Say something to store manager or just keep quiet?

[Anonymous]

Over the previous few months I’ve needed to go to a large club warehouse weekly sometimes 2-3x a week to buy things for a charitable organization. This meant I saw many of the employees over and over again and would say hi, ask how they were etc. About a week before Christmas I was leaving wegmans and ran into one of the warehouse employees who recognized me and approached me saying it was funny to see me there as I’m always at the other store. He then confided in me he thinks about me a lot. This was awkward and I basically said okay and left as fast as I could. I’ve had to go to that store much less post holiday. Today I needed to go in and I had heavy items at self checkout where he happened to be working. I was offered no help with scanning the items and they’ve removed the hand scanners so I was forced to lift heavy cases of water. He did see me and gave me an uncomfortable look. I’m wondering if I should say something or not as everyone else was offered help.

[Anonymous]

What would you say? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Next time you should say “hi, could I please get help with my water”

[Anonymous]

Do people usually come in the car with you to carry your water to its final destination?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over the previous few months I’ve needed to go to a large club warehouse weekly sometimes 2-3x a week to buy things for a charitable organization. This meant I saw many of the employees over and over again and would say hi, ask how they were etc. About a week before Christmas I was leaving wegmans and ran into one of the warehouse employees who recognized me and approached me saying it was funny to see me there as I’m always at the other store. He then confided in me he thinks about me a lot. This was awkward and I basically said okay and left as fast as I could. I’ve had to go to that store much less post holiday. Today I needed to go in and I had heavy items at self checkout where he happened to be working. I was offered no help with scanning the items and they’ve removed the hand scanners so I was forced to lift heavy cases of water. He did see me and gave me an uncomfortable look. I’m wondering if I should say something or not as everyone else was offered help.

Say what? It sounds like he was kind to you and you responded with rudeness.

Are you so helpless that you can’t lift water? You chose the self checkout!

[Anonymous]

Why were you rude or weirded out?

There is an elderly woman who works at the front desk of my gym and scans me in most mornings. If I ran into her at Wegmans, what that man said to you would similarly be applicable to how I feel about this woman: she is so nice and kind in our brief daily words, and I think it would feel endearing to hear the same from her. It means connection.

You were the rude and weird one.

Next time ask for help if you need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why were you rude or weirded out?

There is an elderly woman who works at the front desk of my gym and scans me in most mornings. If I ran into her at Wegmans, what that man said to you would similarly be applicable to how I feel about this woman: she is so nice and kind in our brief daily words, and I think it would feel endearing to hear the same from her. It means connection.

You were the rude and weird one.

Next time ask for help if you need it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why were you rude or weirded out?

There is an elderly woman who works at the front desk of my gym and scans me in most mornings. If I ran into her at Wegmans, what that man said to you would similarly be applicable to how I feel about this woman: she is so nice and kind in our brief daily words, and I think it would feel endearing to hear the same from her. It means connection.

You were the rude and weird one.

Next time ask for help if you need it.

He meant it in a romantic way. Not in a friendly way.

[Anonymous]

I’d ask what’s up with the hand scanner situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were you rude or weirded out?

There is an elderly woman who works at the front desk of my gym and scans me in most mornings. If I ran into her at Wegmans, what that man said to you would similarly be applicable to how I feel about this woman: she is so nice and kind in our brief daily words, and I think it would feel endearing to hear the same from her. It means connection.

You were the rude and weird one.

Next time ask for help if you need it.

He meant it in a romantic way. Not in a friendly way.

DP. He obviously crossed boundaries when he told OP “I think about you a lot”. Store employees should not say that to customers.
That is not kindness. It is inappropriate.

For this isolated interaction, I would leave it alone, I would not try to jeopardize his job by speaking to supervisor.
Re not being helped, again if there is pattern that you never get help anymore, I would speak up.
But I suspect after the initial awkwardness, he will start to behave like a normal employee.

If not, then say something if there are 2-3 more instances where things are still not normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were you rude or weirded out?

There is an elderly woman who works at the front desk of my gym and scans me in most mornings. If I ran into her at Wegmans, what that man said to you would similarly be applicable to how I feel about this woman: she is so nice and kind in our brief daily words, and I think it would feel endearing to hear the same from her. It means connection.

You were the rude and weird one.

Next time ask for help if you need it.

He meant it in a romantic way. Not in a friendly way.

DP. He obviously crossed boundaries when he told OP “I think about you a lot”. Store employees should not say that to customers.
That is not kindness. It is inappropriate.

For this isolated interaction, I would leave it alone, I would not try to jeopardize his job by speaking to supervisor.
Re not being helped, again if there is pattern that you never get help anymore, I would speak up.
But I suspect after the initial awkwardness, he will start to behave like a normal employee.

If not, then say something if there are 2-3 more instances where things are still not normal.

They’re allowed lives after work!! He wasn’t working when he said that. I see no issue. He took his shot and OP needs to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were you rude or weirded out?

There is an elderly woman who works at the front desk of my gym and scans me in most mornings. If I ran into her at Wegmans, what that man said to you would similarly be applicable to how I feel about this woman: she is so nice and kind in our brief daily words, and I think it would feel endearing to hear the same from her. It means connection.

You were the rude and weird one.

Next time ask for help if you need it.

He meant it in a romantic way. Not in a friendly way.

DP. He obviously crossed boundaries when he told OP “I think about you a lot”. Store employees should not say that to customers.
That is not kindness. It is inappropriate.

For this isolated interaction, I would leave it alone, I would not try to jeopardize his job by speaking to supervisor.
Re not being helped, again if there is pattern that you never get help anymore, I would speak up.
But I suspect after the initial awkwardness, he will start to behave like a normal employee.

If not, then say something if there are 2-3 more instances where things are still not normal.

Grow up. People are human beings and they have feelings. She was clear that she wasn’t interested so now he is leaving her alone. But NOW she is pissed that he isn’t fawning all over her when she wants something from him? No. That’s petty and immature. Move on. People are allowed to express interest in others outside of work. How else do you think that people meet?

[Anonymous]

Isn’t it a good thing he’s keeping his distance? I think it would be inappropriate for him to approach you for anything.

[Anonymous]

Bad trolling. If you are going to make up a story, at least give us something juicy. So lame.

[Anonymous]

OP- do you think he started a campaign with his coworker not to help you?