Options for dead bedroom

[Anonymous]

If couples therapy and divorce are excluded. What do people do? Do they justify cheating or not yet?

[Anonymous]

If divorce isn't an option, then you can do whatever you want.

I assumed you're in more of a parenting marriage where you both know you don't have intimate feelings for one another. There's no such thing as cheating in such a situation.

[Anonymous]

Define dead bedroom.
Some people here say once a week is dead bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.

Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If couples therapy and divorce are excluded. What do people do? Do they justify cheating or not yet?

There's no such thing as "justified cheating". Decent people never cheat. They either discuss open marriage with their spouse and come to a mutual agreement on terms, or they divorce.

Similarly, there is no amount of time without sex that justifies cheating to a person who doesn't cheat, and a cheater will use any length of time, or even none at all.

So your ethical options are: tough it out, open the marriage/consensual non-monogamy, or divorce (which you say is excluded). You could also be a low-integrity POS person and cheat, in which case, there's no circumstance or set of circumstances that justify that behavior. Just go cheat, if that's who you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.

Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.

Finding a side partner is a good way to spread your unaddressed issues to someone else, and pick up some of their unaddressed issues/illnesses in the process. Stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.

Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.

Finding a side partner is a good way to spread your unaddressed issues to someone else, and pick up some of their unaddressed issues/illnesses in the process. Stupid.

Still sounds better than whatever issues you have.

[Anonymous]

Why isn't divorce an option? I'm sure you can snap your fingers and find any guy you want. And I'm sure you have your money and your career will take off once the "man child" is no longer in the picture.

[Anonymous]

You need to figure out the cause of dead bedroom before you can move on to determining the best options.

[Anonymous]

Open relationship. It isn’t cheating if it’s known, boundaries are set and adhered to then neither divorce or counseling are needed because there is consent

[Anonymous]

What is the reason for the DB?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If couples therapy and divorce are excluded. What do people do? Do they justify cheating or not yet?

There's no such thing as "justified cheating". Decent people never cheat. They either discuss open marriage with their spouse and come to a mutual agreement on terms, or they divorce.

Similarly, there is no amount of time without sex that justifies cheating to a person who doesn't cheat, and a cheater will use any length of time, or even none at all.

So your ethical options are: tough it out, open the marriage/consensual non-monogamy, or divorce (which you say is excluded). You could also be a low-integrity POS person and cheat, in which case, there's no circumstance or set of circumstances that justify that behavior. Just go cheat, if that's who you are.

Trapping a spouse in a dead bedroom marriage is more immoral than cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define dead bedroom.
Some people here say once a week is dead bedroom.

NP.

The consensus among therapists is fewer than 12 instances of coitus over a continuous 12-month period = a sexless marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.

Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.

Finding a side partner is a good way to spread your unaddressed issues to someone else, and pick up some of their unaddressed issues/illnesses in the process. Stupid.

Still sounds better than whatever issues you have.

Integrity, you mean?