High Value Man - AMA

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

Well apparently you didn't want them then, why do you think they'd want you now?

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This has been addressed.

You've said this multiple times, but nothing has actually been addressed. You are weirdly dancing around any question asked. You give non-answers. It's very clear you have no idea what you're talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

This is quite silly. Not everyone has the same preferences as you. Get over it. You seem to suffer from solipsism.

Nah, bruh. It's just a quick test to see how you'd treat things you can't fsck or profit from. You don't have to have the same preferences I do. You do need better reasons than you gave, which are sus. You may be a decent person w/o pets, but it raises questions and your ongoing replies support my original theory.

Your "test" is silly. If you prefer that in the people you date, enjoy. Stop centering yourself and imposing your values and preferences on everyone. It's not a good look.

LOL - coming from you this is hilarious.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

Well apparently you didn't want them then, why do you think they'd want you now?

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This has been addressed.

You've said this multiple times, but nothing has actually been addressed. You are weirdly dancing around any question asked. You give non-answers. It's very clear you have no idea what you're talking about.

It's an educated guess based what I know of them, my interactions with them and hints they have dropped. Improve your reading comprehension.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

You used to know them. You are missing how many of our exes would find this disqualifying.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

Well apparently you didn't want them then, why do you think they'd want you now?

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This has been addressed.

You've said this multiple times, but nothing has actually been addressed. You are weirdly dancing around any question asked. You give non-answers. It's very clear you have no idea what you're talking about.

It's an educated guess based what I know of them, my interactions with them and hints they have dropped. Improve your reading comprehension.

You also said you are no longer in contact with them.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.


While I'm skeptical of this guy, I do have to say it's common for people who travel frequently for work that they can't/don't have pets. They say its too much hassle to worry about boarding the dog or even getting help to walk/feed dog if you have to stay out late for a work dinner or such.



3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

You used to know them. You are missing how many of our exes would find this disqualifying.

I can confidently say that I know them better than you do. You're very presumptuous. Why are you so pressed for a "gotcha"? Strange behavior, but go off.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

Lol yep. Hearing a man call themselves high value is like hearing them call themselves an alpha. You know it's just some insecurity leaking through their facade. Gives you the right ick, doesn't it?

A Lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep. Please spare us your baaaaahhhhhd takes

A lion doesn't need to go around telling everyone how big and strong and scary he is

Rawrrrrr. You're scared; admit it.

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Why aren't you married?

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

Well apparently you didn't want them then, why do you think they'd want you now?

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This has been addressed.

You've said this multiple times, but nothing has actually been addressed. You are weirdly dancing around any question asked. You give non-answers. It's very clear you have no idea what you're talking about.

It's an educated guess based what I know of them, my interactions with them and hints they have dropped. Improve your reading comprehension.

You also said you are no longer in contact with them.

No, I did not. We are in the same social circles.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

This is quite silly. Not everyone has the same preferences as you. Get over it. You seem to suffer from solipsism.

Nah, bruh. It's just a quick test to see how you'd treat things you can't fsck or profit from. You don't have to have the same preferences I do. You do need better reasons than you gave, which are sus. You may be a decent person w/o pets, but it raises questions and your ongoing replies support my original theory.

Your "test" is silly. If you prefer that in the people you date, enjoy. Stop centering yourself and imposing your values and preferences on everyone. It's not a good look.

I do enjoy silliness in my partners, yes. A sense of humor and a lighthearted approach to life is usually enjoyable. I am not "imposing my values and preferences on everyone". I have preferences, and you wouldn't meet them (which is fine). That you're now getting nasty and defensive is the third strike. Not being able to handle a difference in opinion/approach without nastiness is a hard stop for me in a potential partner. We're going to have conflicts, and if your response to them is default to big word namecalling before emotionally/mentally short-circuiting, we won't get through them.

A truly high-value man, one who had done some therapy and acquired greater emotional intelligence, would already know that.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

Lol yep. Hearing a man call themselves high value is like hearing them call themselves an alpha. You know it's just some insecurity leaking through their facade. Gives you the right ick, doesn't it?

A Lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep. Please spare us your baaaaahhhhhd takes

A lion doesn't need to go around telling everyone how big and strong and scary he is

Rawrrrrr. You're scared; admit it.

Not the PP you're responding to, but I am somewhat... let's go with "concerned" by this whole concept of men who consider themselves "high value" with little to nothing to support their theory. It reeks of overconfidence, the sort that usually underdelivers, resulting in a man meltdown and a bunch of projection and blameshifting to dodge responsibility.

High-value men have high levels of emotional intelligence. No comment on this thread has left me with the impression that OP has a noteworthy emotional IQ. It's giving "I self-tested for mensa online".

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I don't think OP is being nasty.

Not understanding why he is getting so much hate.

But I am not clear why OP is opening this thread on DCUM?

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's his delusion speaking. Very narcissistic to think of himself as such high value, and so deluded to think all of his exes (apparently 3) would take him back in heartbeat

It is what it is. If you have some things that you need to work through, do that, but I think I know these women better than you do.

You used to know them. You are missing how many of our exes would find this disqualifying.

I can confidently say that I know them better than you do. You're very presumptuous. Why are you so pressed for a "gotcha"? Strange behavior, but go off.

No high value woman is going around giving hints that she’d get back together with the guy who broke up with her. No high value woman is going to get back together with a guy posting on a message board that he could get back together with anyone of his serious exes if he tried to rekindle.

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1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

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Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

Nope. Sorry. No "high value" person has zero desire to have a pet, especially with the "I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments"" mentality.

Travel, I get, but a high-value man makes enough money to afford boarding or in-home care for a pet, or would at least have a "maybe when my lifestyle calms a bit" approach. But "no desire"? Red flag. Having a pet is a much better predictor of emotional capacity than your "sixes".

Then again, "high value" is kinda like "expert". When accurate, it's a title given to you by others. Very few self-proclaimed HV men really are, at least by the metrics most would use. But your skewed metric was also disclosed by your "sixes" comment.

Good luck with your "high value" lifestyle, though.

This is quite silly. Not everyone has the same preferences as you. Get over it. You seem to suffer from solipsism.

Nah, bruh. It's just a quick test to see how you'd treat things you can't fsck or profit from. You don't have to have the same preferences I do. You do need better reasons than you gave, which are sus. You may be a decent person w/o pets, but it raises questions and your ongoing replies support my original theory.

Your "test" is silly. If you prefer that in the people you date, enjoy. Stop centering yourself and imposing your values and preferences on everyone. It's not a good look.

I do enjoy silliness in my partners, yes. A sense of humor and a lighthearted approach to life is usually enjoyable. I am not "imposing my values and preferences on everyone". I have preferences, and you wouldn't meet them (which is fine). That you're now getting nasty and defensive is the third strike. Not being able to handle a difference in opinion/approach without nastiness is a hard stop for me in a potential partner. We're going to have conflicts, and if your response to them is default to big word namecalling before emotionally/mentally short-circuiting, we won't get through them.

A truly high-value man, one who had done some therapy and acquired greater emotional intelligence, would already know that.

If you are on the market, start a thread about what you prefer in a partner and maybe some magic will happen for you. I am not your therapist; nor do I particularly care what you look for in a partner. This may come as a shock to you, but different women prefer different things and you and your preferences are not the center of the universe. I am. (JK)