what is the worst thing someone has said to you, on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Not about me, but I remember a post about a news story where a dog was shot and killed. Man was walking his dog in apt complex and a neighbor (also walking a dog) started shooting, chased them and continued firing as the guy scooped up his dog and tried to run away.

Some DCUM comments seemed almost happy that this had occurred, that it was completely understandable and justified because the dog likely barked all day and annoyed the neighbors. Nothing in the article suggested that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't know, don't care. I mean I just imagine the ignorant fool the "insult" came from, chuckle and move on with my life. You should do the same.

The op is very clearly not saying this is a problem, or asking how to manage it. Why does every DCUM attract these uber-Mommies?
Read the question, answer it, move on. Read the question, don't answer it, move on.

I don't know what you're on about but OP posted this so clearly it's a problem for them. What's your excuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not about me, but I remember a post about a news story where a dog was shot and killed. Man was walking his dog in apt complex and a neighbor (also walking a dog) started shooting, chased them and continued firing as the guy scooped up his dog and tried to run away.

Some DCUM comments seemed almost happy that this had occurred, that it was completely understandable and justified because the dog likely barked all day and annoyed the neighbors. Nothing in the article suggested that.

There are some truly unhinged comments in the pet forum along these lines. I report them.

My most unhinged suggested my 6 month old deserved to be gang raped by adult men so there is that but some of the pet ones are truly horrific as well. Psychopaths all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not about me, but I remember a post about a news story where a dog was shot and killed. Man was walking his dog in apt complex and a neighbor (also walking a dog) started shooting, chased them and continued firing as the guy scooped up his dog and tried to run away.

Some DCUM comments seemed almost happy that this had occurred, that it was completely understandable and justified because the dog likely barked all day and annoyed the neighbors. Nothing in the article suggested that.

There are some truly unhinged comments in the pet forum along these lines. I report them.

My most unhinged suggested my 6 month old deserved to be gang raped by adult men so there is that but some of the pet ones are truly horrific as well. Psychopaths all.

I do not believe this for a second.

[Anonymous]

Years ago someone told me I was smug and you know what? They were right. I had easy, naturally pleasant and problem-free kids and it wasn’t due to my superior parenting. And it stung to read, but then I thought well fair enough, they aren’t wrong, and I swear it has kept me from getting too pleased with myself ever since.

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Anonymous wrote:About 14 years ago I was nannying for 2 babies. I got let go after 3 weeks and I posted on here because I didn’t think the reason was a good one and wanted perspective. I got slammed by everyone.
(the 12week old was sleeping on his stomach, I was with him the whole time watching him, sent a pic to parents because it was cute, they said never put baby on stomach and I was let go. I do know that it’s not safe, but 2 babies was a lot, and I felt it was ok at the time because I stayed watching him)

Ohhh, they are very brutal in the Nanny Forums.

So sorry.

I mean, I would also have fired a new nanny that thought it was a good idea to put my baby to sleep on his stomach and send me a picture of it.

Yes!

You would actually FIRE an otherwise good Nanny just because she put your child to sleep on his or her stomach??

This is outrageous! 😤
Unless you specifically instructed her not to do this -> this is not a fireable offense!!

You sound like a mentally unstable helicopter parent who would be much better off staying home w/your child vs. leaving them in the care of a nanny.

* I mean this with one-hundred percent respect by the way.

DP. I would 100% fire a nanny that put the baby to sleep on its stomach. This is basic childcare knowledge.

This is not a reason to fire a nanny on the spot.
A lot of parents put their babies in their crib/bassinet on their stomachs ….. it isn’t basic childcare knowledge.

I put all four of my babies to sleep on their stomachs and they have all been healthy, thriving kids -> adults.

I would fire a nanny who abused or neglected my child.
I.e., left him alone in the bathtub, fell asleep while child was unsupervised or drove them inside a car w/out a car seat, etc.

But not for putting my infant down on his stomach! ??

