High Value Man - AMA

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Anonymous wrote:To be fair, young, educated and employed man are in high demand. More so if they look average, earn well and have no debt.

How many of these young educated and employer men don't suffer from crippling anxiety?!

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

This is quite silly. Not everyone has the same preferences as you. Get over it. You seem to suffer from solipsism.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

Lol yep. Hearing a man call themselves high value is like hearing them call themselves an alpha. You know it's just some insecurity leaking through their facade. Gives you the right ick, doesn't it?

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

Well apparently you didn't want them then, why do you think they'd want you now?

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No way is a so-called HVM posting about himself on DCUM and is still single after 30.

Actual good men are basically all taken by then.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

Lol yep. Hearing a man call themselves high value is like hearing them call themselves an alpha. You know it's just some insecurity leaking through their facade. Gives you the right ick, doesn't it?

A Lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep. Please spare us your baaaaahhhhhd takes

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

Lol yep. Hearing a man call themselves high value is like hearing them call themselves an alpha. You know it's just some insecurity leaking through their facade. Gives you the right ick, doesn't it?

A Lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep. Please spare us your baaaaahhhhhd takes

A lion doesn't need to go around telling everyone how big and strong and scary he is

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Anonymous wrote:To be fair, young, educated and employed man are in high demand. More so if they look average, earn well and have no debt.

How many of these young educated and employer men don't suffer from crippling anxiety?!

Yeah, this. "I have money, I'm tall, and I have an average D" isn't quite the win some seem to think.

Do you know your faults? Have you gone to therapy to work on your issues (everyone has them, so if you think you don't, think again)? Are you generous with your assets or do you think they magically entitle you to things/perks/people?

The lack of introspection with this dude is offputting, as is his "I like fixing other people" mentality. Heal thyself. Maybe then you can learn to appreciate people in their full humanity and not as objects and/or projects.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

Lol yep. Hearing a man call themselves high value is like hearing them call themselves an alpha. You know it's just some insecurity leaking through their facade. Gives you the right ick, doesn't it?

A Lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep. Please spare us your baaaaahhhhhd takes

Apparently you do since you’re here.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

Well apparently you didn't want them then, why do you think they'd want you now?

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This has been addressed.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

This is quite silly. Not everyone has the same preferences as you. Get over it. You seem to suffer from solipsism.

Nah, bruh. It's just a quick test to see how you'd treat things you can't fsck or profit from. You don't have to have the same preferences I do. You do need better reasons than you gave, which are sus. You may be a decent person w/o pets, but it raises questions and your ongoing replies support my original theory.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

This is quite silly. Not everyone has the same preferences as you. Get over it. You seem to suffer from solipsism.

Nah, bruh. It's just a quick test to see how you'd treat things you can't fsck or profit from. You don't have to have the same preferences I do. You do need better reasons than you gave, which are sus. You may be a decent person w/o pets, but it raises questions and your ongoing replies support my original theory.

Your "test" is silly. If you prefer that in the people you date, enjoy. Stop centering yourself and imposing your values and preferences on everyone. It's not a good look.