You are SO not invited to my bat mitzvah - movie on netflix

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Anonymous wrote:Tried watching it with my family - we are Jewish, have girls 13 and 11, they are huge comedy and musical theater fans. It was awful. We turned it off after 15 mins. The kids were awful, spoiled, entitled, shallow, the parents were about as bad and it was poorly acted.

We (including my two teens) also thought the children were spoiled and entitled. We got a few laughs out of it but ultimately did not feel too relatable.

My kids are wealthy NYC Jews who attend private school and even they thought these kids were entitled brats. I’m not sure if the goal was to be a parody of the excessive b’nai mitzvah culture but it came close to that.

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The lip injections were weird to see on a 13/14 year old

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Anonymous wrote:The lip injections were weird to see on a 13/14 year old

Those weren't lip injections. Some people just have full lips. Her pouting them out all the time was annoying though.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

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Diversity isn’t throwing off viewers.

Rather, actual Jewish people thought it was odd to see so much diversity at Hebrew school. The film centers around scenes at Hebrew school, which is a unique rite of passage for Jewish people.

Beyond being unrealistic—which is expected to a large degree with Hollywood films—it simply isn’t representative of *Jewish people* and their experience.

That’s legit criticism.

A few (adopted) Asian kids would have made sense. But black kids at Hebrew school? Latinos? Not a chance…especially in NJ.

They weren't explicit about the location. Kyle Richards' kids were Latinos at Hebrew school and I doubt they were the only ones. I went to high school with a girl named Sophia Grossman from Colombia who would always be like, hey idiots there are Jews in Latin America. She looked and talked like Shakira! My tennis coach growing up was Black and Jewish.

You're saying it was too much but I also think you're exaggerating the problem, given many of us know people like this.

DP. This is completely incorrect. Yes, Kyle Richard's husband grew up in Mexico - but he is not Latino. His last name is Umansky and he is of Russian and Greek descent. Their kids are not latina.

You are right. But there are still latin American Jews.

Absolutely. But Mauricio Umansky isn't one of them.

Yes. I just agreed with you about that.

I just googled him and I don’t understand why you guys are saying he isn’t Latino or Latin American. His grandparents moved to Mexico and he and his parents were raised there. Who cares if the grandparents were from Eastern Europe rather than Spain or indigenous? He and two previous generations of his family lived in Mexico. He speaks Spanish why is he not Latino?

I know multiple people who are Jewish and whose families moved to Latin American from Germany or Eastern Europe around World War Two and they consider themselves Latino. Even the ones who grew up in the states.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

Wow. Then make your own art. This is Adam Sandler's art, and it represents what he believes in and what should be represented.

I brought up earlier that schitts creek portrayed a world without homophobia. Maybe some people would be offended by that, and say it downplays or ignores the struggles that homosexuals face. Well, then they are free to make their own show. There are Jews who would love their community to be as welcoming as possible and include many races and cultures more and more. You don't get to tell them no.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

Wow. Then make your own art. This is Adam Sandler's art, and it represents what he believes in and what should be represented.

I brought up earlier that schitts creek portrayed a world without homophobia. Maybe some people would be offended by that, and say it downplays or ignores the struggles that homosexuals face. Well, then they are free to make their own show. There are Jews who would love their community to be as welcoming as possible and include many races and cultures more and more. You don't get to tell them no.

I'm from that world and agree the diversity is very unrealistic.

But I think Adam Sandler was just looking to make a movie that felt broadly appealing and relatable to a mass-market audience, while putting it in this familiar and interesting vehicle of a bat mitzvah. It's just a movie, not a documentary, and so I don't see the big deal. He may also have thought homogeneity was not something to showcase for his movie or the community.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

+1 Very well stated.

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Between this and Euphoria I am full on frightened for teen years up ahead. Lord keep my child forever 8 years old.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

It is not a documentary.

Also how do you feel about Hamilton?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

It is not a documentary.

Also how do you feel about Hamilton?