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Anonymous wrote:About 14 years ago I was nannying for 2 babies. I got let go after 3 weeks and I posted on here because I didn’t think the reason was a good one and wanted perspective. I got slammed by everyone.
(the 12week old was sleeping on his stomach, I was with him the whole time watching him, sent a pic to parents because it was cute, they said never put baby on stomach and I was let go. I do know that it’s not safe, but 2 babies was a lot, and I felt it was ok at the time because I stayed watching him)

Ohhh, they are very brutal in the Nanny Forums.

So sorry.

I mean, I would also have fired a new nanny that thought it was a good idea to put my baby to sleep on his stomach and send me a picture of it.

Yes!

You would actually FIRE an otherwise good Nanny just because she put your child to sleep on his or her stomach??

This is outrageous! 😤
Unless you specifically instructed her not to do this -> this is not a fireable offense!!

You sound like a mentally unstable helicopter parent who would be much better off staying home w/your child vs. leaving them in the care of a nanny.

* I mean this with one-hundred percent respect by the way.

DP. I would 100% fire a nanny that put the baby to sleep on its stomach. This is basic childcare knowledge.

This is not a reason to fire a nanny on the spot.
A lot of parents put their babies in their crib/bassinet on their stomachs ….. it isn’t basic childcare knowledge.

I put all four of my babies to sleep on their stomachs and they have all been healthy, thriving kids -> adults.

I would fire a nanny who abused or neglected my child.
I.e., left him alone in the bathtub, fell asleep while child was unsupervised or drove them inside a car w/out a car seat, etc.

But not for putting my infant down on his stomach! ??

A nanny isn’t supposed to be clueless about safe sleep practices and basic childcare knowledge. You’re feeling defensive because you were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About 14 years ago I was nannying for 2 babies. I got let go after 3 weeks and I posted on here because I didn’t think the reason was a good one and wanted perspective. I got slammed by everyone.
(the 12week old was sleeping on his stomach, I was with him the whole time watching him, sent a pic to parents because it was cute, they said never put baby on stomach and I was let go. I do know that it’s not safe, but 2 babies was a lot, and I felt it was ok at the time because I stayed watching him)

It was a dumb decision on your part. Why would you even do that?

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP of this thread and over the years I've not actually started many threads because they used to be ignored completely or just get one or two (sarcastic) responses.

It's wild that this thread has gone to 10 pages. Shame about the levels of insanity among its pages, however.

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Anonymous wrote:About 14 years ago I was nannying for 2 babies. I got let go after 3 weeks and I posted on here because I didn’t think the reason was a good one and wanted perspective. I got slammed by everyone.
(the 12week old was sleeping on his stomach, I was with him the whole time watching him, sent a pic to parents because it was cute, they said never put baby on stomach and I was let go. I do know that it’s not safe, but 2 babies was a lot, and I felt it was ok at the time because I stayed watching him)

Ohhh, they are very brutal in the Nanny Forums.

So sorry.

I mean, I would also have fired a new nanny that thought it was a good idea to put my baby to sleep on his stomach and send me a picture of it.

Yes!

You would actually FIRE an otherwise good Nanny just because she put your child to sleep on his or her stomach??

This is outrageous! 😤
Unless you specifically instructed her not to do this -> this is not a fireable offense!!

You sound like a mentally unstable helicopter parent who would be much better off staying home w/your child vs. leaving them in the care of a nanny.

* I mean this with one-hundred percent respect by the way.

DP. I would 100% fire a nanny that put the baby to sleep on its stomach. This is basic childcare knowledge.

This is not a reason to fire a nanny on the spot.
A lot of parents put their babies in their crib/bassinet on their stomachs ….. it isn’t basic childcare knowledge.

I put all four of my babies to sleep on their stomachs and they have all been healthy, thriving kids -> adults.

I would fire a nanny who abused or neglected my child.
I.e., left him alone in the bathtub, fell asleep while child was unsupervised or drove them inside a car w/out a car seat, etc.

But not for putting my infant down on his stomach! ??

A nanny isn’t supposed to be clueless about safe sleep practices and basic childcare knowledge. You’re feeling defensive because you were.

