It's cheaper in the long run to have a SAHW/M for the other spouse too. |
Of course there are men who want to earn enough so that their wife has the choice to SAHM. It’s only revolutionary thinking on DCUM. Fairly standard out in the real world. |
Trust fund babies don't need money from their wife or their husband.
https://www.nydailynews.com/2012/06/24/defense-attorney-roy-kulcsar-disbarred-for-using-inmates-to-recruit-new-clients/ Also she has job, her influencer garbage. |
Only if the horse was an ahole. Not all me are. |
I second this. People who said OP s selfish, lazy doesn’t want to work are jealous that some one can fine a partne like that. I think women ( and men ) should know what they want, not afraid to ask for it, and don’t settled. |
There's no way that you get to spend as much time with your kids as the PP or her husband do. You must work at least as many hours as they do. Yes, they're both working those hours, and only you are working those hours on your end, but I imagine PP and her husband appreciate that they BOTH spend a ton of time with their kids. Your wife spends more with your kids than you do. She has also put herself into a possible precarious position. So I'm glad you like your setup but it doesn't sound appealing to me. |
The dream is not to have a stay at home wife. It is just a preference.
I’m a SAHM. DH definitely likes having a well educated pretty SAHM wife to raise his children. |
Everyone (men or women)should strive for financial independence for themselves and their spouse and kids. If you have that then you get freedom to choose. You can pick your projects, your hours, your team, your causes, your physical health, your hobbies, your mental health, your social connections. Our mentality is rigged, we think like minions and not just for ourselves but can't see anyone else making different choices. How dare someone can stray from given paths and betray us all by a different lifestyle? |
If I had enough money, I would totally want my spouse and adult kids to not have to work but do whatever makes them happy, even if its no work, low paying work, business, adventure, raising family, cleaning neighborhood park, running for office, becoming astronaut or whatever. |
I’m 55, married for 30 years. My lifelong dream was to be a housewife (that’s what we called it). I dated accordingly and always conveyed and discussed my goals and values.
DH and I married with a plan: we’d live on his income and bank my (modest) salary until I quit to have a baby. I did exactly this and we have 3 DC. Resumed working almost 20 years later, part time. Just left that career perhaps forever- to handle elder care and prep for our own relocation/downsizing. |
I married in 1998. After first kid in 2000 my wife decided she wanted to be SAHM. She actually had resentment her Mom worked and never there for her. Never a parent in stands, walking home alone no one to pick her up.
I was making 61k at time. It was crazy as she was making 68k. I let her do it. I had rock on my back needed to earn more. By 2004 doubled my salary. By 2010 I as making 310k by 2915 making 360k. The man with a SAHM wife, mortgage and three kids will out-earn the guy with 1-2 kids and a working wife by double! Maybe 5x. It is selfish for women to work |
Agree. I love staying at home and going to the gym for 2 hours in the morning. Almost ALL the working moms/women I know have really let themselves go, and most (but not all) of their husbands have gotten fat too. I make sure my husband has time in his daily schedule to get to the gym for at LEAST an hour on week days. |
Similar story for me, married in 2005 (43M). When you need to earn, you earn. And those of us from the latchkey generation saw what a bunch of bullsh!t that was. Feminism my a$$--more like the disempowerment of women by bringing them under corporate control. |
This is the exact routine at my house and your observations ring 100% true in my observation as well. |
WTF are you smoking? I met my husband in 1996 and we were both making around the same as you and your wife at 26 years old. We got married at 28. My Fed job allowed him the security to run wild with his career and take risks (since we had my substantial health benefits and Fed salary to fall back on). He was making $500k by 32. I never quit my job and I was always home with my flexible Fed schedule and then WAH in the early 2000s. So while my salary didn't shoot up like his, I make around $200k today and have about $2.5 million in my own TSP fed savings plan. The man with a wife making $ at a flexible job will outearn the man with the SAHM wife, mortgage and three kids...and we now have two mortgages on homes worth $2million paid off before our first starts college next year. |