DP here but Hamilton is different. It's a musical. You have to suspend belief. But go ahead and ignore a bunch of Jews all saying the same thing about being Jewish. I'm sure you know better.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

Wow. Then make your own art. This is Adam Sandler's art, and it represents what he believes in and what should be represented.

I brought up earlier that schitts creek portrayed a world without homophobia. Maybe some people would be offended by that, and say it downplays or ignores the struggles that homosexuals face. Well, then they are free to make their own show. There are Jews who would love their community to be as welcoming as possible and include many races and cultures more and more. You don't get to tell them no.

I'm from that world and agree the diversity is very unrealistic.

But I think Adam Sandler was just looking to make a movie that felt broadly appealing and relatable to a mass-market audience, while putting it in this familiar and interesting vehicle of a bat mitzvah. It's just a movie, not a documentary, and so I don't see the big deal. He may also have thought homogeneity was not something to showcase for his movie or the community.

+1 Very well stated.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

It is not a documentary.

Also how do you feel about Hamilton?

DP here but Hamilton is different. It's a musical. You have to suspend belief. But go ahead and ignore a bunch of Jews all saying the same thing about being Jewish. I'm sure you know better.

Adam Sandler is jewish. Are you the jewish police? Do you get to decide how each and every jew expresses themselves? Why are you so offended by jews o color?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

It is not a documentary.

Also how do you feel about Hamilton?

DP here but Hamilton is different. It's a musical. You have to suspend belief. But go ahead and ignore a bunch of Jews all saying the same thing about being Jewish. I'm sure you know better.

Adam Sandler is jewish. Are you the jewish police? Do you get to decide how each and every jew expresses themselves? Why are you so offended by jews o color?

There’s a poster that shows up on every thread remotely Jewish to state what is Jewish or not and tell Jews of color, converts, or intermarriage they are not Jewish.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is Jewish and he rolled his eyes at the tremendous diversity in the Hebrew school scenes. While we understand and support representation in movies, it wasn’t realistic and to a certain extent co-opts what is a singular Jewish experience. (I’m Catholic so I don’t have a dog in this fight.)

He also pointed out that Jewish mothers spend a year+ planning the event (while the movie made it seem like they are thrown together, including shopping for the dress at the last minute).

I would have loved to see Sara Silverman or Seinfeld or another Jewish comedian make a cameo. Missed opportunity.

I was very distracted by this.

It's so sad that diversity throws off some posters. I love to see it in movies and it makes more people feel included.
We've watched it twice with groups of middle schoolers who could not get enough. Watching it the second time I caught more cute details that really cement this one as a quotable classic. I think it will be one they all watch several times.

If everything has to be racially diverse, then there can't be a show about Jews. This wasn't realistic. Would you be ok with a bunch of non-black people portraying the slaves in Roots?

I feel as if you're trolling here, but just to reiterate - diverse areas of the country do have a diverse population of Jewish kids. I'm speaking as a Jewish person in a diverse region. AFAIK, there were no white slaves pre-Civil War.

I am a different poster. Jews are a minority and we deserve to have our own space for art and culture just like other minorities deserve to have their own space. There was no need to misrepresent the Jewish day school or American Jews in the movie. There may be one or two non European looking kids in Jewish day schools at most.

It is not a documentary.

Also how do you feel about Hamilton?

DP here but Hamilton is different. It's a musical. You have to suspend belief. But go ahead and ignore a bunch of Jews all saying the same thing about being Jewish. I'm sure you know better.

Adam Sandler is jewish. Are you the jewish police? Do you get to decide how each and every jew expresses themselves? Why are you so offended by jews o color?

There’s a poster that shows up on every thread remotely Jewish to state what is Jewish or not and tell Jews of color, converts, or intermarriage they are not Jewish.

No, there are at least two Jews (because I didn't write the post you're responding to) who have retained our communal memories and aren't trying to make up a new universalist religion so the gentiles will finally think we're cool.