This doesn’t have any logic to it.
At all.
What parent has never put their baby to sleep on their stomach at least once??
I just think that to fire a child’s caregiver over something as benign as this is really dumb.

I would fire my child’s caregiver over something like them having their boyfriend over or having them lie to me about their whereabouts….or even their qualifications, etc.

But to fire them because they put my baby for a nap on their stomach??
Not a reason to fire them on their spot at all.
If I thought it was unsafe I may issue them a warning but would not issue them walking papers because of it.

[Anonymous]

That I didn’t love my children because I chose to work and use childcare even though I didn’t need to work for financial reasons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am constantly surprised there are such mean spirited posts on this board . And wonder what those folks are like in real life. It just can't feel good to live with that much negativity in your mind. Kinda sad for them, but sadder for those they attack... out of the blue, and seeming for no reason at all.. Maybe it's kids, but still pretty horrifying. Now I'm off to die.

I blame stress and sleep deprivation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years ago someone told me I was smug and you know what? They were right. I had easy, naturally pleasant and problem-free kids and it wasn’t due to my superior parenting. And it stung to read, but then I thought well fair enough, they aren’t wrong, and I swear it has kept me from getting too pleased with myself ever since.

This is the most delightful response. I think we all need to be called out on our BS occasionally- it makes us better people, if we’re like you and able to take some criticism.

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Anonymous wrote:About 14 years ago I was nannying for 2 babies. I got let go after 3 weeks and I posted on here because I didn’t think the reason was a good one and wanted perspective. I got slammed by everyone.
(the 12week old was sleeping on his stomach, I was with him the whole time watching him, sent a pic to parents because it was cute, they said never put baby on stomach and I was let go. I do know that it’s not safe, but 2 babies was a lot, and I felt it was ok at the time because I stayed watching him)

Ohhh, they are very brutal in the Nanny Forums.

So sorry.

I mean, I would also have fired a new nanny that thought it was a good idea to put my baby to sleep on his stomach and send me a picture of it.

Yes!

You would actually FIRE an otherwise good Nanny just because she put your child to sleep on his or her stomach??

This is outrageous! 😤
Unless you specifically instructed her not to do this -> this is not a fireable offense!!

You sound like a mentally unstable helicopter parent who would be much better off staying home w/your child vs. leaving them in the care of a nanny.

* I mean this with one-hundred percent respect by the way.

DP. I would 100% fire a nanny that put the baby to sleep on its stomach. This is basic childcare knowledge.

This is not a reason to fire a nanny on the spot.
A lot of parents put their babies in their crib/bassinet on their stomachs ….. it isn’t basic childcare knowledge.

I put all four of my babies to sleep on their stomachs and they have all been healthy, thriving kids -> adults.

I would fire a nanny who abused or neglected my child.
I.e., left him alone in the bathtub, fell asleep while child was unsupervised or drove them inside a car w/out a car seat, etc.

But not for putting my infant down on his stomach! ??

A nanny isn’t supposed to be clueless about safe sleep practices and basic childcare knowledge. You’re feeling defensive because you were.

DP.

I also put my baby to sleep on his stomach, despite knowing that it’s not considered safe. You know why? It’s the only way he (and by extension, we) would actually f—king sleep.

You know what is statistically more likely to cause child death than sleeping on the stomach? That’s right, car crashes! You know what can contribute to the likelihood of that happening? Right again, chronically sleep deprived parents!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:About 14 years ago I was nannying for 2 babies. I got let go after 3 weeks and I posted on here because I didn’t think the reason was a good one and wanted perspective. I got slammed by everyone.
(the 12week old was sleeping on his stomach, I was with him the whole time watching him, sent a pic to parents because it was cute, they said never put baby on stomach and I was let go. I do know that it’s not safe, but 2 babies was a lot, and I felt it was ok at the time because I stayed watching him)

It was a dumb decision on your part. Why would you even do that?

How is dumb if she was literally watching him? Explain what exactly you think could have happened.