Am I being paranoid?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

I just read through this thread. What is the update? He WAS having an affair and they had a child together???

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

I just read through this thread. What is the update? He WAS having an affair and they had a child together???

yes

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So sorry, OP

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

I just read through this thread. What is the update? He WAS having an affair and they had a child together???

The OP posted on the "how you found out your spouse was cheating" thread about finding about the kid.

OP, I'm so sorry. I get that you are in shock. You don't have to make any decisions immediately. Do you have a good therapist?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

I just read through this thread. What is the update? He WAS having an affair and they had a child together???

The OP posted on the "how you found out your spouse was cheating" thread about finding about the kid.

OP, I'm so sorry. I get that you are in shock. You don't have to make any decisions immediately. Do you have a good therapist?

I do, thank you

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OP - I know it is very hard on your at right now. But both of them are terrible people. I cannot imagine which dirty sk..nk would be coming to her lover's house under a disguise of a tutor! Your husband has made a huge mistake. You will be enjoying quiet life after divorce, dating new single people, reading books, going for meetups. And he will be taking care of a baby with woman who only needed him for a visa.

I hope you are ok financially and it won't be a large hit: think only about your own future financial stability right now, and if you need to talk to someone - do talk. It helps emotionally not to keep it inside. I would recommend active sports, swimming.

Go online and enroll in all hikes and book clubs that are of interest. Don't sit home alone in this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

Did he want to stay together? Or did he say I have a child with another woman so I think we need to break up?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

Did he want to stay together? Or did he say I have a child with another woman so I think we need to break up?

The second

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow the insecurity and lack of trust here.

Your DH is engaging in a great hobby -- learning new languages. It's not his fault that most tutors (i study languages also) happen to be in their 20s. It's not his fault she's female.

He's done nothing wrong, and yet you're suspicious.

You also seem to assume a 20s woman is going to be interested in a middle aged man, when she's probably getting flooded with offers on Tinder from men her age.

Let your DH enjoy his hobby.

No sorry. Just tell him the ttruth. I know I’m being a little sensitive here but I would much rather prefer if you’d find a male tutor. It’s something I need from you.

[Anonymous]

Oh shoot! Just caught up with this chain!

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Came here about the update. OP please come tell us what happened?! How did you find out - has it been going on all year without you knowing?

OP here. I found out when he told me directly about the child. I’m still in shock.

I just read through this thread. What is the update? He WAS having an affair and they had a child together???

The OP posted on the "how you found out your spouse was cheating" thread about finding about the kid.

OP, I'm so sorry. I get that you are in shock. You don't have to make any decisions immediately. Do you have a good therapist?

I do, thank you

Do you have a good attorney? Ugh

[Anonymous]

Op, how is your sex life? Start pleasing him more and you would get an answer if he pushes you away.

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OP again. Does $300 seem reasonable for a language lesson?

A+ trolling for 7 pages, but you flew a little too close to the sun with this comment.

But really, masterclass in trolling up until this comment

+1

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He pays her in cash?!? Sorry, OP, this is not looking good.

Don’t be so dramatic. Many people get paid in cash. It is a way to avoid paying taxes on side gigs.

OP again. I agree, this is the reason for cash. He also usually pays his personal trainer and yoga instructor in cash for same reason — and they prefer it.

Wait, he takes a yoga class? That's a red flag if there ever was one.

He doesn't go to a yoga studio. It is a yoga class in his health club, which I don't belong to. He's a bit of a fitness nut. I've never met his yoga instructor, but his name is Jessie! The trainer is Riley so again, your theory is off base.

LOL, Jessie and Riley, yes, nice trolling, OP!

"OMG OP, wake up, those are both unisex names! Maybe they're actually women!"

"OP here. Wow, I never thought of that! But he told me he loves their services and the marks on his body that look like scratches are actually from the straps of the Pilates reformer. I am satisfied again with his explanations."