Party requesting guests to take shoes off

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you asked guests to take off shoes, I would comply, but would be totally grossed out. That’s like asking your guests to walk around barefoot in a locker room! Your floors may have been clean at the start of the party, but in a large group someone is bound to have something funky and contagious on their feet - soooo gross!

I also don’t get this idea that there’s fecal matter on the bottoms of everyone’s shoes - in the suburbs, our sidewalks, cars, and grocery store floors generally do not have poop all over them. Just mop your floors regularly and all will be ok - there is no reason that floors need to be sterile enough for someone to lick them!

Just wear socks. Easy answer. Anyway, these shoe threads always go off the rails, so I'm not going to weigh in on OP, but re fecal matter:

The fecal matter was found when swabbing shoes. In other words, your suburban shoes can be swabbed, and fecal matter is likely to be found on them. Do what you want with the info, but know that it's not just a theory.

Um what do you think swabs would pick up on your bathroom floor? No matter what you’re wearing into the bathroom (outside shoes / inside shoes / socks / bare feet) - that will also get tracked around your house!

You’re not pooping on your bathroom floor, are you?

When a toilet is flushed, microscopic fecal matter is flung around the bathroom. It’s the same logic as the idea that you pick up fecal matter walking on a sidewalk - you’re not actually stepping in poop.

I’m just saying there’s no reason to get so hung up on this idea of microscopic matter being a risk. If you walk in and out of a bathroom, you’re tracking it around your house anyways. Just clean the floors regularly and all is good.

I have a feeling some of these people have house slippers, and then separate bathroom slippers to put on before they enter the loo. Regardless, I'm certain none of them have pets, which is really the saddest thing about this entire thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i wear orthotics. my feet hurt without them. i would find it very weird to do this and if i knew it in advance would find an excuse not to attend

Why would you need to find an excuse, though?

I am in your same boat, footwise, and as long as I know in advance that guests are expected to take their shoes off, it's fine. Your house, your rules, I'll stay home.

But I don't like showing up somewhere and learning that I have to take off my shoes or leave. If I'd known, I'd have stayed home (happily, not resentfully -- possibly a little amused that so many shoe-free-ers leave the seat up to flush and have cats. I promise their houses/floors are not more sanitary than mine)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if you asked guests to take off shoes, I would comply, but would be totally grossed out. That’s like asking your guests to walk around barefoot in a locker room! Your floors may have been clean at the start of the party, but in a large group someone is bound to have something funky and contagious on their feet - soooo gross!

I also don’t get this idea that there’s fecal matter on the bottoms of everyone’s shoes - in the suburbs, our sidewalks, cars, and grocery store floors generally do not have poop all over them. Just mop your floors regularly and all will be ok - there is no reason that floors need to be sterile enough for someone to lick them!

Just wear socks. Easy answer. Anyway, these shoe threads always go off the rails, so I'm not going to weigh in on OP, but re fecal matter:

The fecal matter was found when swabbing shoes. In other words, your suburban shoes can be swabbed, and fecal matter is likely to be found on them. Do what you want with the info, but know that it's not just a theory.

Um what do you think swabs would pick up on your bathroom floor? No matter what you’re wearing into the bathroom (outside shoes / inside shoes / socks / bare feet) - that will also get tracked around your house!

You’re not pooping on your bathroom floor, are you?

When a toilet is flushed, microscopic fecal matter is flung around the bathroom. It’s the same logic as the idea that you pick up fecal matter walking on a sidewalk - you’re not actually stepping in poop.

I’m just saying there’s no reason to get so hung up on this idea of microscopic matter being a risk. If you walk in and out of a bathroom, you’re tracking it around your house anyways. Just clean the floors regularly and all is good.

Have you also considered closing the toilet before flushing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if you asked guests to take off shoes, I would comply, but would be totally grossed out. That’s like asking your guests to walk around barefoot in a locker room! Your floors may have been clean at the start of the party, but in a large group someone is bound to have something funky and contagious on their feet - soooo gross!

I also don’t get this idea that there’s fecal matter on the bottoms of everyone’s shoes - in the suburbs, our sidewalks, cars, and grocery store floors generally do not have poop all over them. Just mop your floors regularly and all will be ok - there is no reason that floors need to be sterile enough for someone to lick them!

