's locker room?

[Anonymous]

Bring him to the pool wearing his swimsuit. Wrap him in a towel for the car ride home. Single mom with three boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bring him to the pool wearing his swimsuit. Wrap him in a towel for the car ride home. Single mom with three boys.

A towel is not ok with a car seat. What do you propose in the winter? Our county is six. But, I willl bring my child in in less there is someone else who can do it. (My husband can only do weekends which I happily volunteer him for so I can sleep). This summer he will still be five, so it is a nonissue. During kid swim lesson times, the locker rooms are full of kids. It is absurd not to being your kid in. Kids need supervision. Bad things do happen.

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Anonymous wrote:Bring him to the pool wearing his swimsuit. Wrap him in a towel for the car ride home. Single mom with three boys.

A towel is not ok with a car seat. What do you propose in the winter? Our county is six. But, I willl bring my child in in less there is someone else who can do it. (My husband can only do weekends which I happily volunteer him for so I can sleep). This summer he will still be five, so it is a nonissue. During kid swim lesson times, the locker rooms are full of kids. It is absurd not to being your kid in. Kids need supervision. Bad things do happen.

Winter: sweatpants, sweatshirt, etc. unless you take one of the many other options you've rejected.

[Anonymous]

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?


Pools with family changing rooms.

None that I know of in Alexandria, Arlington, or Fairfax counties that have family changing rooms. Is it a private pool, or in MD or DC?

[Anonymous]

I just change my boys out of their suits in our car. Easy.

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What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?


Pools with family changing rooms.

None that I know of in Alexandria, Arlington, or Fairfax counties that have family changing rooms. Is it a private pool, or in MD or DC?

Family changing rooms are at Oak Marr, Spring Hill, Lee District Rec Center, Providence, Cub Run, Audrey Moore, ...They ALL have family changing rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just change my boys out of their suits in our car. Easy.

Easy for you because you're flexible, easy going and not selfish. It is oh-so-much-harder for OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe these aren't the best years for you to be taking your male children to the pool. Don't you have a husband?

I'd expect the writer above to add: what are you doing driving yourself to the pool anyway? The 5 y.o. should be driving. After all, he's a man and you aren't!!!!

(WTF ??? which desert rock an idiot like that lives under?)

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We would not be having this conversation if:

1. women were not such uptight weirdos that they blush if a boy (with his mother) is in the women's bathroom
2. men were not such perverts that we can't safely send our young boys into their bathrooms.

It says a lot about our culture!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just change my boys out of their suits in our car. Easy.

Easy for you because you're flexible, easy going and not selfish. It is oh-so-much-harder for OP.

OP is special. So is her snowflake