Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

[Anonymous]

I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?

Pools with family changing rooms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You are a fantastically entitled twat. "I don't care if I am breaking rules or social norms! The only thing that matters is that I get to do what I want when I want!" You and your kid are nightmares. I hope someone yells at you every single time. If they make your kid cry, maybe you'll stop being such an entitled bitch.

There are no rules at the pools we go to nor are there family changing rooms. I would not change in public so to me, if someone is uncomfortable, they need to go I to a stall. You are making up your own rules. If I saw a five year old alone, I would consider it neglect. Most five year olds need hel and those who do not thing so feel that way as they dump their responsibility on someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's really tall for his age and this woman insisted he was older than 5. Should I try to hunt down a family changing room? Is his presence really making others uncomfortable?

Yes. And (I almost never use this word on here) the sense of entitlement on this board is mind-numbing. Use the family changing room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?

Turkey Thicket Rec Center in NE DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You have the handicapped kid. You should use the stall or a changing poncho on the deck. If you can't abide by the rules, then you should keep your snowflake home or find a facility that can meet your special needs. Being SN doesn't mean that your needs trumps everyone else's rights or societal norms.

My chikd is not handicapped,meh has some developmental delays. But, regardless, I do not neglect my child and let him be unsupervised. This has less to do with special needs than it does with common sense. No one wants to look at your body so you need the stall or poncho. I am not putting some dumb overpriced poncho to cover my child to change him in public. You do not change kids in public regardless of how cleaver you think you are being. If there are stalls,muse them and stop complaining. There has never been a pool we have been to that anyone has cared as they have kids too.

[Anonymous]

And, also, the 6-8 year old boys I know (quite a lot) do know about breasts and notice body parts of women. It's not sexual. That doesn't mean it's not uncomfortable.

One very sweet little boy know (a great kid! he was 7-8 years old at the time) was doing a "look at these" type of joke and cupping his hands like he has breasts. In front of a bunch of young boys (the 6 year old set). So, yeah, they notice.

[Anonymous]

I frankly don't care whether my body is looked at by a prepubescent boy or another woman. If I did let myself get uncomfortable, I could get just as uncomfortable thinking that she is judging my body in some way as I could by the curious look of some kid. Neither really bothers me though, but I grew up in Europe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And, also, the 6-8 year old boys I know (quite a lot) do know about breasts and notice body parts of women. It's not sexual. That doesn't mean it's not uncomfortable.

One very sweet little boy know (a great kid! he was 7-8 years old at the time) was doing a "look at these" type of joke and cupping his hands like he has breasts. In front of a bunch of young boys (the 6 year old set). So, yeah, they notice.

That is a parenting issue and a parent failing to supervise their child and teach/set limits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You have the handicapped kid. You should use the stall or a changing poncho on the deck. If you can't abide by the rules, then you should keep your snowflake home or find a facility that can meet your special needs. Being SN doesn't mean that your needs trumps everyone else's rights or societal norms.

My chikd is not handicapped,meh has some developmental delays. But, regardless, I do not neglect my child and let him be unsupervised. This has less to do with special needs than it does with common sense. No one wants to look at your body so you need the stall or poncho. I am not putting some dumb overpriced poncho to cover my child to change him in public. You do not change kids in public regardless of how cleaver you think you are being. If there are stalls,muse them and stop complaining. There has never been a pool we have been to that anyone has cared as they have kids too.

I am not going to go in the stall. I'm not the person breaking the rules. I am perfectly willing to call you out. I am willing to talk to management. I am willing to stand in the middle of the locker room and have it out with you. How do you think your handicapped child is going to feel when mommy gets in a confrontation with another woman because mommy can't follow the rules?

Great parenting there, Lou.

[Anonymous]

IF you don't want to buy a changing poncho, then use a towel. It's only a little more white trash than what you are currently doing.

[Anonymous]

What horrible things did your parents teach you as children that you think it matters more if a 6yo boy sees you briefly naked than if another woman does? He's a child.

[Anonymous]

The rule at our pool is 5 and under can go in the locker room with a parent. It seems many of you think 5 is too old. So DCUM, what do you think the rule should be? 4 and under? 3 and under?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You are a fantastically entitled twat. "I don't care if I am breaking rules or social norms! The only thing that matters is that I get to do what I want when I want!" You and your kid are nightmares. I hope someone yells at you every single time. If they make your kid cry, maybe you'll stop being such an entitled bitch.

There are no rules at the pools we go to nor are there family changing rooms. I would not change in public so to me, if someone is uncomfortable, they need to go I to a stall. You are making up your own rules. If I saw a five year old alone, I would consider it neglect. Most five year olds need hel and those who do not thing so feel that way as they dump their responsibility on someone else.

You're selfish, the world revolves around you and you are always right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suprised at the number of people concerned about 4-5-6-7 year olds boys in the locker room. I know when I change I do so quickly and discretely. Also I try not to look at others while they are changing. I teach my children to do the same in public lockers. Not sure what the big problem is.

I've been a locker room where the 5-6-7 year old stood around and stared at the naked old ladies. It wasn't sexual, just obnoxious and rude. The ladies' locker room is for ladies to change. I shouldn't have to hunt down a bathroom stall to change because OP is too privileged to wait for the family locker room or change her kid in the handicapped stall in the women's room.

I have, in fact, said something to mothers who bring their big boys into the ladies' room. I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms. I also tell them that their children are making other people uncomfortable. I've had a few people yell back at me, but I promise you that their embarrassment (breaking rules, rude kid, now Mom is acting rudely, too) was a lot greater than my discomfort over their rudeness.

If you are uncomfortable, you go in the stall. A handicapped stall is just that. It is for handicapped. It is not your personal dressing room. I only used them with a child in a stroller or otherwise you squeeze into a regular stall. You would not park in a handicapped spot, so why would you use a stall. If those women are not comfortable, then they need to be more discrete. You are not the changing room police. My three year old was nonverbal and could not change himself. He would not have even understood me telling him to walk through, let alone change. He could not even tell you his name if he had a problem. Really, you think it is safe and appropiate?

Where are all these family locker rooms you talk about? I have yet to see one at the county pool we go to. You are not getting not everyone belongs to a country club or pool and some of us make due with the options available to us.

I would never be embarrased to tell you to mind your own business or I am getting staff based off of your harassment.

You are the one who belongs in the stall if you want privacy. Really, no one wants to look at your sagging breasts, belly and wrinkly body.

You are a fantastically entitled twat. "I don't care if I am breaking rules or social norms! The only thing that matters is that I get to do what I want when I want!" You and your kid are nightmares. I hope someone yells at you every single time. If they make your kid cry, maybe you'll stop being such an entitled bitch.

There are no rules at the pools we go to nor are there family changing rooms. I would not change in public so to me, if someone is uncomfortable, they need to go I to a stall. You are making up your own rules. If I saw a five year old alone, I would consider it neglect. Most five year olds need hel and those who do not thing so feel that way as they dump their responsibility on someone else.

Which pools do you go to?