Dating with driving kids

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

+1

And it’s really crappy to teen kids. Sorry, it just is. Awful to do to them,

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are happily married for almost 20 years and we have three teenage boys (17, 16, 13) and we have exactly the same issue. We can't bang when the boys are in the house because it is just wierd - and they walk into our room at odd hours to borrow toothpaste or whatever, even though we tell them to respect privacy. plus my wife is super loud when she orgasms, so we need basically an empty house. the answer is easy, we just schedule time to meet at home once or twice per week during the day. And on a Saturday or Friday night if the boys are all out with friends, we hook up then. if you are close enough with these men to be screwing them, you should be able to talk openly about planning a discrete time and place.

This would be too much to ask of some of these PPs. Kids need text protocol!

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are happily married for almost 20 years and we have three teenage boys (17, 16, 13) and we have exactly the same issue. We can't bang when the boys are in the house because it is just wierd - and they walk into our room at odd hours to borrow toothpaste or whatever, even though we tell them to respect privacy. plus my wife is super loud when she orgasms, so we need basically an empty house. the answer is easy, we just schedule time to meet at home once or twice per week during the day. And on a Saturday or Friday night if the boys are all out with friends, we hook up then. if you are close enough with these men to be screwing them, you should be able to talk openly about planning a discrete time and place.

Let them catch you in the act once and it will never be a problem again. Trust me on this.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are happily married for almost 20 years and we have three teenage boys (17, 16, 13) and we have exactly the same issue. We can't bang when the boys are in the house because it is just wierd - and they walk into our room at odd hours to borrow toothpaste or whatever, even though we tell them to respect privacy. plus my wife is super loud when she orgasms, so we need basically an empty house. the answer is easy, we just schedule time to meet at home once or twice per week during the day. And on a Saturday or Friday night if the boys are all out with friends, we hook up then. if you are close enough with these men to be screwing them, you should be able to talk openly about planning a discrete time and place.

Let them catch you in the act once and it will never be a problem again. Trust me on this.

That would be nasty.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced man of adult kids. I don't have this problem, but some women I dated did. It led to funny situations.

One woman's daughter deliberately arrived home early to try to catch her with a man, since the mom was acting really weird about her evening plans and daughter was suspicious. I ended up having to rush out of the house very suddenly. Later the daughter laughingly cross examined her mom about the two wine glasses in the sink.The mom was really embarrassed, and we weren't even in a sexual relationship. It was just a date.

Another mom said she told her son about a "close call" and said "I'm dating now, and neither of us will be happy if you keep coming home without a lot of advance warning."

More than one mom really liked coming to my place and was really nervous at her own place with me.

The choices are:

Don't date or have sex

Date and have sex somewhere else (someone else's house, a hotel room, bathroom at the club, back seat of car, Union Station, etc.)

Tell kid not to come home unannounced

Try to time dating activities for when the house is empty

Basically, your choices as a sexually active parent are pretty similar to the choices sexually active children have. And some moms act that way.

I think one PP way back suggested telling your child you're having a date but that you're not ready to introduce the person yet. That seems like a very open way to handle things.

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You should have your children’s father come for sleepovers until you are ready to get serious with a boyfriend. This way you meet your sexual needs without making your kids uncomfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

I hate when posters like you can't make a solid argument without making stuff up. No one is banning anyone. It's common courtesy to send a text saying, "I forgot something. I'm on my way to get it." I get to decide who I spend time with in my house. I make decisions about that just like I make decisions about what improvements to make, what furniture to buy, what security system to install. One day, they can make those decisions in their own homes. Just because I have rules and boundaries in my home, it doesn't mean I'm neglecting them or making them feel unwanted (what the actual hell?). But I would also never hide my BF in my house either so there is that.

It's something that intact families don't require of their children. And it's something that people who aren't hiding their boyfriend wouldn't care about. If you like your boyfriend just introduce them. It's fine.

Broken families operate differently than intact families. They literally can't do otherwise.

It's more like, how many losses and burdens do you want to pile on your kids? They've lost their intact family. They're having to do joint custody. Now they're having to get permission before coming to their "home" on off days... At some point it's too much, right?

No. It's really not "too much" to ask a kid to text if they plan on changing their schedule and being in one home when they're supposed to be with the non-custodial parent. That's literally minimal effort basic courtesy. If you're going to change plans, you communicate. If you're old enough to drive, you're old enough to communicate like an almost-adult.

