Adult Failure to Launch DD Stealing from Me

[Anonymous]

DD is a failure to launch. She graduated college back in May and has been unemployed since then. I found out last week that she stole $4k from us (she doesn't live with us, she pays rent in another city) because we found that our credit card had been venmo'd to her roommate for rent money, and we saw that she spent $1k on Delta plane tickets.

HELP! We tried to file a fraudulent dispute claim with the company, but I'm not sure if it'll work out. Should we file a police report against her so she doesn't pull this insanity again?

[Anonymous]

Are you paying her rent?
How's your relationship with your daughter?

[Anonymous]

Why not just ask her for the money back? Why was she allowed to use a credit card if it has the wrong name?

[Anonymous]

I am not paying her rent. NO way. She was a barista but then got fired two weeks ago (I suspect due to her annoying and entitled personality), which was what she used to pay her rent money.

Our relationship is poor.

[Anonymous]

This is a family matter not a police matter. Not being able to find a stable job some months after graduation is NOT failure to launch. I am so glad I didn't have parents like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not just ask her for the money back? Why was she allowed to use a credit card if it has the wrong name?

We already asked her for the money back, but she obviously refused. She had written down my credit card information on a slip of paper last year and apparently had it saved for "emergencies like this."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not paying her rent. NO way. She was a barista but then got fired two weeks ago (I suspect due to her annoying and entitled personality), which was what she used to pay her rent money.

Our relationship is poor.

Based on your posts, you are more than an equal part of why you have a poor relationship. Just look at how you talk about your child.

[Anonymous]

So she's not a failure to launch if she's not living with you or dependent on you for her lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

So she just graduated, didn't find a job in her field but did find one as a barista, held that job for many months and just lost it. She doesn't seem like failure to launch to me and more in a panic about how to not be on the street due to job loss...

[Anonymous]

What she did was wrong, but you sound like an awful parent, so I guess she didn't have much of a chance to turn out OK.

I hope she does better and never sees you again.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Don't enable this report it to the police. Does she have a drug problem? Because it sounds like she does.

[Anonymous]

What did she study? If you allowed her to study something that wouldn’t lead to a job then my response will change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a family matter not a police matter. Not being able to find a stable job some months after graduation is NOT failure to launch. I am so glad I didn't have parents like you.

What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a family matter not a police matter. Not being able to find a stable job some months after graduation is NOT failure to launch. I am so glad I didn't have parents like you.

What is wrong with you?

Nothing. PP is correct. When my son graduates, he will likely do so without a job. I will not throw him out, and he will not steal from me out of desperation. He might try to get a small job to tide him over, which I will not find beneath him and if he loses it, I won't automatically think it's his fault.

I hope this is a troll thread.