Say something to store manager or just keep quiet?

[Anonymous]

What are you going to say?

"I saw one of your store employees on his day off when I was over near Wegmans and he told me he thinks about me!"

Come on. Grow up already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My interactions with the employee at the store were brief and friendly. Being stopped at wegmans and being told “I think about you a lot” is what scared me. If he had just asked me on a date it would have been less awkward. I had a stalker in the past which resulted in a restraining order when I was in college. Costco self checkout tells you not to put carts of waters on their check out machines due to their weight. An employee is supposed to come by and scan them for you because they no longer let you use the hand scanner yourself due to theft concerns.

He’s probably thinking of you a lot more, now. And now he feels rebuffed. Who knows what kind of man this is and what he’s capable of. I don’t know what you think telling his boss will do. He can’t be fired for awkward interactions with people he’s familiar with, outside of working hours.

[Anonymous]

He was embarrassed and tried to give you space.

[Anonymous]

This post has me wondering if in fact it’s not me after all and 90% (maybe more) of the population is completely nuts. It is so difficult to go out in public any more, every interaction with a stranger is bizarre you can’t be polite without getting nasty looks, dont say anything get nasty looks, like what on earth has happened to us, it’s scary how weird everyone is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post has me wondering if in fact it’s not me after all and 90% (maybe more) of the population is completely nuts. It is so difficult to go out in public any more, every interaction with a stranger is bizarre you can’t be polite without getting nasty looks, dont say anything get nasty looks, like what on earth has happened to us, it’s scary how weird everyone is.

I agree. Since when is it inappropriate to…talk to someone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over the previous few months I’ve needed to go to a large club warehouse weekly sometimes 2-3x a week to buy things for a charitable organization. This meant I saw many of the employees over and over again and would say hi, ask how they were etc. About a week before Christmas I was leaving wegmans and ran into one of the warehouse employees who recognized me and approached me saying it was funny to see me there as I’m always at the other store. He then confided in me he thinks about me a lot. This was awkward and I basically said okay and left as fast as I could. I’ve had to go to that store much less post holiday. Today I needed to go in and I had heavy items at self checkout where he happened to be working. I was offered no help with scanning the items and they’ve removed the hand scanners so I was forced to lift heavy cases of water. He did see me and gave me an uncomfortable look. I’m wondering if I should say something or not as everyone else was offered help.

Say what? It sounds like he was kind to you and you responded with rudeness.

Are you so helpless that you can’t lift water? You chose the self checkout!

I second that. Self-checkout? Lift your own water. Need help? Go to a register.

[Anonymous]

In my humble opinion this employee definitely crossed a professional boundary w/you. 😲
He should never have said what he did to you.

No one could blame you if you did decide to speak to his manager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over the previous few months I’ve needed to go to a large club warehouse weekly sometimes 2-3x a week to buy things for a charitable organization. This meant I saw many of the employees over and over again and would say hi, ask how they were etc. About a week before Christmas I was leaving wegmans and ran into one of the warehouse employees who recognized me and approached me saying it was funny to see me there as I’m always at the other store. He then confided in me he thinks about me a lot. This was awkward and I basically said okay and left as fast as I could. I’ve had to go to that store much less post holiday. Today I needed to go in and I had heavy items at self checkout where he happened to be working. I was offered no help with scanning the items and they’ve removed the hand scanners so I was forced to lift heavy cases of water. He did see me and gave me an uncomfortable look. I’m wondering if I should say something or not as everyone else was offered help.

Say what? It sounds like he was kind to you and you responded with rudeness.

Are you so helpless that you can’t lift water? You chose the self checkout!

I second that. Self-checkout? Lift your own water. Need help? Go to a register.

Have you never shopped at Costco? You can’t put the waters on the machine. An employee must do it with a scanner only they hold.