No wonder some of your kids are so fscking stunted. The excuses y'all make!!!

You sick selfish fool. Do you text when you change plans and come home? Do you text when you forget your keys or something else and have to turn around and come home?

The child lives there. It is their freaking house. I always say it's not divorce that destroys kids; it's sick selfish parents like you who would make your child feel like a visitor in their own home so you can eff strangers. Sex is not that important. And if it is to you, you should never have had kids.

You idiots will claim how children of divorce are doing " just fine" while you render them strangers in both homes by asking them to give you a heads-up to come to them.

You poor, traumatized little idiot. If I'm 5 minutes out and I forgot my keys, no, I probably don't text. If I'm not supposed to be there at all and I'm coming home, I'd absolutely text. The child does not live there 100% of the time; the child is expected to be with the non-custodial parent.

It's not divorce that destroys kids. The kids are fine. YOU, on the other hand, are a sick, stunted little traumawhore, addicted to your pain, demanding that everyone center your bizzaroland narrative, a figment of your own imagination based on a remnant from your childhood you've been ruminating over for decades. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head that you can't follow the thread, but that has nothing to do with me and your vitriol is not only misplaced, but further evidence of your psychological instability. An instability that, as a grown-ass adult, you're choosing to cling to.

Get help.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

I hate when posters like you can't make a solid argument without making stuff up. No one is banning anyone. It's common courtesy to send a text saying, "I forgot something. I'm on my way to get it." I get to decide who I spend time with in my house. I make decisions about that just like I make decisions about what improvements to make, what furniture to buy, what security system to install. One day, they can make those decisions in their own homes. Just because I have rules and boundaries in my home, it doesn't mean I'm neglecting them or making them feel unwanted (what the actual hell?). But I would also never hide my BF in my house either so there is that.

It's something that intact families don't require of their children. And it's something that people who aren't hiding their boyfriend wouldn't care about. If you like your boyfriend just introduce them. It's fine.

Broken families operate differently than intact families. They literally can't do otherwise.

It's more like, how many losses and burdens do you want to pile on your kids? They've lost their intact family. They're having to do joint custody. Now they're having to get permission before coming to their "home" on off days... At some point it's too much, right?

No. It's really not "too much" to ask a kid to text if they plan on changing their schedule and being in one home when they're supposed to be with the non-custodial parent. That's literally minimal effort basic courtesy. If you're going to change plans, you communicate. If you're old enough to drive, you're old enough to communicate like an almost-adult.

No wonder some of your kids are so fscking stunted. The excuses y'all make!!!

You sick selfish fool. Do you text when you change plans and come home? Do you text when you forget your keys or something else and have to turn around and come home?

The child lives there. It is their freaking house. I always say it's not divorce that destroys kids; it's sick selfish parents like you who would make your child feel like a visitor in their own home so you can eff strangers. Sex is not that important. And if it is to you, you should never have had kids.

You idiots will claim how children of divorce are doing " just fine" while you render them strangers in both homes by asking them to give you a heads-up to come to them.

You poor, traumatized little idiot. If I'm 5 minutes out and I forgot my keys, no, I probably don't text. If I'm not supposed to be there at all and I'm coming home, I'd absolutely text. The child does not live there 100% of the time; the child is expected to be with the non-custodial parent.

It's not divorce that destroys kids. The kids are fine. YOU, on the other hand, are a sick, stunted little traumawhore, addicted to your pain, demanding that everyone center your bizzaroland narrative, a figment of your own imagination based on a remnant from your childhood you've been ruminating over for decades. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head that you can't follow the thread, but that has nothing to do with me and your vitriol is not only misplaced, but further evidence of your psychological instability. An instability that, as a grown-ass adult, you're choosing to cling to.

Get help.

you sound like a bit of an angry wacko yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

I hate when posters like you can't make a solid argument without making stuff up. No one is banning anyone. It's common courtesy to send a text saying, "I forgot something. I'm on my way to get it." I get to decide who I spend time with in my house. I make decisions about that just like I make decisions about what improvements to make, what furniture to buy, what security system to install. One day, they can make those decisions in their own homes. Just because I have rules and boundaries in my home, it doesn't mean I'm neglecting them or making them feel unwanted (what the actual hell?). But I would also never hide my BF in my house either so there is that.

It's something that intact families don't require of their children. And it's something that people who aren't hiding their boyfriend wouldn't care about. If you like your boyfriend just introduce them. It's fine.

