Are there really men whose dream it is to have their wife not need to work?

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Anonymous wrote:Feminist Genx boomer stuff is dying out , it was a lie And caused the dusk income trap

Tell that to the GenX gray divorces I'm seeing with the SAHMs left with bread crumbs in their 50s-60s.

Trad wifes will see it in 20 years and then half to get their *sses out to compete with workers more than 1/2 their age for entry level jobs.

+1

The only way a gray divorce sees bread crumbs is if they lived hand to mouth and didn’t save. Marital assets are split 50/50, including home equity, retirement and taxable accounts. If they get “bread crumbs” it’s because they had nothing anyway.

Because two households is 2x the cost.

Could you duplicate your lifestyle now? Two of the same house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are there women out there that have the same dream for their men? Because I don’t love going to the office every day, and would happily have the choice not to.

I am amazed at how old-fashioned Americans sense of gender roles are compared with my home country.

I come from a third world country, and I don't know a single woman there who does not work. It does not matter how rich/ wealthy husband's are there: every woman has something doing. The wealthy wives don't have an office job, but they all have some type of business going on, and it's usually very lucrative since they have access to wealthy clients.

The poorer women without oranges would sell oranges, spices, doughnuts, etc. You'd be amazed at the money they can make selling these basic items.

Every woman ( adult) should have their own source of income. It dies not have to be a traditional/ rigid job if one can afford the flexibility and uncertainty.

[Anonymous]

My husband can care less if I work or I don't. It's not his "dream" that I don't work but he doesn't care either way.

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I do actually know a man like that. Seems very unrealistic in DC, but he's very religious and I would think he's gay if he wasn't married

[Anonymous]

No doubt that two salaries are a safety net and huge advantages in saving and possibly earlier retirement.

I observe though that employees w SAH spouses have tons more flexibility at work that can lead to better opportunities. That said I always worked and my daughter is getting a stem degree to start her career.

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This sounds to me like being put on a budget and I hate budgets. I have the best situation imo. My H pays for everything, I have a fed job with great benefits and spend my paycheck, after the tsp and backdoor roth, on whatever I want with abandon. I just got myself a delina exclusif and an antique Victorian 18k ruby bracelet as a mother's day present.
My parents have the same arrangement and have been happily married for over 50 years. It also works for us.

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Wouldn't world be lovely if all of us had trust funds and work was optional for both men and women?

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Anonymous wrote:Feminist Genx boomer stuff is dying out , it was a lie And caused the dusk income trap

Tell that to the GenX gray divorces I'm seeing with the SAHMs left with bread crumbs in their 50s-60s.

Trad wifes will see it in 20 years and then half to get their *sses out to compete with workers more than 1/2 their age for entry level jobs.

+1

The only way a gray divorce sees bread crumbs is if they lived hand to mouth and didn’t save. Marital assets are split 50/50, including home equity, retirement and taxable accounts. If they get “bread crumbs” it’s because they had nothing anyway.

Because two households is 2x the cost.

Could you duplicate your lifestyle now? Two of the same house?

Yeah. Duh. They now need to support two separate homes (each their own) instead of continuing one giant nest egg.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No doubt that two salaries are a safety net and huge advantages in saving and possibly earlier retirement.

I observe though that employees w SAH spouses have tons more flexibility at work that can lead to better opportunities. That said I always worked and my daughter is getting a stem degree to start her career.

Nope. My spouse had more flexibility BECAUSE of my flexible secure WAH job with health benefits so he could go independent and take risks early in his career. Big payoff

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Anonymous wrote:No doubt that two salaries are a safety net and huge advantages in saving and possibly earlier retirement.

I observe though that employees w SAH spouses have tons more flexibility at work that can lead to better opportunities. That said I always worked and my daughter is getting a stem degree to start her career.

Nope. My spouse had more flexibility BECAUSE of my flexible secure WAH job with health benefits so he could go independent and take risks early in his career. Big payoff

+1 You don’t take risks when your income and benefits are your family’s sole lifeline.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of y’all just love being a wage slave and helping make someone else richer a little too much. You’ll definitely be glad that’s how you spent your time when you’re old.

You’ll be replaced so easily and forgotten so quickly once you’re gone. It’s only worth it for the money.

Happily retired at 55, babe. Tons of $$ to fund college and travel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't world be lovely if all of us had trust funds and work was optional for both men and women?

My wife doesn’t work. I don’t have a trust fund. I set this lifestyle up for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of y’all just love being a wage slave and helping make someone else richer a little too much. You’ll definitely be glad that’s how you spent your time when you’re old.

This

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I honestly think this type of man will die off in the next few generations.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most men want their wives to have options?

My wife has plenty of options.

She can go work whenever she wants. She can leave the marriage whenever she wants. She can do whatever she wants, whenever she wants. She isn’t a prisoner.

What makes you think that woman who choose to stay at home don’t have options?