High Value Man - AMA

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Anonymous wrote:You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Sorry, you're just wrong. Would you say that about a woman who is single past the age of 30? Thought so.

So you can't get a woman.
And you can't keep a woman.

How are you any value at all?

This has already been addressed. Thnx.

I just re-read the thread and don't see it mentioned. So why can't you get or keep a girlfriend, let alone a wife? How can you say you are high value if no one wants it? Isnt that the basis of supply and demand?

I have already addressed what is meant by value and what some indicators are. Still, I think your framing is a bit askew. There is a difference between having inbound interest and you entertaining that interest. I am coupled up and out of the dating market, but still get intermittent inquiries and expressions of interest.

Does your boyfriend know you are trolling for attention on mommy forums?

Ask yourself why your impulse is to resort to homophobic insinuations and then have a word with yourself. Do better.

DP. I had assumed the first poster was a woman challenging OP, not another man. You thought it was one male poster challenging another on whether he got enough female attention?

What do you think the purpose of invoking a "boyfriend" in that context would be?

Mocking the poster for saying she was coupled, but still got it on, and was still looking for attention on anonymous forum. Maybe it resonated with me because I find the people who say they have a partner and talk about getting hitting on are usually seeking attention.
What did you think?

I think it was a common tack that I usually see to suggest that a straight man is "gay" as if that somehow undermines them because they can't "get women". Elementary school stuff, but maybe I'm wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

Omg. This is better than anything on Comedy Central.

Ugh, you're right. I forgot to include the "Very humbly," qualifier at the beginning of that sentence. Apologies.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

Dude, stop targeting women aged 70+. They deserve better.

You're 51 making only $88k? Is that like 'look how little I make and I can still achieve xyz' or are you proud of that income? I sure hope the former.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

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Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

Dude, stop targeting women aged 70+. They deserve better.

You're 51 making only $88k? Is that like 'look how little I make and I can still achieve xyz' or are you proud of that income? I sure hope the former.

I do what I love. And my wife makes 750k.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

Critical f/u Q: Why no pets?

Just no desire to have one and travel obligations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

Dude, stop targeting women aged 70+. They deserve better.

You're 51 making only $88k? Is that like 'look how little I make and I can still achieve xyz' or are you proud of that income? I sure hope the former.

I do what I love. And my wife makes 750k.

So your wife is the one not turning you down?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

Dude, stop targeting women aged 70+. They deserve better.

You're 51 making only $88k? Is that like 'look how little I make and I can still achieve xyz' or are you proud of that income? I sure hope the former.

I do what I love. And my wife makes 750k.

So your wife is the one not turning you down?

My whoring days are long gone.

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To be fair, young, educated and employed man are in high demand. More so if they look average, earn well and have no debt.

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As a high value man, what do you look for in a woman? have you answered that?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

I'd certainly turn you down.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

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Anonymous wrote:As a high value man, what do you look for in a woman? have you answered that?

Be physically attractive, communicate like an adult, be a willful giver and not selfish, wants to have kids. A pleasant disposition is helpful, but a little bit of sass is fine. If I got the sense that someone was going to be too much of a headache or too high maintenance, I quickly passed.

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Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

What make think that's actually true? As a woman, I would guess that your exes have moved on long ago.

It's just an educated guess based on what I know of them and they have given occasional hints when we were in more frequent touch. Things didn't really end acrimoniously. I'm not saying they're hung up on me or thinking about me every night; I said if things came to that, meaning conditions were there for a rekindling and I initiated it.