Broken families operate differently than intact families. They literally can't do otherwise.

It's more like, how many losses and burdens do you want to pile on your kids? They've lost their intact family. They're having to do joint custody. Now they're having to get permission before coming to their "home" on off days... At some point it's too much, right?

No. It's really not "too much" to ask a kid to text if they plan on changing their schedule and being in one home when they're supposed to be with the non-custodial parent. That's literally minimal effort basic courtesy. If you're going to change plans, you communicate. If you're old enough to drive, you're old enough to communicate like an almost-adult.

No wonder some of your kids are so fscking stunted. The excuses y'all make!!!

You sick selfish fool. Do you text when you change plans and come home? Do you text when you forget your keys or something else and have to turn around and come home?

The child lives there. It is their freaking house. I always say it's not divorce that destroys kids; it's sick selfish parents like you who would make your child feel like a visitor in their own home so you can eff strangers. Sex is not that important. And if it is to you, you should never have had kids.

You idiots will claim how children of divorce are doing " just fine" while you render them strangers in both homes by asking them to give you a heads-up to come to them.

DP and my family members definitely text if they are coming back for anything, running late, etc. I’m sorry you grew up in a trailer park with an open door policy (and apparently didn’t learn basic manners). There is nothing wrong with having basic respect for people you live with.

Go ahead and teach your poor kids to text while driving for the sake of basic respect, you pretentious idiot.

You need to log off and calm down, Ms. Hot Mess. They can text before they start driving. This really isn't anywhere near as complicated as you're trying to make it. At least, not for sane people.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

+1

And it’s really crappy to teen kids. Sorry, it just is. Awful to do to them,

It's really crappy and awful to ask kids to communicate when their plans change?

Lordy Jaysus...

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

I hate when posters like you can't make a solid argument without making stuff up. No one is banning anyone. It's common courtesy to send a text saying, "I forgot something. I'm on my way to get it." I get to decide who I spend time with in my house. I make decisions about that just like I make decisions about what improvements to make, what furniture to buy, what security system to install. One day, they can make those decisions in their own homes. Just because I have rules and boundaries in my home, it doesn't mean I'm neglecting them or making them feel unwanted (what the actual hell?). But I would also never hide my BF in my house either so there is that.

It's something that intact families don't require of their children. And it's something that people who aren't hiding their boyfriend wouldn't care about. If you like your boyfriend just introduce them. It's fine.

Broken families operate differently than intact families. They literally can't do otherwise.

It's more like, how many losses and burdens do you want to pile on your kids? They've lost their intact family. They're having to do joint custody. Now they're having to get permission before coming to their "home" on off days... At some point it's too much, right?

No. It's really not "too much" to ask a kid to text if they plan on changing their schedule and being in one home when they're supposed to be with the non-custodial parent. That's literally minimal effort basic courtesy. If you're going to change plans, you communicate. If you're old enough to drive, you're old enough to communicate like an almost-adult.

No wonder some of your kids are so fscking stunted. The excuses y'all make!!!

You sick selfish fool. Do you text when you change plans and come home? Do you text when you forget your keys or something else and have to turn around and come home?

The child lives there. It is their freaking house. I always say it's not divorce that destroys kids; it's sick selfish parents like you who would make your child feel like a visitor in their own home so you can eff strangers. Sex is not that important. And if it is to you, you should never have had kids.

You idiots will claim how children of divorce are doing " just fine" while you render them strangers in both homes by asking them to give you a heads-up to come to them.

You poor, traumatized little idiot. If I'm 5 minutes out and I forgot my keys, no, I probably don't text. If I'm not supposed to be there at all and I'm coming home, I'd absolutely text. The child does not live there 100% of the time; the child is expected to be with the non-custodial parent.

It's not divorce that destroys kids. The kids are fine. YOU, on the other hand, are a sick, stunted little traumawhore, addicted to your pain, demanding that everyone center your bizzaroland narrative, a figment of your own imagination based on a remnant from your childhood you've been ruminating over for decades. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head that you can't follow the thread, but that has nothing to do with me and your vitriol is not only misplaced, but further evidence of your psychological instability. An instability that, as a grown-ass adult, you're choosing to cling to.

Get help.

you sound like a bit of an angry wacko yourself.

Nice comeback.

