Custody Schedule - School year vs. Summer

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Anonymous wrote:I have this situation; OP. I have 80% custody during the school year and we do 50/50 for 8 weeks in summer. He’s an active alcoholic. The kids will be driving soon and will likely be spending little time there, which is sad, but the result of his decisions.

How does driving soon impact custody? That makes no sense.

Learning how to drive absolutely impacts how much time a kid spends with their parents, especially if a kid used to be driven a lot of places.

No, it does not.

Really?

I'm a parent who spends at least an hour a day in the car with my 15 year old. We have days when that, and breakfast/dinner are all I really see him, because he's at his desk doing HW, or playing video games or out with friends the rest of the time. If he starts driving to those places, I'll get 1/2 as much time with him each week.

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Anonymous wrote:I have this situation; OP. I have 80% custody during the school year and we do 50/50 for 8 weeks in summer. He’s an active alcoholic. The kids will be driving soon and will likely be spending little time there, which is sad, but the result of his decisions.

How does driving soon impact custody? That makes no sense.

Learning how to drive absolutely impacts how much time a kid spends with their parents, especially if a kid used to be driven a lot of places.

No, it does not.

Really?

I'm a parent who spends at least an hour a day in the car with my 15 year old. We have days when that, and breakfast/dinner are all I really see him, because he's at his desk doing HW, or playing video games or out with friends the rest of the time. If he starts driving to those places, I'll get 1/2 as much time with him each week.

That’s on you if your kid hides from you at home. And, this has nothing to do with visits. Just because you choose not to spend time with him should not mean the other parent gets denied time. I have plenty of time with my teen.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! You take the cake. You will consider “more visitation.” The judge is going to hand you your A S S on a plate, thank god.

Who are you babbling to? OP's lazy broke ex doesn't see his kid now because he can't be bothered. But now he thinks he can cash in on his wife by getting 50-50 custody with some child support because he is a man-child without a real job.

So he plans to get 50-50 and stick OP with all the childcare.

Typical divorced man.

Sounds like the ex only has limited time and takes it, asks for more and op says no and then complains. She will never allow more.

No. That is not what OP said at all. Her ex doesn't use the time he has.

OP has said he uses all his time. She is restricting his requests for more time. He doesn't care for the child exactly as she would so she's restricting visits. You are thinking of other posters.

OP here. I think you’re confused. I said he hasn’t used all his time, and I’m the one who offers extra time.

Are you offering it when he’s available or when he’s working or has other obligations that make it impossible to set him up to fail?

I offer it when my ex is available and I also provide blanket invitations (for ex: let me know if you’d like an extra day or weekend).

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I offered alternative schedules such as more time in the summer so school days could continue under the same routine and was told more time in the summer wasn’t going to work due to my ex having to work. This truly doesn’t make any sense since I also have to work and I’ve been managing all of the M-F custody thus far, and having to work is also necessary during a 50/50 schedule. It’s becoming clearer to me that my ex only wants 50/50 on paper and what would likely happen is that I would end up having to do the majority of the work.