Dating with driving kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

do you have one steady boyfriend, or various men sleeping over?

[Anonymous]

My daughter knows when I'm having a sleepover. We're prepared for her to come in at certain windows of time, like before school. (Once she's at dad's, she's at dad's and we're safe.) it's ok for kids to know their parents date. Believe me, they don't want to walk in on something "gross".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

OP, just bringing this back to the start to find out if all the feedback has been helpful. Obviously you want your kids to feel welcome in their own home. Once you re-marry or get into a serious relationship, then it is a different calculus because they will know and hopefully like your new partner. But in the meantime, yes, getting laid is important. Do you feel like you have some solutions to work with?

OP here. This thread has been interesting. Some of the most useful comments seem to have come from men. I like the idea of midday interactions. Seems like we're less likely to be surprised by someone coming home. Our family doesn't use Life360 and it's not something I'm interested in implementing so that won't work for us. Even after I introduce him to the kids, I still don't want them walking in on us. I wonder how intact families handle this. I'm not someone that is going to ask my kids to call or text before walking into their home.

Stop being a checked out parent. You should know wher eyour kids are at at alltimes.

helicopter parenting a teen who can drive is both impossible and inappropriate. You have to give them some freedom. Drop the digital leash!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle this? My home is obviously the kids home. They drive so they can come and go as needed. If they go to their dads and forget something, they come back and pick it up. Or they might stop by on their way to school. I don't want the kids to feel like they have to call or ask if they can come home but I also don't want them walking in on my adult sleepover.

do you have one steady boyfriend, or various men sleeping over?

I have a few partners and I call them depending on what mood I am in.