Men are only as Faithful as their Options

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:80% of marriages have 1 spouse that cheat at some time during their marriage.
60% of men cheat
40% of women cheat

You know, I have seen these numbers thrown around before. Never have I found a credible original source for them, i.e. an identification of an actual study on this. Indeed, most studies end up with much lower numbers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the real world, what man seriously has the time to cheat? Between working 40-50 hours per week, the kids, yard work, etc. who the hell has the time and energy for that? A family man who has his priorities straight would never have the opportunity, desire, or energy for another woman. He would pour whatever he had in having sex with his wife. His wife is always there, a sure thing, and he doesn't have to date her.

Try over 50 hours per week and traveling. Seriously, with a demanding job, wife, and kids, looking for another woman is not even on my radar. Sometimes women at work play a game where they dress seductively as some kind of power game and I do not even look. It's stupid on their part and I do not like corporate politics to begin with.

who says they are dressing up for you? You should be so lucky

[Anonymous]

People talk about cheating as if it's this grandiose endeavour, especially women.."blah blah blah , my man is equal parts George Clooney, Jesus, Ghandi, he LOVES his family and he adores me, he doesn't have time to cheat". I don't know what all of that has to do with cheating He can think that the sun rises and sets out of your ass but how does that stop him from a quicky blowjob on a business trip that no one will ever know about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the real world, what man seriously has the time to cheat? Between working 40-50 hours per week, the kids, yard work, etc. who the hell has the time and energy for that? A family man who has his priorities straight would never have the opportunity, desire, or energy for another woman. He would pour whatever he had in having sex with his wife. His wife is always there, a sure thing, and he doesn't have to date her.

Bill. Clinton.

I think most people would NOT categorize Bill Clinton as a family man who has his priorities straight.

I wasn't speaking to the family man part, I was drawing attention to the "too busy" aspect. If the President of the United States has time for a relationship on the side, then anybody does.

I believe that if a partner wants to cheat, he/she will find the time to do it no matter how busy/ugly/poor. I also believe that if a partner does not want to cheat, they can choose to not take advantage of an outside relationship even if they are sure that no one will ever know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:80% of marriages have 1 spouse that cheat at some time during their marriage.
60% of men cheat
40% of women cheat
Obviously some marriages have 2 spouses that cheat.
Women are more likely to cheat when they are 28-35.

So not all men cheat - actually 40% don't - some because nobody offered it but mostly because they are just not cheaters - whether it is their make up, their morals, etc.

Non-cheaters don't cheat even if they are unhappy with their marriage.
Cheaters cheat even on wives they love even if they are in a fullfilling marriages.

Does this count emotional affairs are purely physical?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People talk about cheating as if it's this grandiose endeavour, especially women.."blah blah blah , my man is equal parts George Clooney, Jesus, Ghandi, he LOVES his family and he adores me, he doesn't have time to cheat". I don't know what all of that has to do with cheating He can think that the sun rises and sets out of your ass but how does that stop him from a quicky blowjob on a business trip that no one will ever know about?

Who is arguing that cheating is a grandiose endeavor? My word, I can hardly think of anything less grandiose than a quicky blow job. We are arguing that character counts. That men and women of integrity can actually resist an orgasm, and that to allege that that is not possible is a huge insult.

I posted about my husband having options but choosing to respect HIMSELF enough not to cheat. I agree that he can think the world of me and that that is not what stops him from cheating. His choice to cheat or not has very little to do with me but has everything to do with the kind of person he wants to be. Why are you willfully ignoring the character piece? Have you made some poor choices you need to rationalize?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People talk about cheating as if it's this grandiose endeavour, especially women.."blah blah blah , my man is equal parts George Clooney, Jesus, Ghandi, he LOVES his family and he adores me, he doesn't have time to cheat". I don't know what all of that has to do with cheating He can think that the sun rises and sets out of your ass but how does that stop him from a quicky blowjob on a business trip that no one will ever know about?

Who is arguing that cheating is a grandiose endeavor? My word, I can hardly think of anything less grandiose than a quicky blow job. We are arguing that character counts. That men and women of integrity can actually resist an orgasm, and that to allege that that is not possible is a huge insult.

I posted about my husband having options but choosing to respect HIMSELF enough not to cheat. I agree that he can think the world of me and that that is not what stops him from cheating. His choice to cheat or not has very little to do with me but has everything to do with the kind of person he wants to be. Why are you willfully ignoring the character piece? Have you made some poor choices you need to rationalize?

Me thinks the lady doth protest too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People talk about cheating as if it's this grandiose endeavour, especially women.."blah blah blah , my man is equal parts George Clooney, Jesus, Ghandi, he LOVES his family and he adores me, he doesn't have time to cheat". I don't know what all of that has to do with cheating He can think that the sun rises and sets out of your ass but how does that stop him from a quicky blowjob on a business trip that no one will ever know about?

Who is arguing that cheating is a grandiose endeavor? My word, I can hardly think of anything less grandiose than a quicky blow job. We are arguing that character counts. That men and women of integrity can actually resist an orgasm, and that to allege that that is not possible is a huge insult.