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I went on a first date once with a guy who told me I didn't need to worry about us having time together as the kids weren't allowed at his house during his ex's parenting time. It was a such a turn off for me. He was confused as he thought it was a 'plus' that there was no kids around. I told him no, I wouldn't ever date anyone whose kids aren't welcome in their own home. The people I know who care about the best interest of their kids and try and make their lives as normal as possible after a family break up aren't banning children from their own home. They do the opposite.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

I hate when posters like you can't make a solid argument without making stuff up. No one is banning anyone. It's common courtesy to send a text saying, "I forgot something. I'm on my way to get it." I get to decide who I spend time with in my house. I make decisions about that just like I make decisions about what improvements to make, what furniture to buy, what security system to install. One day, they can make those decisions in their own homes. Just because I have rules and boundaries in my home, it doesn't mean I'm neglecting them or making them feel unwanted (what the actual hell?). But I would also never hide my BF in my house either so there is that.

It's something that intact families don't require of their children. And it's something that people who aren't hiding their boyfriend wouldn't care about. If you like your boyfriend just introduce them. It's fine.

Broken families operate differently than intact families. They literally can't do otherwise.

It's more like, how many losses and burdens do you want to pile on your kids? They've lost their intact family. They're having to do joint custody. Now they're having to get permission before coming to their "home" on off days... At some point it's too much, right?

No. It's really not "too much" to ask a kid to text if they plan on changing their schedule and being in one home when they're supposed to be with the non-custodial parent. That's literally minimal effort basic courtesy. If you're going to change plans, you communicate. If you're old enough to drive, you're old enough to communicate like an almost-adult.

No wonder some of your kids are so fscking stunted. The excuses y'all make!!!

You sick selfish fool. Do you text when you change plans and come home? Do you text when you forget your keys or something else and have to turn around and come home?

The child lives there. It is their freaking house. I always say it's not divorce that destroys kids; it's sick selfish parents like you who would make your child feel like a visitor in their own home so you can eff strangers. Sex is not that important. And if it is to you, you should never have had kids.

You idiots will claim how children of divorce are doing " just fine" while you render them strangers in both homes by asking them to give you a heads-up to come to them.

You poor, traumatized little idiot. If I'm 5 minutes out and I forgot my keys, no, I probably don't text. If I'm not supposed to be there at all and I'm coming home, I'd absolutely text. The child does not live there 100% of the time; the child is expected to be with the non-custodial parent.

It's not divorce that destroys kids. The kids are fine. YOU, on the other hand, are a sick, stunted little traumawhore, addicted to your pain, demanding that everyone center your bizzaroland narrative, a figment of your own imagination based on a remnant from your childhood you've been ruminating over for decades. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head that you can't follow the thread, but that has nothing to do with me and your vitriol is not only misplaced, but further evidence of your psychological instability. An instability that, as a grown-ass adult, you're choosing to cling to.

Get help.

Are you the PP who claimed kids are stunted because of excuses?

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

I hate when posters like you can't make a solid argument without making stuff up. No one is banning anyone. It's common courtesy to send a text saying, "I forgot something. I'm on my way to get it." I get to decide who I spend time with in my house. I make decisions about that just like I make decisions about what improvements to make, what furniture to buy, what security system to install. One day, they can make those decisions in their own homes. Just because I have rules and boundaries in my home, it doesn't mean I'm neglecting them or making them feel unwanted (what the actual hell?). But I would also never hide my BF in my house either so there is that.

It's something that intact families don't require of their children. And it's something that people who aren't hiding their boyfriend wouldn't care about. If you like your boyfriend just introduce them. It's fine.

Broken families operate differently than intact families. They literally can't do otherwise.

It's more like, how many losses and burdens do you want to pile on your kids? They've lost their intact family. They're having to do joint custody. Now they're having to get permission before coming to their "home" on off days... At some point it's too much, right?

No. It's really not "too much" to ask a kid to text if they plan on changing their schedule and being in one home when they're supposed to be with the non-custodial parent. That's literally minimal effort basic courtesy. If you're going to change plans, you communicate. If you're old enough to drive, you're old enough to communicate like an almost-adult.

No wonder some of your kids are so fscking stunted. The excuses y'all make!!!

You sick selfish fool. Do you text when you change plans and come home? Do you text when you forget your keys or something else and have to turn around and come home?

The child lives there. It is their freaking house. I always say it's not divorce that destroys kids; it's sick selfish parents like you who would make your child feel like a visitor in their own home so you can eff strangers. Sex is not that important. And if it is to you, you should never have had kids.

You idiots will claim how children of divorce are doing " just fine" while you render them strangers in both homes by asking them to give you a heads-up to come to them.