[Anonymous]

OP is a drama llama with boundary issues. Costco is a big store with lots of checkout lines. She stood in the line long enough to observe the man helping other people which begs the question that if her encounter at WEGMANs made her so uncomfortable why didn’t she use the time she spent in line observing. his behavior to push her cart to another line.

That man rightly steered clear of her this time her behavior in seeking to interact with him again and then coming on here to complain about his now ignoring her is disturbing. I sense that you have boundary issues and cry wolf a lot.

Grow up lady drama llama, and leave that poor Costco employee alone. Find someone on your own level to create dramatic, fantasy stalker situations with.

Maybe go make some googoo eyes at your GYN and then comeback here and report about how he’s refused to compliment you on your freshly applied who haw glitter.

[Anonymous]

The time to speak up is in the moment.

“Can I get some help over here?”

Pro tip: don’t go to self checkout when you know you’ll need help.

[Anonymous]

I had a similar experience with a grocery store employee. I would use the self checkout, he would see me and follow me to my car to ask if I needed help or would collect carts close to my car. Eventually he followed me out and gave me his phone number.

I ended up avoiding the store for about a year, then when I went back, I made sure to avoid whatever checkout aisle he was in.

I didn’t say anything to a manager because he obviously would know it was me and I was worried about retaliation.

Eventually I got a much bigger boyfriend and started bringing him with me. Do you have a husband/Bf/male friend you could bring with you a couple times?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar experience with a grocery store employee. I would use the self checkout, he would see me and follow me to my car to ask if I needed help or would collect carts close to my car. Eventually he followed me out and gave me his phone number.

I ended up avoiding the store for about a year, then when I went back, I made sure to avoid whatever checkout aisle he was in.

I didn’t say anything to a manager because he obviously would know it was me and I was worried about retaliation.

Eventually I got a much bigger boyfriend and started bringing him with me. Do you have a husband/Bf/male friend you could bring with you a couple times?

You select your boyfriends based on how much they will intimidate grocery workers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My interactions with the employee at the store were brief and friendly. Being stopped at wegmans and being told “I think about you a lot” is what scared me. If he had just asked me on a date it would have been less awkward. I had a stalker in the past which resulted in a restraining order when I was in college. Costco self checkout tells you not to put carts of waters on their check out machines due to their weight. An employee is supposed to come by and scan them for you because they no longer let you use the hand scanner yourself due to theft concerns.

Ok, so what would you do and have happen in your ideal scenario? You tell the manager and the employee gets fired? Because he’s not going to get reprimanded or have his job changed (i.e. to the back of the store) because of what he said to you outside of work. You need to find a new place to shop if his presence bothers you. If you want to complain that he didn’t help you with the waters then go ahead. I doubt the boss will care a ton because it was one interaction and there could have been multiple reasons he didn’t do so. You sound very delicate, honestly.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how to link to just the image so you the whole thread. I’m sure if this Costco worker were conventionally attractive she would not be complaining about him talking to her at Wegmans.

https://www.reddit.com/r/terriblefacebookmemes/s/kUFNTZBukJ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very surprised by this thread, you act as if what he said was not creepy. She has maybe had a few conversations with him maybe about the shopping or whatever. He ran into each other ass out of the store, so then you say, are you hungry? Do you wanna grab some coffee or something?

You don’t say: I’ve been thinking about you a lot. Maybe you say I was just thinking about you but even then they don’t have a friendship so that’s kind of weird.

That implies obsession, maybe even imagining inappropriate thoughts. I can imagine that OP was very flustered by his admonition and approach.

And now he’s staring at her? The appropriate thing would be to just pretend she’s not there like any other customer

Do not report him, do not engage, do not escalate you need to find a new fing store.

This x1000

It seems like everyone claiming this isn't creepy AF is some jarring combination of being folksy and performatively woke.

"Thinking about you a lot" is a disconcerting thing to say to someone in the context OP describes. If he was interested romantically, he could just strike up a conversation. If he was just being friendly, again, a conversation "Hi, haven't seen you in a while..."

I wouldn't report, just avoid.