I posted about my husband having options but choosing to respect HIMSELF enough not to cheat. I agree that he can think the world of me and that that is not what stops him from cheating. His choice to cheat or not has very little to do with me but has everything to do with the kind of person he wants to be. Why are you willfully ignoring the character piece? Have you made some poor choices you need to rationalize?

Me thinks the lady doth protest too much.

And it reeks of someone who is not as secure in their marriage as they'd like others to believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of marriages have 1 spouse that cheat at some time during their marriage.
60% of men cheat
40% of women cheat

You know, I have seen these numbers thrown around before. Never have I found a credible original source for them, i.e. an identification of an actual study on this. Indeed, most studies end up with much lower numbers.

I have always thought these numbers are way too high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the real world, what man seriously has the time to cheat? Between working 40-50 hours per week, the kids, yard work, etc. who the hell has the time and energy for that? A family man who has his priorities straight would never have the opportunity, desire, or energy for another woman. He would pour whatever he had in having sex with his wife. His wife is always there, a sure thing, and he doesn't have to date her.

Try over 50 hours per week and traveling. Seriously, with a demanding job, wife, and kids, looking for another woman is not even on my radar. Sometimes women at work play a game where they dress seductively as some kind of power game and I do not even look. It's stupid on their part and I do not like corporate politics to begin with.

who says they are dressing up for you? You should be so lucky

Yes, I agree. Women dress for other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the real world, what man seriously has the time to cheat? Between working 40-50 hours per week, the kids, yard work, etc. who the hell has the time and energy for that? A family man who has his priorities straight would never have the opportunity, desire, or energy for another woman. He would pour whatever he had in having sex with his wife. His wife is always there, a sure thing, and he doesn't have to date her.

Try over 50 hours per week and traveling. Seriously, with a demanding job, wife, and kids, looking for another woman is not even on my radar. Sometimes women at work play a game where they dress seductively as some kind of power game and I do not even look. It's stupid on their part and I do not like corporate politics to begin with.

who says they are dressing up for you? You should be so lucky

Yes, I agree. Women dress for other women.

Including the ones with thin blouses with low cut tops who bend over when they work with you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the real world, what man seriously has the time to cheat? Between working 40-50 hours per week, the kids, yard work, etc. who the hell has the time and energy for that? A family man who has his priorities straight would never have the opportunity, desire, or energy for another woman. He would pour whatever he had in having sex with his wife. His wife is always there, a sure thing, and he doesn't have to date her.

Try over 50 hours per week and traveling. Seriously, with a demanding job, wife, and kids, looking for another woman is not even on my radar. Sometimes women at work play a game where they dress seductively as some kind of power game and I do not even look. It's stupid on their part and I do not like corporate politics to begin with.

who says they are dressing up for you? You should be so lucky

Yes, I agree. Women dress for other women.

Including the ones with thin blouses with low cut tops who bend over when they work with you?

Unless she's breathing heavily in your ear while doing this...probably.

[Anonymous]

Men desire to cheat. I'm not saying that all do. But if a man is alive, with a pulse, he has thought about it. The test will be when desire meets opportunity. It doesn't necessarily make them bad husbands or fathers. It's how the species survives. I understand the desire for women to cling fiercely to the notion that this is not some sort of DNA-based urge. I can say nothing to disabuse them of that notion. For those of us who understand reality, however, we become increasingly vigilant to protect against predatory females, we work hard to cut off opportunity, and we . . . give great head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of marriages have 1 spouse that cheat at some time during their marriage.
60% of men cheat
40% of women cheat

You know, I have seen these numbers thrown around before. Never have I found a credible original source for them, i.e. an identification of an actual study on this. Indeed, most studies end up with much lower numbers.

I have always thought these numbers are way too high.

These numbers are plausible to me if they include a single indiscretion over the course of a long marriage. The number of serial cheaters is likely far lower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People talk about cheating as if it's this grandiose endeavour, especially women.."blah blah blah , my man is equal parts George Clooney, Jesus, Ghandi, he LOVES his family and he adores me, he doesn't have time to cheat". I don't know what all of that has to do with cheating He can think that the sun rises and sets out of your ass but how does that stop him from a quicky blowjob on a business trip that no one will ever know about?

Who is arguing that cheating is a grandiose endeavor? My word, I can hardly think of anything less grandiose than a quicky blow job. We are arguing that character counts. That men and women of integrity can actually resist an orgasm, and that to allege that that is not possible is a huge insult.

I posted about my husband having options but choosing to respect HIMSELF enough not to cheat. I agree that he can think the world of me and that that is not what stops him from cheating. His choice to cheat or not has very little to do with me but has everything to do with the kind of person he wants to be. Why are you willfully ignoring the character piece? Have you made some poor choices you need to rationalize?

Me thinks the lady doth protest too much.

And it reeks of someone who is not as secure in their marriage as they'd like others to believe.

Oh, great rhetorical technique. When one cannot respond to the substance of a question, they attack the questioner.

You should go into politics.