You poor, traumatized little idiot. If I'm 5 minutes out and I forgot my keys, no, I probably don't text. If I'm not supposed to be there at all and I'm coming home, I'd absolutely text. The child does not live there 100% of the time; the child is expected to be with the non-custodial parent.

It's not divorce that destroys kids. The kids are fine. YOU, on the other hand, are a sick, stunted little traumawhore, addicted to your pain, demanding that everyone center your bizzaroland narrative, a figment of your own imagination based on a remnant from your childhood you've been ruminating over for decades. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head that you can't follow the thread, but that has nothing to do with me and your vitriol is not only misplaced, but further evidence of your psychological instability. An instability that, as a grown-ass adult, you're choosing to cling to.

Get help.

The bolded must be very convenient for you. 😆

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have that kind of rule. My main priority is that my child feels welcome in THEIR home whenever they want regardless of the custody agreement.

It's disturbing how you call it "my house."

Oh please. Of course it is my house. I pay for it and maintain it. Kids don't get to run roughshod, whether you're sharing custody or not.

So where is their home? I don't think picking up something they needed is "running roughshod". Most parents do not ban their children from the home when the children are scheduled to be elsewhere. If they had a sleepover that fell through or an away game that was cancelled, would you bar the door? Tell them it's Boyfriend Time and My Home Not Yours? This is no different.

You are making your children feel unwanted and inconvenient in what should be your last precious years together. They will not forget.

I hate when posters like you can't make a solid argument without making stuff up. No one is banning anyone. It's common courtesy to send a text saying, "I forgot something. I'm on my way to get it." I get to decide who I spend time with in my house. I make decisions about that just like I make decisions about what improvements to make, what furniture to buy, what security system to install. One day, they can make those decisions in their own homes. Just because I have rules and boundaries in my home, it doesn't mean I'm neglecting them or making them feel unwanted (what the actual hell?). But I would also never hide my BF in my house either so there is that.

It's something that intact families don't require of their children. And it's something that people who aren't hiding their boyfriend wouldn't care about. If you like your boyfriend just introduce them. It's fine.

Broken families operate differently than intact families. They literally can't do otherwise.

It's more like, how many losses and burdens do you want to pile on your kids? They've lost their intact family. They're having to do joint custody. Now they're having to get permission before coming to their "home" on off days... At some point it's too much, right?

No. It's really not "too much" to ask a kid to text if they plan on changing their schedule and being in one home when they're supposed to be with the non-custodial parent. That's literally minimal effort basic courtesy. If you're going to change plans, you communicate. If you're old enough to drive, you're old enough to communicate like an almost-adult.

No wonder some of your kids are so fscking stunted. The excuses y'all make!!!

You sick selfish fool. Do you text when you change plans and come home? Do you text when you forget your keys or something else and have to turn around and come home?

The child lives there. It is their freaking house. I always say it's not divorce that destroys kids; it's sick selfish parents like you who would make your child feel like a visitor in their own home so you can eff strangers. Sex is not that important. And if it is to you, you should never have had kids.

You idiots will claim how children of divorce are doing " just fine" while you render them strangers in both homes by asking them to give you a heads-up to come to them.

You poor, traumatized little idiot. If I'm 5 minutes out and I forgot my keys, no, I probably don't text. If I'm not supposed to be there at all and I'm coming home, I'd absolutely text. The child does not live there 100% of the time; the child is expected to be with the non-custodial parent.

It's not divorce that destroys kids. The kids are fine. YOU, on the other hand, are a sick, stunted little traumawhore, addicted to your pain, demanding that everyone center your bizzaroland narrative, a figment of your own imagination based on a remnant from your childhood you've been ruminating over for decades. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head that you can't follow the thread, but that has nothing to do with me and your vitriol is not only misplaced, but further evidence of your psychological instability. An instability that, as a grown-ass adult, you're choosing to cling to.

Get help.

The bolded must be very convenient for you. 😆

Are you trying to shame someone for not wanting to spend 100% of their time with their kid? You must not have teens. Yeah, it's convenient af that they can drive themselves to their social events, and even pick up groceries on the way home. If you expect me to have a problem with that, what a bummer for you. I don't. At all.

Go rock your newborn. They're still cute and snuggly at that age and it goes fast. As they get older it's your job to let them go. If you have teens and you're this clingy/guilt-trippy/shamey, then I pity your poor children. Drop the leash!