Just wear socks. Easy answer. Anyway, these shoe threads always go off the rails, so I'm not going to weigh in on OP, but re fecal matter:

The fecal matter was found when swabbing shoes. In other words, your suburban shoes can be swabbed, and fecal matter is likely to be found on them. Do what you want with the info, but know that it's not just a theory.

Um what do you think swabs would pick up on your bathroom floor? No matter what you’re wearing into the bathroom (outside shoes / inside shoes / socks / bare feet) - that will also get tracked around your house!

You’re not pooping on your bathroom floor, are you?

When a toilet is flushed, microscopic fecal matter is flung around the bathroom. It’s the same logic as the idea that you pick up fecal matter walking on a sidewalk - you’re not actually stepping in poop.

I’m just saying there’s no reason to get so hung up on this idea of microscopic matter being a risk. If you walk in and out of a bathroom, you’re tracking it around your house anyways. Just clean the floors regularly and all is good.

Have you also considered closing the toilet before flushing?

That would blow the poop woman’s mind

[Anonymous]

I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Just go drink your Molson, have a Tim Horton's, and pipe down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Requirement?

[Anonymous]

It’s a white American thing

[Anonymous]

I am always amazed at how insular these shoe threads demonstrate some DMV residents to be. How in 2024 do people not understand that shoe free is an important part of many, many cultures? If you are invited to an Asian American family's home, assume shoe free is highly likely. OP doesn't need to tell people in advance.

[Anonymous]

Oink oink

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Requirement?

Sorry, worded it incorrectly. Requirements that people be allowed to wear the shoes. So many people here saying they would refuse to go, and piping in how disgusting wearing socks in a house is. I mean, isn’t that the point of socks?

I mean, I’m Canadian, so come and wear socks or bare feet. I’m almost z50
And have never gotten a foot fungus or illness from this behaviour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s [b]requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Requirement?

Sorry, worded it incorrectly. Requirements that people be allowed to wear the shoes. So many people here saying they would refuse to go, and piping in how disgusting wearing socks in a house is. I mean, isn’t that the point of socks?

I mean, I’m Canadian, so come and wear socks or bare feet. I’m almost z50
And have never gotten a foot fungus or illness from this behaviour.

A different Minnesotan here, and I completely agree.

[Anonymous]

We are Asian American and we regularly host large parties with mixed race and mixed age people. We are mostly a no-shoe household and most of the time people will ask if they need to take their shoes off.

Usually, if I want my guests to remove their shoes, I will also be barefoot and I will have a few shoes lined at the entrance to give a visual cue to guests. Otherwise, I will be wearing my shoes and will not have any shoes at the entrance. I expect my guests to remove their shoes when my floors are squeaky clean and spotless. Don't expect your guests to take off their shoes when you have pets in your home or dirty floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Requirement?

Sorry, worded it incorrectly. Requirements that people be allowed to wear the shoes. So many people here saying they would refuse to go, and piping in how disgusting wearing socks in a house is. I mean, isn’t that the point of socks?

People have said they have medical reasons for needing shoes, and shoe covers, even the ones with supposedly grippy soles, are too slippery. Some people use mobility aids that they also use outside. If people said, "Can I ask people to use a sanitizing wipe on their shoes or wheelchairs?" that would be a different question. So would, "Should I let people know that everyone needs to be in socks if they want to come?" But what people are saying instead is "You are filthy and you must come and be uncomfortable because my standards are higher than yours."

I am reminded that Canada does not accept immigrants with disabilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Requirement?

Sorry, worded it incorrectly. Requirements that people be allowed to wear the shoes. So many people here saying they would refuse to go, and piping in how disgusting wearing socks in a house is. I mean, isn’t that the point of socks?

People have said they have medical reasons for needing shoes, and shoe covers, even the ones with supposedly grippy soles, are too slippery. Some people use mobility aids that they also use outside. If people said, "Can I ask people to use a sanitizing wipe on their shoes or wheelchairs?" that would be a different question. So would, "Should I let people know that everyone needs to be in socks if they want to come?" But what people are saying instead is "You are filthy and you must come and be uncomfortable because my standards are higher than yours."

I am reminded that Canada does not accept immigrants with disabilities.

The bottom of your shoes are filthy.