Dating with driving kids

[Anonymous]

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Children are not wise. That's why they are children under adult care.. As the adult, you find the work around.

The state considers them wise and responsible enough to operate a motor vehicle absent adult supervision.

Further, it is assumed they know how to text as texting is a topic covered in all U.S. state driver's license exams.

Fair. But perhaps the state had public policy reasons to give them these licenses even though they are not yet wise.

On a lighter note, not sure why reading your second paragraph made me laugh out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Children are not wise. That's why they are children under adult care.. As the adult, you find the work around.

The state considers them wise and responsible enough to operate a motor vehicle absent adult supervision.

Further, it is assumed they know how to text as texting is a topic covered in all U.S. state driver's license exams.

+1

Some people just want to complain, not actually solve their (minor) problems. This is too easy.

It is easy. Parents should get a hotel room until they are ready to introduce their partners to their children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Considering how many things you're simply "not willing to implement," I am just annoyed by you at this point. Get a hotel room or go to his place. It's not rocket science.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Considering how many things you're simply "not willing to implement," I am just annoyed by you at this point. Get a hotel room or go to his place. It's not rocket science.

Nope to going to his place. He has the same issue. So yes, a hotel room is a possibility. But I come back to, how do intact familiies do this? Do they go get a hotel room? Do they ask their kids to text when coming home? Do they track their kids on Life360?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Ever heard of locked doors?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Considering how many things you're simply "not willing to implement," I am just annoyed by you at this point. Get a hotel room or go to his place. It's not rocket science.

Nope to going to his place. He has the same issue. So yes, a hotel room is a possibility. But I come back to, how do intact familiies do this? Do they go get a hotel room? Do they ask their kids to text when coming home? Do they track their kids on Life360?

It is what is. Having sex in your bedroom is not a crime.

I have a friend who was annoyed that she heard her step father and mom going at it. She was 17 then and she banged once on the wall between the bedrooms. The next morning, her step father told her: " this is my house, and I will make love to my wife when I want." As teenagers we thought she was crazy and her step dad's response was hilarious.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t know Queen Victoria’s ghost was posting so energetically on this thread. 😂

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Considering how many things you're simply "not willing to implement," I am just annoyed by you at this point. Get a hotel room or go to his place. It's not rocket science.

Nope to going to his place. He has the same issue. So yes, a hotel room is a possibility. But I come back to, how do intact familiies do this? Do they go get a hotel room? Do they ask their kids to text when coming home? Do they track their kids on Life360?

It is what is. Having sex in your bedroom is not a crime.

I have a friend who was annoyed that she heard her step father and mom going at it. She was 17 then and she banged once on the wall between the bedrooms. The next morning, her step father told her: " this is my house, and I will make love to my wife when I want." As teenagers we thought she was crazy and her step dad's response was hilarious.

Her Christmas gift should have been a no brainer: a nice pair of noise canceling headphones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Considering how many things you're simply "not willing to implement," I am just annoyed by you at this point. Get a hotel room or go to his place. It's not rocket science.

Nope to going to his place. He has the same issue. So yes, a hotel room is a possibility. But I come back to, how do intact familiies do this? Do they go get a hotel room? Do they ask their kids to text when coming home? Do they track their kids on Life360?

We have sex in our bedroom and lock the door. Teens alluded to hearing me one time. I said "get over it," and nothing more was mentioned. It's a perfectly normal part of married life.

Yes, I share my location with all of my family members but i don't do it so I know when I'm allowed to have sex.

I'm begining to think you're a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I wonder how intact families handle this.

Asked and answered.

Anonymous wrote: But I come back to, how do intact families do this?.

Asked and answered.


What are you imagining that would not involve what has been mentioned: communicating to a housemate you need to house for sex (necktie on the doorknob, etc...), you having them communicate their whereabouts using a notification system of some kind (360, text, Ring camera, presence-indicating noise, etc...), or finding a venue where you don't expect anyone to interrupt your sex (hotel, locked bedroom door)?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Considering how many things you're simply "not willing to implement," I am just annoyed by you at this point. Get a hotel room or go to his place. It's not rocket science.

Nope to going to his place. He has the same issue. So yes, a hotel room is a possibility. But I come back to, how do intact familiies do this? Do they go get a hotel room? Do they ask their kids to text when coming home? Do they track their kids on Life360?

Intact families do weekend mornings while the kids are asleep. Because they aren't trying to hide the presence of an adult, just the sex part. Intact families don't try to convince the kids there's no dad at all while also having sex with him in the house. That would be weird.

Daytimes when you're confident the kids won't be over. Whenever the kids are out of town. Put them in a travel sport and don't chaperone. Sleep away camp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Stop being a checked out parent. You should know wher eyour kids are at at alltimes.

[Anonymous]

Intact families accept the risk that the kids might hear sex or cross paths with your man. Because if they do, they might not enjoy it but they won't be stunned to find out that you're having sex with someone. They would know what they already know, which is that their parents have sex with each other. You're not willing to risk it right now, but that's what you would probably do in an intact family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Considering how many things you're simply "not willing to implement," I am just annoyed by you at this point. Get a hotel room or go to his place. It's not rocket science.

Nope to going to his place. He has the same issue. So yes, a hotel room is a possibility. But I come back to, how do intact familiies do this? Do they go get a hotel room? Do they ask their kids to text when coming home? Do they track their kids on Life360?

In my family we rely on mid-day meet ups at home, weekend mornings when the kids are dead to the world, Life 360, back of the suburban with all the seats down (once), and occasional hotel rooms. Sometimes I will tell my wife and the kids that we are going out to dinner, but instead of driving the the restaurant, I drive to the hotel and we go at it for a couple of hours. Where there is a will there is a way, and in fact the planning and creativity is fun. I'm wondering if your difficulty making it work might be more than just logistics?