DH stole my money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't sound like it. She said she skimmed over several years. He's been paying the mortgage fine. All of a sudden -- now -- he cannot afford the mortgage? Who, exactly, is the loser here?

And I agree with OP and a handful of others. There is no "my car" and "his car". There are two family cars. And, as the GAINFULLY EMPLOYED MAN of the house, he is responsible for repairing BOTH OF THEM. He should not be asking her to choose between a car repair and DENTAL WORK. It is his obligation to pay for BOTH. These are not luxuries -- these are necessities. If OP and her H were arguing as to how much money should be budgeted for clothes, shopping, and personal grooming, there would be some room for debate as to how much he should pay for (though he should also pay for some of that).

Again, I am not a SAHM. But this man agreed to his wife staying home. Until I hear otherwise, I am going to assume that she is doing the job of a SAHM: laundry, cleaning, kid stuff, grocery shopping, meals on the table. Basically, she takes care of the home and manages the household. This is work, for which she is entitled to compensation. Her husband is not giving her access to marital funds. Instead, he's giving her money from which to pay certain household expenses. That his number one "BAD". His second bad, is that, having the benefit of a wife who works in the home, he did not hold up his end of the deal -- which is to pay the household expenses. Most especially the mortgage. This is not a MAN.

A MAN either MANs up, and takes the responsibilities that come with the benefits of working outside the home (getting away from it all, getting to socialize, going out for lunches and happy hours, maintaining and expanding upon skills that continue to make him marketable) -- and this includes paying the mortgage -- OR, again, he MAN's up -- tells his wife that they cannot afford for her to stay at home. Gives her some time to transition to the job market, and then DOES HIS SHARE OF THE HOUSEWORK.

My analysis remains the same irrespective of which member of the family is working outside or within the home.

This man wants to have his cake and eat it. No, he's worse than that. He wants to pay for the cake via his wife's routing number behind her back and eat it.

How did his wife get the money to begin with?

You are late to the game, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Your intense familiarity with I Love Lucy is disturbing.

If you are disturbed, have you considered therapy?

[Anonymous]

You don't mess with the skim

[Anonymous]

Obviously a troll. Not close to believable.

[Anonymous]

So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

Smart man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

I doubt the mortgage company is going to "give the money back."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

Smart man.

Ditto. Hope he marries a hotter, smarter woman than OP, next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

Smart man.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

Op, even if the mortgage company will give the money back, which I doubt, why would you do this? Are you really willing to end your marriage over this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

Smart man.

Ditto. Hope he marries a hotter, smarter woman than OP, next time.

Is this the same poster on every thread who always mentions the hotness of a woman? Or discusses whether or not she has a tight ass? This is so sexist and yet no one calls this poster on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I told DH today that I closed the account and that I am also,going to get the mortgage company to give the money back. He said he takes this as a sign I want a divorce.

Smart man.

Ditto. Hope he marries a hotter, smarter woman than OP, next time.

Is this the same poster on every thread who always mentions the hotness of a woman? Or discusses whether or not she has a tight ass? This is so sexist and yet no one calls this poster on it.

A hot, tight ass is always important. If a woman has one, a guy will put up with more.